I just got 2 voicemail from someone that's sound like a girl that says she'll kick my ***, and the other was that I should leave my husband alone if not she'll kick my ***. I changed my # but since my husband and I have four kids together I gave him my # in case something goes wrong when he has the kids or they're with me. i don't know what to do because If I confront him about this he'll just say that she the other person woldn't do that and she did it before that's y i changed my #.
2006-09-25 16:38:08 · 14 answers · asked by Hawaiianlady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
umm I would definately confront my husband if you saved the messages i would play them back to him so he can't deny it also check his voice mail frequently to see if something fishy is going on or his email one way or the other you will be able to tell if he is with another woman or not
2006-09-25 16:41:40 · answer #1 · answered by dzjoni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd play the messages for the husband and first off see if he actually KNOWS the person. if he DOES ask what its about. if not, let it go. It could be some crazy stalker it could be someone he's having an afair with. The fact that you keep changing your number is odd. the thing that you keep getting the calls. Change it again and only give the number to your husband and the kids and tell him NOT to give it to anyone and see what happens. That's how you find out who you can trust. tell the kids that if they give out the number they will be grounded for a month. that ought to do the trick for them. make your tone serious and let them know you mean business. and you should have no problems. let hubby know you mean business as well. tell him there will BE no fave dinner until you get this phone thing taken care of. make everything he isn't too fond of but will eat. continue to have sex with him, just don't make his favorite food. make it good and edible and delicious, just not his aboslute favorite dishes. as soon as the clals stop, you cna go back to making his absolute fave dishes again. (ie, if he's a meat and potatoes man, you suddenly go vegetarian. the entire household, until the calls stop. and you tell hubby that untilt he calls stop and he starts talking, that's how it's going to be.) buy a new cookbook if you have to. if company comes, however, you'll have to go back to the regular cooking. he may get so desperate he'll bring company over every night just do have decent food.
2006-09-25 23:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by leeanndemon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should confront your husband about the two threatening phone calls since it is a serious matter. In regards to handling the phone call, I recommend contacting the police and playing the phone messages to them. In addition, you might want to look into getting a restraining order against her for both yourself and your kids. However, from how you worded it, it sounds like the person was more than a friend to your husband. One last idea is to maybe check into marital counseling on this issue, and if he does not want it, check into individual counseling to sort out the feelings brought out on the voice mail message.
2006-09-25 23:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by dawncs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you are a really young mother, or this girl is really immature. Tape the voice mails, take them down to your local police station and file a complaint against this woman. They will do an investigation (call the phone company, trace the calls) and if they are confirmed, they'll issue a restraining order. If she does it again, now that it's been reported, she'll be going to jail and have to bond herself out. It should put a stop to it.
Number one rule to survive someone who bullies is to live well and act like it doesn't bother you honey. I know it will be hard, but don't let her see you upset about this. Smile and wave as if you are long lost friends...it'll eat her up inside!
2006-09-25 23:44:56 · answer #4 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Save them and call the police. It is harassment! If he won't handle his business, then you need to. She, as well as he has now made it yours! Sounds to me like you should not be calling him your HUSBAND, but EX- HUSBAND. Take care of the situation. Think of your four kids, what if this woman is really a crazy lady, then what? Your children could be at danger! Do not over look this!
Good Luck!
Dee
2006-09-25 23:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Number one, if you have custody of the kids get a restraining order against her and if she keeps it up and you keep a log or keep track of what she is doing then you can eventually have her thrown in jail for harassment. If you are still married then i don't even see why you are still married because if you are then he is cheating and you do not have to put up with that kind of crap. On the whole i think you should keep a record of what she is emailing you and go to the police.
2006-09-25 23:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Save the voicemail and contact the authorities. It's a threat, nontheless. U can choose to tell your husband about it if u wish but I would definitely call the authorities.
2006-09-25 23:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being threatened....you have proof...call the police. You need to protect yourself and your children.
Watch how fast your husband reacts when you bring the police in on this.
2006-09-26 00:10:14 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maby she is not sure he loves her keep the message on tape then let him hear it,then if that does not work call your phone comp. and tell them the will trace it and that person will lose their phone
2006-09-25 23:55:28 · answer #9 · answered by mensert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him not to give your # to other people. AND THEN TELL HIM TO KISS YOUR***!! Kids or not you don't need someone that has no respect for you..
2006-09-25 23:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by cindy ccc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋