I was talking to a friend today over the phone and certain parts of our conversation led me to believe that he was lying to me. I know if someone is lying to me when we are face to face, but does anyone out there know how to figure out if someone is lying to you over the phone?
For example, stammering, taking a long time to respond to a question, etc.
2006-09-25 17:03:43 · 23 answers · asked by Kat 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If a person would try to fool GOD who sees all and knows all, you can't expect anything less for yourself, my point is you will never always be able to tell when someone is lying to you but GOD does so put your trust in him and not people because they will let you down every time.
GOD Bless
2006-09-25 17:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by bclbbj 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Those examples sound good but I'm not sure the average Joe can tell if someones lying over the phone. I have seen a couple of my friends lie and make faces over the phone and the person on the other end was clueless.
2006-09-26 01:15:14 · answer #2 · answered by Heather S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it would depend on the person. Just like everyone has their own telling tics in poker. Everyone has their own telling tics in lying. For example, when I was a child I had a friend that always scratched the bridge of her nose with a hooking motion of her pointer finger when she lied. (Drove me crazy, As a matter of fact.) I dont know that their would be one sure tell or tic that would apply to everyone in the general population. You need to get to know your potential forked tonguer to tell.
As far as your conversation with your friend, your conversation just simply might have entered a zone that made him/ her uncomfortable, embarrassed or in some way put on the spot. There are lots of things that can cause someone to choke up or pause aside from lying. Give your friend the benefit of a doubt. Generally people are just trying to get by from day to day and survive. Most have no malicious intent. Relax and dont read too much into things. You'll become paranoid.
BTW, TOMGAR, I use the words "but" and "well" all the time and I am VERY HONEST AND TRUTHFUL. I use them for accuracy in what I say, as a matter of fact, to avoid over-generalization by mentioning any possible conditions, exceptions etc . . . . "But" and "Well" , certainly do not equal lying.
To luisa, the behavior you mention could also be associated with being distracted. For example, I have a 1 year old, when she's fussing and someone is talking to me on the phone, I can easily be stretched too thin. I am forced to temporarily ignore the conversation to tend to my child. However, just as you sometimes still are to a degree aware of what's going on on TV even when focusing on something else, I'm still TRYING not to be rude to the person on the phone by losing track of what they are saying. Therefore, in this juggling act, it is not unusual for me to recount the last thing the person I speaking with said to me to book mark the conversation and to get myself / my mind back on track with what's being said or asked as I struggle to appease my daughter as well.
This has been a very interesting question. No wonder misunderstandings occur so very frequently in communication.
2006-09-26 00:16:39 · answer #3 · answered by tigerzntalons 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The dead giveaway is if they repeat your question. For example:
You: Where did you go last night?
Him: Where did I go last night?"
You: Yeah, where were you?
Him: Where was I? I was at John's house.
They repeat the question in order to buy time and think of an answer. It's something that's done without them realizing it. It happens in person or on the phone.
The second big one is saying "honestly" or truthfully." Such as, "Honestly, I could never imagine cheating on you." People hardly ever use that word when they're telling the truth!
Other clues could be telling you to "hang on" a lot, saying there's another call coming in, that they have to call you right back, etc.
2006-09-26 00:09:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stammering - nervious
long time answering - also playing a video game/eating ice cream/changing the oil on his car
In short - w/o highly specialized training which leads to good guesses - we can't tell over the phone anymore than we can the 'net. I admire you for being able to handle it face to face.
2006-09-26 00:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they put the word "but", in their sentence it usually means that all or part of what they said before that word was a lie. If the word well is one of the first words they use it is a lie. Example, i well the dog had to do out. Also pay attention to how they are structured, if they don't make logical sense then they are lying. I hope that is helpful :]
2006-09-26 00:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have a friend and you need to know if he's lying to you maybe you should get another friend.
In a healthy friendship you assume you're being honest with each others.....because that's what a friendship is based on.
Doing detective work seems like too much trouble to me.
2006-09-26 00:06:18 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
like you said- stammering, taking a long time to answer, also avoiding questions and using a different tone of voice. being defensive in general, or using excuses that don't seem credible. good luck!
2006-09-26 00:05:59 · answer #8 · answered by jennifer500 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rookies give signs, pros can hold it down whether on the phone or face to face. Make a gut decision!
2006-09-26 00:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would need to know what the conversation was about to really be able to answer cuz he could have been focused on something else and not really paying attention.
2006-09-26 00:07:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋