We've been knowing each other almost a year, i want more out of the relationship he dosen't he calls us friends wit benefits, he says i dont express my feelings enough we argue to make up break up to get back together I'm tired but i really care for this perosn he says he love me but not in those words im confused i dont know exactly how to express all of my feeling to him because i dont want to be the one hurt but then again we are friends wit benefits is this relationship really worth all of this
2006-09-25 16:19:02 · 15 answers · asked by niquee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
let's be real... you and i bothn know that friends with benifits is just that. Friends with sex on the side. Ther is no real commitment in this relationship. Now, it sounds to me that someones feeling are already hurt. I think the best thing you can do is step back... talk to him with out sex. Let him know that this is not working for you. you have developed feelings that you didn't think you would and that you need more than a convient booty call. let him know that you feeling have gotten twisted in to this. If he loves you his response should be simular to wanting more also. if he doesn't he'll find excuses for why what you have is better than a relationship. Take it from some one who has been there honey.... holla back at me to let me knoew the out come- k.bolling1982@yahoo.com
2006-09-25 16:25:29 · answer #1 · answered by k.bolling1982 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the expression "why buy the cow when the milk is free" I know it is a really crud expression, but it is oh so true, If he can have sex with you without having an exclusive relationship with you, hey, why not.
Tell him you want more and cut him off. If he doesn't want more,it is time to move on. I know you will hurt for some time but eventually you will move on and find someone who wants the same thing as you in a relationship.
2006-09-25 16:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you don't make up to break up...You can't break up with a guy you aren't actually with...Second, he can't say he loves you if he isn't saying it in those words. To be honest, it sounds to me like you have fooled yourself into believing that things are close to being somewhat what you want and you have settled for that just to keep him around. He doesn't want to give you what you want which is a commitment and you are choosing to accept that. You have to decide if you are worth the commitment or not, but he is never going to give you one if you keep settling for him not giving you one...You also have to accept that if you leave, he might call your bluff and never commit...Because he doesn't actually want to be with you anyways...He just wants to stay your friend...WITH BENEFITS...which gives him the right to talk to any other girl he might want to...even though at this time he probably isn't...but if he does, you can't get mad, because even though you have those benefits...you are still only friends!!
2006-09-25 16:24:03 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i like about this question is that at least you are thinking on your feet.if you continue in this relationship after he's told you the benefit thing then you have a worse self esteem than is coming across.let me take this opportunity to talk to all women.the air we breath is because of you.once you know this you will only allow men into your life who appreciate this and come into you life to adore you.
2006-09-25 16:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing I found confusing about your story is "he says I don't express my feelings enough". From what it sounds like, he doesn't seem to want you to. It sounds like you've tried to talk about your relationship, and he doesn't want it to move forward. Tell him that he's leading you on and if he doesn't want you, then he needs to let you go so you can move on with your life. If he truly cares about you as much as you do him, then he'll either commit or let go and move forward himself.
I think you already know what to do. It's just that you have to do it.
2006-09-25 16:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell him how u feel n that ud like a realationship that is just more than freinds with benefits, n if he truelly lieks u he will do this for u n if he cant except that u should stay freinds n dont give him any or never see him again iure choice again
2006-09-25 16:36:07 · answer #6 · answered by snooppoopaloop69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Benefits?
Then all he wants is "Benefits"...and nothing more.
If you cannot live with that...then you could just find someone else who thinks the benefit of having you for life is the best deal around.
2006-09-25 16:22:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there is no sense of commitment here. You should find a guy who wants you for you ,not for the "benefits".
2006-09-25 16:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, remember this You are just a friend to him with Benefits, get rid of the dude...find some one that will respect you for who you are..you are accepting his actions and he will continue this behavior..he won't change..you are just his booty call...give yourself credit, say NEXT...to him...
2006-09-25 16:25:06 · answer #9 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not worth it as long as he is a friend with benefits.
2006-09-25 16:22:19 · answer #10 · answered by Niki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋