Well.. my problem is SUPER hard to explain, but i'll try: I idealize everything. I idealize women, friendship, i mean.. everything and i do it automatically. In addition, this has given me several problems and desilutions. Other thing i wanna say: I do everything, i'm cool, i'm funny, i speak 3 languages, i play excelent almost any sport, i drum very well, i'm super handosome, i got a LOT of friends, and i'm an excelent family, and i'm a very good, excelent person. i got almost everything, but i feel that i don't recieve the recognition and admiration i diserve, and that makes me sad. But deep inside me I think that by doing all that i SHOULD be admired by everyone like some sort of "god" :S. and since i don't recieve the grade of admiration i think i diserve i'm not happy. Lately NOTHING satisfies me. I'm always wanting more and more of wish i have. I'm not studing in school. I just wanna love what i have in life and live it. How can i stop this irrational thoughts?
2006-09-25 16:22:04 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
another thing that i missed: i worry TOO much about what other ppl think of me. Like if was some sort of Superstar that no one can see making errors and i'm tired of it! i'm tired of being dependent of what other think about me.
2006-09-25 16:27:09 · update #1
May I take a guess? (probably wrong - but perhaps right - let me know if I am too please) You are a Libran and expect equality. You notice the great things people do (but do they know how much you recognise their positive aspects? well if they do because you show or tell them, it means you want to offer others what you need - you are concerned for others, in this case remember - not all people are as intuitive as you nor do they note the needs of others.) However, if you d not express to them your admiration then how do you know that they also admiire you and like you, keep quiet about it. Or are just not as expressive of their emotions. You seem to be trying to hard to get people to recognise you? why? you have just mentioned all of the god points about yourself - why do you need the approval of others to validate this? You are strange like me, you have both an extremly low self - esteem, but you know your qualities and because you recognise others qualities you expect the same in return, I feel the same. Did you ever think you may be trying too hard to please others as that can be a turn off - you may come accross too needy I know I do. Or perhaps because of your many talents people do not see any reason for showing you praise or recognition? for it may seem to them you are secure?? Thinking you are a God is huberous, dangerous and I believe wrong - Such 'irrational' thoughts may be due to isolation and having too much time to think, You are feeling a lack of satisfaction because you are trying to impress others , impress yourself - don't let obsessive compulsive thoughts take over, stop thinking about what yourself and what you want and step outside of your own mind, it is here you will find satisfaction. I may be wrong but I hope I helped a little, if you want to continue conversations and have me counsil you thrugh this confusing time email knardi20@yahoo.com.au P.S I think all of these talents you have are fantastic, I wish I had even one of your abilities - congratulations for putting in so much effort, but my favourite thing about you is that you admire others, want fairness, and are self reflective. Instead of thinking about what all these talents do or dn't do for yur ego - try thinking about how your qualities and talents can make the world a better place?? If you need a quick ego boost go to ebay search for land, there will be a company that offers fishing rights and you own piece of land in the Lochabar (spelling) estate scottland - it costs $50 but as the owner of land in this area you have the right to call yourself Laird (Lord) whoever. I am Lady Karen
2006-09-25 17:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by ym 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you've got a pretty good life. Also, I have felt this way before, but not consistently, so I don't know if what I do will help you. I look at myself in the mirror and I talk to myself about everything that is bothering me and then I try to give myself an answer. BUT I talk to myself as if the person in the mirror were not my reflection, but some other person with all these problems (you can see yourself talking, which, in my head, I turn the situation around, so that they have all the problems and I'm helping them). Also tell yourself a few times "I DO NOT need other people's approval" and do things that you want to do/say that you also know will get on other people's nerves {you're proving to yourself you don't need their approval by doing something they don't want to to be doing saying}(and do it on purpose, that's a lot of fun [just don't over do it, you don't wanna lose your friends]) I hope this helps.
2006-09-25 16:39:44 · answer #2 · answered by Asterisk_Love♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you stop this irrational thoughts? mmmmm
You are not irracional, maybe too much for yourself
Do often something meaningful for others, with a YOU and not a ME ME ME!
If you idealize, is because you are not attached to the real world.. maybe you dont like your girls to be themselves, maybe you hate people that do things in a different way... so you need to change your opticals, be in tehir shoes, and TRY, pleae TRY to compare your way with others...
For example, you say you play very good, i mean excellent any sport.. well, get to the park, grab a ball and bet $100 to anyone that dares to confront you in a game... after you loose a couple hundreds.. you will notice life is different.
The other thing you must consider, is that not much people is confortable recognizing every time they see you how good you are, or how handsome.... do you do that constantly towars other people surrounding you....
By the way.. I admire your paragraph,,, was nice!
2006-09-25 16:43:49 · answer #3 · answered by TuyoMio.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you once said not to-day and did an job,task or so that exicits you an once found declare it along as a hobby Remember you can't please everyone "Sorry for that!" If you a car go for a short or lenghtly drive or suggest to someone that togo! then with hopes things fall in place and you won't need or can forget anti-depressants but old saying says to girls etc. 'onestep at a time!'
2006-09-25 16:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by David H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got a superiority complex. Get over yourself.
2006-09-25 16:42:21 · answer #5 · answered by boo! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋