I started having a re-occuring terrible dream @ 6-7 mos ago. that my bfriend was having an affair w/ this chick we work w/ & I told him at that time & he swore up & down that there was no way, & offered to go to counseling w/ me because I was like, waking up from this dream & crying & going crazy like, why is this in my head?( He has always treated me great & I never had any evidence to believe something was happening) but, I cant help to think of the motto Ive heard out there-;"go w/ your gut"or, "your instincts will tell you the truth" anyway, ever since then i have the dream occasionally & why do you think this is happening?
2006-09-25 16:12:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Jealousy, insecurity....he and she at one time giggled and you saw it......feeling left out....or some other happening.
If you trust him. Then let it go....if not...maybe you alone should seek counseling.
2006-09-25 16:19:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of times your dreams can be things you fear the most or sometimes things you wish would happen more than anything. But in this case it's a fear. I've had some pretty wierd dreams. Sometimes I dream about different ex boyfriends. I wouldn't think too much about it. Just tell him your dream and that you've had it more than once and see what his response is. If you still feel bad or have the dream again, stop by his work sometime and suprise him on his break or something to see if the girl in your dream works there or not. I've had two or three dreams that my car got stolen or something happened to it. I just moved to a new state. I guess it means that I feel a strong connection to my car and it's the only thing I really have control over because I live with my boyfriend's parents right now. Sometimes dreams don't make any sense at all. Just keep strong communication with your boyfriend. I hope you find your answer and that he's not cheating on you. :)
2006-09-25 23:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow honey, you need to ask what is going on within yourself. This dream doesn't point fingers at someone's wrong doing. This dream is about your own personal insecurities. Go back in your life to about six or seven months ago....what changed? What was going on in your life when you had the dream? These are things you need to be asking yourself....especially if there is no rhyme or reason for you to believe any of this. Our dreams are the way our subconscience deals with our problems. Being that you are having the same dream over and over again, you haven't come to terms with underlying issues. Lucky for you, this is curable. Go to bed thinking about your dream. Think of ways you could solve the problem in your dream...your mind will work it out while you sleep and soon enough this dream will hopefully be a thing of the past.
2006-09-25 23:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear ,I still do this im married 6 years ,but I know my reasons ,let me ask you these questions and be honest with yourself ,has he ever cheated on you ?have you been cheated on before ?and are you jealous ?has someone in the family caused great distrust ?now my reasons are im a jealous type woman cant seem to help it .and he did have a affair once on me ,but even before this I dreamed and would wake up so darn mad at him it seemed so real .like I said ask yourself some questions if you are even alittle jealous this could be why ,so there really is nothing to do but before you lay down to sleep tell yourself he loves me and no other ,dont let this stay in your mind .good luck .
2006-09-25 23:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your insecure with your relationship....maybe he's a natural flirt which by no means is wrong it's natural after all and it's something that everyone does without realizing they are doing it...you may have seen this and not known what you were seening maybe he's over frendly and it's projecting back throu your dreams and your seeing him cheat when he's not....
2006-09-25 23:21:36 · answer #5 · answered by sweetnessa_99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it is your intuition coming out in your dreams. If your gut is telling you something seems fishy, something is fishy. If there's any possibility (not based on his denial) that he is cheating, I'd tell himj about the dreams and if I didn't feel 100% better about the conversation that followed, well... after experience, I can say I'd leave him.
2006-09-25 23:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dreams often speak to your insecurities. Sounds like you are feeling like your relationship is vulnerable to an outside attack. Ask yourself why you don't trust him and if you think you have reason not to trust him, why are you with him?
2006-09-25 23:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by all1g8r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are just having the dream because him cheating on you is just a fear. It doesnt have to mean that you are having the dream because he is in fact cheating. i think its just a fear of yours
2006-09-25 23:16:35 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
down deep you must be worried live in the real world and be awake and watch and see but hes probably true to you but if you keep buggin him who knows
2006-09-25 23:16:27 · answer #9 · answered by terri e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is like totally one of the biggest run-on sentences I have ever seen. I weep for America....
2006-09-25 23:19:19 · answer #10 · answered by buckobuckobucko 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋