Do u think it's better to have children very separated form one another or one right after the other?

Answer 1

My boys are almost 3 &1/2 years apart - we didn't intend it that way, but life happens. Now I wouldn't have it any other way. They adore each other (now 4 and almost 1). My older son was potty-trained, and better able to do things for himself, and loves to "help" with caring for his brother. And little brother reserved his first laugh for his big brother, and now tries to follow him everywhere.
As for closeness, I am the oldest of 4, with one sister only 11 &1/2 months younger, a sister 4 years younger, and a brother 5 &1/2 years younger. I am, and always have been, closer to my youngest sister. My other sister and I, although closer in age, are polar opposites in personalities, which caused much conflict in our house when we were younger!
The way you raise them, and their own personalities, will have more to do with their closeness then the years between them.

Answer 2

Physically for the Mom, at least 2 years apart.

Psychologically, studies show that the optimum age for children to be apart is 3 years. If there is more then 5 years between them, they are raised more like only children. Less then 2 years and they compete.

I have 2 brothers, one 3 years older, one 3 years younger, I am not close to either one of them. My sister is 13 years younger then I am and we are very close.

I think a lot it is in the way the kids are raised, my parents believed the world revolved around the 1st born male child, as a female, my only goal in life was to get married and give them grandchildren. My younger brother was there to serve my parents and my older brother.

We were a very dysfunctional family.

Answer 3

My mum had me at 15 my brother at 16 1/2 my other brother at 18 and my sister at 20. We were close growing up and we are even closr now, so I would say having them close is great but my mum never got a break, she still had 2 in diapers and a 3rd on the way. The big suprise is that when I turned 18 my mum and dad adopted a 2 month old baby. she is now 3 and I adore her. As soon as I pull in the driveway she runs out screaming sissy and calls my husband uncle shawn. I love us beeing so far apart because I get to spoil her. Im expecting my first and I want a chance to spend my whole time with it for at least 3 years before I think of adding. I have a stepson who is 10 and he is thrilled at the thought of having a baby brother.

Answer 4

My boys were born 22 months apart, so they're very close now that they are 2 & 4. I think 2-4 years is a good span. You should wait 2 years before getting pregnant again so your body can fully recover. My first one was 13 months old when I got pregnant again and I got lectured by my Dr on what a bad idea it was to have another baby so soon. I wouldn't space them out too far though; my sister and I are nearly 8 years apart (it wasn't intentional) and I really felt like I grew up alone because she was out on her own during those years when I really could have used some sisterly advice. We also weren't very close once she hit the teenage years because it was all about dating, clothes, makeup, school activities, and friends her age. I was too young to understand the change, so I was very lonely.

Answer 5

I think that the ideal age gap between children is two-to-four years. Having kids one right after the other can be very hard on parents, which can put a strain on the relationship with their children. Taking care of babies is extremely demanding, and it seems to make more sense to wait until child #1 is at least a little self-sufficient (i.e. potty trained, can eat on his own, etc.). However, I think when waiting longer than four years to have a second child, the age gap might cause siblings to not be as close, because it is often hard to relate to someone who is much younger or older.

Answer 6

I am a thirteen year old girl with a 26 year old brother and a 9 year old sister. I never get to see my brother because he doesn't even live with me anymore and my sister acts so immature. somtimes i just have to realize that she is 4 years younger than me. we tend to fight a lot. My friend who is also thirteen has a little brother, 1 year younger and they are like best friends. But if you want a baby sitter at home than have one a few years after the first one. There are may things to think about!

Answer 7

I personally think it's good to have kids close together...yea it's a little tougher to take care of them but as they grow up they'll get along a lot better b/c of the similar ages.....where as kids who are (examp.) 9 and 16 may not get along b/c of the difference in age...a teen wants to be alone and has to have some kind of space for themselves and a 9 yr old would want to be around all the time b/c it's cool to be with the older bro/sis.

Answer 8

It's a personal decision. I began @ 17 and had a child every 2 years until age 27. It worked for me! By the time I was 45 they were all grown and gone and I was still young. Good luck!

Answer 9

well if you have money it would be good to have children like a year or two apart that way they can grow up together. my sister and I are only a year apart and we are really close but my brother and i are 10 years apart and we do not get along. but if you are not financially stable it is better to wait a while.

Answer 10

I like the idea of having the about 2 years apart. It is good timing to me. Not to close but not so far that they are in completely different places.