when u have been in a long term relationship?
i was in a relationship for over 4 years and we loved each other. can u just not love someone anymore and just care for them? does love die? one week he told me he still has feelings for me and the next week he says he doesnt love me anymore? is this normal?
2006-09-25 16:07:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like he is super confused as to what he really wants. After 4 years you should know that this is the person you are going to be with, so if he keeps giving you wishy washy answers, the best thing was to break up. Take your time and move on and find a guy that KNOWS everyday that you are the one, not just when he feels like it.
2006-09-25 16:12:08 · answer #1 · answered by qtee425 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the end of a long term relationship, his reactions about sum it up. You definitely still have feelings - how can those die so quickly after so long? But they are overriden by whatever triggered the break-up. It's normal, irrational, makes no sense, hurts and you will get better over time. Trite, true and not very helpful right now.
2006-09-25 16:10:58 · answer #2 · answered by TheSlayor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can or else something else has taken over. Maybe you do something that makes him love you less and that has taken precedence.I think you really need to look at your relationship and see what was good and bad about it. That way you will understand why you are no longer together. Do you really want to be with someone who you have broken up with. I would not want to be, so maybe this is what is best for you.
2006-09-25 16:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...i'm in a lengthy distance courting too and that i understand precisely what you're feeling. We at the moment had damaged up even as situations looked which may merely positioned too a lot stress on our courting. even if, we wanting to come back mutually after merely 4 days. we would have loved to make it paintings and so a concepts we are. i do not ignore that doesn't quite help you yet i understand i change into feeling each and every thing that you sense right this moment. after we broke up it change into kinda left at "per chance we are going to run into each and every back interior the destiny" =/ It damage so undesirable and that i did not opt to move on or see every person else. i tried to carry out desire that we would nonetheless reconnect interior the destiny. even although this in worry-free words lasted 4 days for me, i'd recommend you to attempt now to not imagine about it a lot. merely take it on an established foundation and it is going to steadily get more beneficial positive. haven't any expectancies for the destiny. that's alright to maintain desire alive...yet do not hardship about what's going to ensue. do not ignore that if she quite loves you, she'll are attentive to it and he or she'll come back to you.
2016-10-16 02:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One week will not change love. But yes I believe love can fade, it's how committed you are to getting it back. If you both want to be in love again it will happen, it's happening to me now. But if one of you dosen't, consider it a stepping stone to love of your life. If you hang on to tight, you may miss the person your supposed to be with. Smile, his only purpose may have been to teach you to love. Now your free to really love.
2006-09-25 16:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by JackieH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For youngish (under 30) people it is very common.
Nature makes sure we sample a variety of mates before marrying. She gave us the wandering eye for a reason, best possible offspring.
2006-09-25 16:10:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's absolutely normal.our problem is that we invest so much into these relationships without any commitment.then when it gets tired we jump on another train.next relationship after six months no commitment walk on.
2006-09-25 16:17:20 · answer #7 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes but srry to tell u this but even 7 yrs from now u will still find ur self thinking about him
2006-09-25 16:10:24 · answer #8 · answered by A soldiers wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You slept with him huh?
Guess what?........if it was that quick of a turn around he never did...and was just telling you what you wanted to hear.
Move on..he needs to do some growing up.
2006-09-25 16:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋