My girlfriend cheated on me this past summer, she gave a man oral sex while away on a trip to mexico to build a home. It's been almost 3 months, and she just now told me. It only lasted a few minutes, and she refused to see him after or talk to him because she felt "dirty"
We're already working on a long distance relationship, so what should I do?
I would have never known if she did not tell me, and I do truly love her. Any ideas?
2006-09-25 16:09:05 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dump her, if you think about it, everytime you kiss her, you'd be kissing that Mexican's guy you-know-what.
2006-09-25 16:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by Fraspas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A woman who intentionally cheats on her man will never ever tell her man about this. In your girlfriend's case, she voluntarily told you about it because she wanted to be very honest with you. May be, her guilt feeling prodded her to do that.
No one is perfect. We are all sinners in our own right. But she is a sinner who realizes her wrong doing and her act of telling you about her sin is a mere act of asking for forgiveness.
If you really love her, forgive her with all your heart. At least, she was not used by that man sexually which could have been something that would haunt you forever if she becomes your wife. Your understanding and forgiveness will be like rain that will shower her and make her realize that she should love you more for being a very loving and understanding man. That way, I believe that she will refrain from doing the same. Don't let that bad experience ruin your relationship. Tell her that you give her back your trust and that you never have ceased loving her despite that incident.
If she really loves you, that experience will be like a ghost which will give her the fear of losing you. Assure her that you will never bring back that issue as you move on with your relationship. Give her all the best love and understanding that you could give her, and I'm sure that the best love and understanding from her will come back to you. All the best.
2006-09-25 23:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on honey, your better than her. Long distance relationships are hard enough, with out the added thought of cheating. She broke the trust and without trust, there is no relationship. It took her 3 months to tell you this time. Next time it will be 6 months and after that it will take a paternaty test to find out, you don't deserve that. Find someone worth the love you have to give. Good luck
2006-09-25 23:17:19 · answer #3 · answered by JackieH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was cheated on by my ex. after we had been together for 2years. he didnt tell me i found out. i ended it with him and he keep begging for a second chance and told me how sorry he was and he couldnt be without me. we got back together and we had alot of problems coz the trust wasnt there anymore. we fought alot and two years later he ended it. it is hard to say what to do. but i found it is hard to trust someone after they have done that and it doesnt matter how much you love them
2006-09-25 23:21:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her and want to continue to be with her, then you need to truly forgive her and move on. Forgiving her means not bringing it up, throwing it in her face later, or distrusting her - forgive her from the bottom of your heart and tell her that you forgive her.
2006-09-25 23:11:42 · answer #5 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to the club man.
things happen for a reason and your lucky you are not yet married with this girl and have children. maybe your not meant for each other.
Its all up to you dude if you can completely forgive her and forget her bl0w job adventure if not, just go find another. it'll just cause both of you a lot of pain in the future.
2006-09-25 23:16:19 · answer #6 · answered by say_what!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all most girls, women cheat. get used to it.
your girlfriend at least has some remorse. and seems to want to be with you. I say give her another chance because she was open to tell you the truth and seems to feel guilty and probably won't do it again . good luck
2006-09-25 23:13:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her. Once a cheat......always a cheat. Find you a nice girl!
2006-09-25 23:10:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a question of trust...Do you believe she will cheat on you again? You have to make up your mind...
2006-09-25 23:13:55 · answer #9 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pal. if she did this once she wont hesatate to do it again you can do better than that in my opion. once a cheater always a cheater . be glad you arent married to her. find a decent girl in my opion?
2006-09-25 23:32:01 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋