How do you deal with death?

Answer 1

I think dealing with death is being as prepared as possible for death. We should make the most of this human life to undestand things we would not be able to understand in other life forms. We don't have much guarantee that we will have a human form in our next life. We also cannot guarantee that we will be remember anything about our identity in this life.

Answer 2

I lost my wife early this month and I am still coping with the fact that now Iam all alone with our two year old son.

How do you deal with death of someone who was so much a part of your life that you almost never could imagine any minute without that person?

I have to admit that you will at a point take a step back from the immediateness of the event and look at life from a higher altitude. Your goals in life and the time span within which you will want to achieve the same change. You will realize your own vulnerability to the eventual end that you will go to - death.

So net-net death is an event which is like a huge bump on a freeway which richochets you off on a new tangent exposing you to options, possibilities, challenges and learning which are completely new.

Dealing with death is like dealing with a change...you begin with irrevernt resistance to the change which finally caves into acceptance and like a creeper you begin to develop around the truth.

I see my life changing very fast before me. My goals now are centered around my son and a feverish want to complete responsibilities as early as possible so that I am free to return to my wife.

Sometimes I feel like a kid who was left out of the school trip just because he reached a few minutes late at the busstop.

I dont know what prompted you to ask this question...but the answers will get personal...

Answer 3

I do not know how old you are or where you are but I will try to answer your question. I have found you must remember that you have been dying since the day you were born, as such dying is no surprise. I do not think you need to involve yourself in religion etc. unless you want to. Think about what you have accomplished in life, the good things you have done. We all have something to be proud of. A lot of people think it is up to the healthy or non dying to support us as we move down life's road. That is wrong. If we approach death angry and bitter we will only take it out on those around us. You know what that gets you in six month after death. All people remember of you is what a jerk you were and no one ever remembers unpleasant things.

Our immortality lies in the memory of our children and friends. As someone told me " Life is a *****. We get old and die." So when things start to feel intolerable do not dwell on it in away celebrate it and the life you have lived. Give thanks for the family you have raised and the friends you have gained. While you are thinking of that thoughts of death seem a lot less scary.

Ido not know if this will help you but it works for me. Just wake up every morning and say thank you for the opportunity to go one more day and use it to the best.

Answer 4

It is just another part of life, but everyone must deal with death in their own way. Some people cry for days; others show no emotion and keep everything bottled up inside. I try to remember the person before they died. But grief I believe is a very personal thing.

Answer 5

Are you aking because you are looking for your own ansswer, or just out of curiosity? Consideration of our own mortality is something we humans spend a lot of time on. I understand why so many believe that we go around more than once in this world. Fear is a powerful motivator in their belief system. You know, if you don't get it right the first time, at least you'll get other shots at it. It allows for a 'sort of' belief in God, or a god, who requires us to earn the right to finally get to spend eternity in peace with him/her. After all, if we can earn it, we've got a chance, and if we get it wrong, well, we'll just have to try harder the next time around. That's a lot easier to believe in than a God Who loves us and wants us to spend eternity with Him. My God doesn't require us to get it right, just to get Him. Jesus said "I Am the Truth, and The Light. No man cometh to the Father except through Me." That means that I do not have to wonder about death. I believe in Him, therefore I can rest assured that He has taken care of all the rest, including when, where, and how I leave this world, and what comes next. Incidently, He did leave us a road map, and it's gonna be a great adventure!!

Answer 6

When someone I love dies, I have to deal with missing her/him. I have no beliefs to console me. I'm curious about life including death. I've been extremely close to death before, and it made me appreciate life fully, the way I always should have. To summarize: I deal with death by truly living.

Answer 7

Thanks to my experiences and religious back ground I don;t really think of it as death. I will miss the person sorely but I know I will see them later on. They do on occasion come to visit this earthly plain and if I'm paying attention, will feel their presence every now and then. I had a sweet little dog for 12 years. She finally got so sick I had to put her to sleep. She comes to visit every now and again. She had this funny habit of trembling when she was nervous. When I get woke up in the middle of the night
and my bed is just - well - "trembling" is the only word to describe it. I know she has come to say "hi"! Once I acknowledge that she's there and greet her my bed stops shaking!

Answer 8

Accept is part of Life.

I lost my husband in 2004. It hurt a LOT!!! But, I've cowboyed up and now I'm ok.

I KNOW that when the Spirit Crosses Over it's a GOOD thing...as long as the death is not a suicide!!! My next lifetime here on this Earthly Plain WILL be better than this one.

Answer 9

hmm, we do not know if you are referring to a closed one's death or....?

If he/she is your closed one, allow yourself to cry when you feel like crying, etc. Talk to your friends if you really need a listening ear. Don't bottle everything up to yourself, sometimes you'll need a "place" for relief, if not you might not be able to take all the emotions one day and "explode"(break down), and we all do not wish for that to happen.
Sooner or later you will have to face the reality, and then move on with life. We all have to move on..

I lost my aunt in 2004, and I have moved on. Once in awhile(like recently?), I will still see her in my dreams and the dreams just feel so real. It's like she came to visit me, and I knew she was happy to see me. I misses her.

On the other hand, if you are referring to one facing one's death, do use the remaining time to fulfil your wishes one by one, spend more time with your family and friends, tell them you love them, so that when you leave this world, you'll have no regrets.

If you need help, try finding someone to talk to. There are alot of books on dealing with death available in the library. (This is if you are referring to death of a closed one.) For example, there is a Chicken Soup book on "Grieving Souls" or something like that, I can't really remember the title of the book.

Answer 10

Death is the time in life where face judgment. We live with partial truth all of our lives: incongruent philosophies, ever-changing and conflicting truisms. Institutions that lie to us and we believe and follow untruth. Since in the universe, all segments obey the laws of truth--things seen and unseen, we must venture to the bridge where we begin our journeys into the unseen realm. For us to do that we must remove our earth suits. How we lived covertly and overtly will determine how we progress or digress.

Frank F.