Multiple miscarriages....any advice?

Question

I just recently had my 5th miscarriage. I just want to tie my tubes and adopt a child but my husband wants to keep trying. The doctors cannot figure out what is wrong. This feeling is terrible. I cried uncontrollably.

Answer 1

Miscarriages can be due to many reasons. You must remember that the child formation in a body is not like something that is happening in a machine. There is nothing being held together by bolts and nuts. There are no screws to be tightened. The whole thing is held together by your own muscles and other results of hormones and enzyme reactions.

Your physical activities contribute to this a lot. If you strain yourself. If you wear tight body wear. If you wear high heeled shoes - all have an affect on it

Your mental condition also matters a lot. If you are depressed. If you get angry often etc affects the enzymes in your body.

The food also contributes - I know unripe pineapples affect pregnancy.

I know of a lady who spent the last 6 months in bed with knees up most of the day to avoid her 3rd miscarriage - and she succeeded.

Good Luck

Answer 2

DON'T GIVE UP! I had a friend who had several miscarriages and then she adopted. Then a few years later she became pregnant with her own child. She was suffering from endometriosus and she also had some scraping of the lining done, but she didn't get pregnant for another 10-12 months. She has three wonderful kids now. Ask God for what you want and he will deliver, whether its an adopted child or natural. Sorry for any misspellings.

Answer 3

I had 1 baby and then 2 miscarriages. I do not know what caused them and my doc ran all the metabolic test and all that and find nothing wrong. Finally after my 2rd try i got pregnant, but it was a hard pregnancy. I had to be on progesterone for the first 12 weeks to keep my hcg levels up. It sucked, but made it through. Have you tried a fertility specialist? Good luck!!!

Answer 4

I dont know wht testing you have had done but sometimes something as simple as progesterone durring the first trimester will fix this issue. I had to have it as they couldnt figure out what was wrong, except I had a hormone defecency. They put me on progesterone as soon as I found out I was pregnant and I now have a 1 year old son. Its very common to need this. The placenta dosnt take over progesterone production until the second trimester. I am now on my second pregnancy and I didnt need the progesterone this time. Good luck. and feel free to e-mail me with any questions you have.

Answer 5

Are you taking Folic Acid when you're pregnant? You might need to stay off your feet through the whole pregnancy. You didn't specify when the miscarriages occur, first trimester or later.
I know from women who could not carry a child to full term and where giving up, then took the folic acid and stayed off their feet and it finally worked. And after that first initial birth, they had more babies without any problems. You need to totally relax. One woman could not tolerate her husbands sperm, they tried in vitro and it failed, finally they decided to adopt and bingo she got pregnant and carried full term, had a little girl.
Try all these and hopefully you'll be having a baby you so rightfully deserve. Good Luck.

Answer 6

That's a hard one. :( If you feel that you simply cannot go on trying then I would stop. But make sure hubby knows why and that you can't bring yourself to do it anymore. It's a horrible feeling, I know. But maybe come to a compromise? Try maybe one more time and if no luck then perhaps you can get your tubes tied. This way you and hubby both have your way. But do not compromise your own mental health.

Answer 7

Your husband is quite insensitive! I'd tell him enough is enough! It's HIS problem that he keeps wanting to put you through this hell!!! I personally have no respect for someone who is as selfish as he obviously is.

There is no need to try to feel "fulfilled" by having a child. I had two miscarriages and had my tubes tied!!! I know what it feels like to lose a pregnancy.

Go ahead and have your tubes tied. It's YOUR body and YOUR choice!!! And realise, if you were MEANT to have kids in this lifetime, God would allow you to have them. You are apperantly one of us who is not supposed to give birth in this lifetime. It will be a LOT easier on you if you simply accept this as a part of your life and that this is the way it is and that there is nothing that can be done about it. Be happy the way you are.

If your husband won't/can't accept your decision, like I said, it's HIS problem. Do you REALLY want to continue on like this?

You need to seek professional counseling for yourself and if you think you want to stay with a man who can't accept you the way you are then marriage counseling is in order. Go even if he won't!!!!!

Answer 8

I am sorry for you loss. Adopting a child does not close the doors for having a biological child. It brings you to parenthood and also helps those children who seek parents the most. There are children crying for parents out there find them .

Answer 9

I'm not in this position but my aunt had the same thing for 3 years she had 6 mis carriages and finally said fu** it and her husband said no ! keeping trying it will happened maybe you need something for your body or a different doctors advice! I'm sop sorry for you and baby dust your way good luck!

Answer 10

I am so sorry for all your losses. I would have a little anxiety about trying again if the doctor doesn't know what's going on. I'm assuming he's done chromosomal studies on you both, and checked your hormone levels. I hope it all works out.