she started her period 15/8 after i made love to her, she says that she is late and had a prego test and it came back positive, she is excited but im not as excited as i thort i would be. Im 20 yrs old and have no idea what im doing. she wants to keep the baby because her and her family wants to, but im just a little paniced and scared. HELP IM FREAKING OUT.... I HAVE SO MANY QUESTIONS.... so i thort i would seek help from woman who have been there, some one help... please
2006-09-25 16:15:43 · 23 answers · asked by Justin 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i love her and everything and i'm not going to leave her, i want to support her but im probable more scared then what she is
2006-09-25 16:19:57 · update #1
we both consented and we wernt fooling around, 6 weeks ago i was prepared for the concequences but now im just scared, and i dont want to scare her, i want to be there in any way possible...
2006-09-25 16:22:33 · update #2
both parents are helping out, and we both spoke about it, i always use protection and she asked me not to this time because se wanted a baby, she is 18, we are moved in together and both sets of parents are willing to help, there all excited but im not... i feel stupid...
2006-09-25 16:29:53 · update #3
please dont get me wrong i an a responcible person for my age, i do want this baby im just freaked, i have enough $$$ to suport 2 families for a year so moneys no object, i love her and my new unborn child
2006-09-25 16:37:14 · update #4
Dude, don't freak out. People have been doing this for a long time. You're young, but you CAN MAKE IT. You will have what it takes to take care of your family. What it takes is love, self-sacrifice, and commitment, and when you see that baby, all those things will just come rushing out of your heart. All the practicalities... you can figure them out.
2006-09-25 16:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your comment "she wants to keep the baby" got me. You guys made the decision to have the baby when you had sex. You're 20, you are old enough to know this. I don't want to sound harsh (I'm 21 with a 1 year old, so I've been there) but what's done is done. Abortion is just another word for murder. Anyway, now that I got that off my cheast, I know that's not what you are wanting to talk about. You'll be fine. Having a baby is the most wonderful thing in the world. Sure, it's going to require you to be more responsible, but, you are an adult, you should be working towards all that anyway. Children are the greatest gifts in the world, and although, at time, it may seem like it is so hard, in the end, it pays off. You can earn money, buy things, go places...but in the end, all you have is family. You've already started your family now, so prepare and enjoy it, those kids will be the ones there to take care of you one day.
2006-09-25 23:27:50 · answer #2 · answered by Serious Answers 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be thankful that she has a supportive family and you care for her as much as you do. If you have fears about having a baby, then you are no different than anyone else...including her I am sure. Being that you are 20, then you are not in an ideal situation, but find comfort in the idea that things will workout because you have no other choice. It will be hard and you will have so many hard times up ahead, but you also will have so much joy ahead of you. Your child is what your life is about now, and that gives you something few 20 year olds will be able to benefit from. You now have a purpose in driving yourself to success. Take this situation and make it keep you focused and determined to be successful.
2006-09-25 23:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by eyellnevrtell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through this right now, although it seems to be reversed. My fiance is so very excited and I am too, it's just that I wanted to have my big wedding and finish school and get my life together more before bringing another child into this world. I have my days when I'm very excited then I have my worried days. My fiance is excited, but doesn't seem to understand the responibilities(he keeps talking about all the guns he wants to buy and I keep reminding him that we can't afford it) that come with the baby. His family is very excited about our future child, but my parents are upset about it. They don't want me to have another child right now because they don't think that I can take care of another. Everything will be ok. I promise. It just takes some time to adjust and come to grips with the pregnancy. You'll be a great dad and just remember that. If you need anything else feel free to email me a1dermommy@yahoo.com. Good luck!!
2006-09-25 23:40:01 · answer #4 · answered by a1dermommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the other side of your bundle of joy is mostly A LOT OF WORK!!! But it can be very rewarding.
I also got my present wife unexpectedly pregnant when we were younger, and it took patience, compromise, foregoing some of what youth brings, working as a team, and consistency. That baby will be a blessing but you need to outline a plan, talk with both sets of parents and not let yourself (or her) get held back from higher education and success. It is possible but you have brought on a variable that many folks have not been able to deal successfully with, and many young couples don't end up together in the long run. Keep your head up and remember that God rarely burdens someone with more of a load than he/she can bear. Good Luck.........wait, no....make it happen!
2006-09-25 23:32:47 · answer #5 · answered by dingbat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first of all, the baby isn't coming tomorrow, so don't freak out. I think we get 9 months so that we can get used to the idea that our lives will change forever.
You'll be fine. It will be stressful and crazy, but if she's happy, you need to help her with that. Things will get hard for her since so many things will be changing with her body, she really needs your support for her. Yes, the baby will effect your life when he or she comes, but it is effecting her life right now.
Granted, if you weren't ready for a baby, you should't of had sex, but that is done and thinking about that won't change anything.
You and your girlfriend really need to lean on each other now. From experience, if she's happy about being pregnant, she doesn't want to hear that you don't want this now. She'll want to hear that you'll support her and love her through this, and that even though this baby is a surprise, he or she is wanted. If you're upset, try talking to a trusted family member or friend.
Stop freaking out, you have a few months to come to terms with this and to prepare. You're a grown up, you'll be fine.
2006-09-25 23:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by Greenis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will feel scared you are young and now you are going to be a dad, their is a lot that will change,you will to,just think about how much this baby will need you and love you,i now that you have just started to live and enjoy life but it does not have to be the end,just take one day at a time and let this be a great time for new thing in your life,just think your baby could be the next president,love each other and be their don't think about it every minute good luck
2006-09-25 23:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by mensert 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its normal that u are scared right now! its a BIG thing! ur not the only one trust me! and it is great that u have suport from yalls family's! you seem like u would be a GREAT father!!! i wish u ur girlfreind and ur unborn child the best of luck! and remeber when u start getting nervuos and scared just think how big the payoff will be haveing a part of u look up to u everyday and call u dad and no that ur child will always love u!
2006-09-26 00:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by brittany1121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I havent been pregnant before but i know it logical for you to be paniced right now but give it time in the end your gonna have a baby thats the best thing anyone could ever give you in life so insted of FREAKING out be happy and just think about the future and how happy all of you are going to be together....
2006-09-25 23:23:16 · answer #9 · answered by Laura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its only natural for a person to have mixed feelings about being responsible for another life. Trust me I felt the same way when it happened to me! But once the baby comes and you get him/her home you are overcome by a greater feeling of "Ah I did that!" And may at times find yourself smiling. Keep your head up and don't let anyone tell you that it's not hard because it is. But you will see that for every bad moment you have you get 3 great ones! :) Congratulations!
2006-09-25 23:30:23 · answer #10 · answered by The Green EYED 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋