When i was a kid. I know under 10, my mom babysat these 2 kids and there was a baby or a little older but under 5 if not a baby ( i can't remember clearly) and i think he was sleeping. Well, i got on top and don't know if i humped. Then when i was still young. I don't know how young maybe 8-11, I put my breasts in my cousins face when she was sleeping and she was really young too. but thats all i did and with the kid i got on top of, i am like 98% sure i had clothes on but see, it makes me feel like a bad person because i would never do this now well obviously but knowing i did it now makes me feel HORRIBLE! i obsess over it and people even tell me it's normal when you're young but you hear all these people talk about rape and i can't tell myself enough it wasn't rape. Then my mom said if i go to a councellor, they will have to tell the parents of the kid even though i was a kid myself. and i was like thanks alot, now it will make it seem like i am a bad person when i was a kid! I wish there was other people who did this exact thing and tell me how they deal with it and know they arn't a bad person. Sometimes people wonder what happened to me when i was younger because of certain things and what if people wonder or the kid wonders what happened to him. I mean i am pretty sure i had clothes on but i was a kid too but knowing they would have to tell the parents makes me feel 100x worse. I feel like i shouldn't be living!! or be able to be happy.
2006-09-25 16:36:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i know it feels weird now but reallly it was normal. repeat after me " i am not a rapist. i am not a bad person" seriously, we all do weird things as a kid. we all eat dirt and pick our noses but that does not mean we are forever going to be dirt eaters and nose pickers. as long as you can realize now that it would be innapropriate to do the same thing then you are fine.
2006-09-25 16:42:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe It is not "normal" to do weird things like that as a kid but it is common. If you're still obsessing about it, you do need to talk to a counsellor, not because you did something wrong but because of the guilt you feel. How can he call that kids parents when he doesn't know who the kid is?
2006-09-25 23:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you did wasn't horrible. The fact that it still bothers you might mean that there were some other issues in your life that trouble you.
I would see a reputable counselor and explore the feelings. They are bound to be confidential. And you need not mention names.
Good luck to you!
2006-09-25 23:55:57 · answer #3 · answered by a_phantoms_rose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong, silly. You were a CHILD and it's perfectly normal for children to be curious about sex even if they aren't even sure what it is yet. Don't be so hard on yourself. I'm sure the one you got on top of doesn't even remember it and even if they did I doubt they'd connect it with a sexual act at that age. You need to stop beating yourself up over it--you're hurting yourself needlessly, sweetie :)
2006-09-25 23:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by lillith6662000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is obviously bothering you; and you are obviously not telling us everything. your counsellor is bound by confidentiality not to reveal, as far as I know, you can always call one and ask (from a pay phone if you're really paranoid, or ask on behalf of a "friend".
I think you definitely need to talk this through with a trained professional.
blessings,
cryllie
2006-09-25 23:41:50 · answer #5 · answered by cryllie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you made me laugh, sorry no offence! For God sake, how dare you judge a child?? you were absolutely completely a healthy normal curious child!! Forget about it and go on living with your life, no need to see any shrink darling, I am not generalizing, but some of them make things even worst
2006-09-25 23:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by alya m 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WELL IT IS SORT OF ODD TO DO SOMETHING LIKE THAT,
BUT U WERE CURIOUS! THAT IS PERFECTLY NORMAL!
I KNOW U FEEL AWFUL CUZ IT MAY SEEM LIKE RAPE BUT YOU WERE CURIOUS AND CURIOUSITY DOESN'T ALWAYS KILL THE CAT. GOD WILL FORGIVE YOU ( OR WHATEVER YOU BELIEVE IN ) JUST MAKE SURE U DON'T DO IT AGAIN!
NOW THAT WOULD BE RAPE!( MOLESTATION )
2006-09-25 23:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still need therapy! You might have given that poor baby nightmares and they will never know why.
2006-09-25 23:46:07 · answer #8 · answered by couchP56 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a qualified therapist, you need help.
2006-09-26 11:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by lpaganus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please get therapy! your mother is right.
2006-09-25 23:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by dancingwiththestars 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋