Any single childless people tired of picking up parents' slack in the workplace?

Question

I am NOT talking about a healthy parent/child relationship, and I do NOT hate kids. I am talking about people who give children too many choices,are overly permissive, and/or expect everyone around them to plan everyting around thier kids. My boyfriend is like this, and I work with a few people like this.I was out shopping one day on a weekend, my boyfriend's son was visiting, and called me on my cell phone demanding I come home immediately because his kid was starving. I was like, "ok give him something to eat" and we have argued because I would not leave work early to pick his son up.(he wasnt driving at the time) The newest employee at my job demanded to take vacation on certain days because her kids were doing this and that, and that "because _______ dosent have kids she has to switch vacations with me..." I told her "Sorry but _____ has been here the longest and you have been here the least amount of time and vacations are based on senority. I will not ask her to switch"

Answer 1

In my department at a university - 30 staff members - there are twice as many singles with no children as there are parents with children no matter what the age. I am one of the only ones who is done with raising my children. (When I did have them at home, I was a loyal worker who did not do any demanding for time off). About 2/3rds of the singles come in late, leave early, and take 2 hour lunches. They plan parties and other outings during work time in each others' offices, talk about their latest boy and girlfriends - and about each other - and if someone asks them for a bit of help with anything outside their written description of the position, they will state basically "that is not my problem, it's not in my job description" even though they are supposed to be part of a team that pulls together and lends a hand to one another. There are a few parents that will do the same thing - the talking about personal stuff forever and coming in late or leaving early - but it involves their children or own parents. About a quarter of us carry the department, and that includes some parents and some non-parents, both single and married. I am not talking about supervisors vs workers (there are 6 supervisors in sub-departments within our larger department). I am talking about people who are lateral on the ladder. They are supposed to be on equal footing, yet some think they are special in this regard. I do know things get noticed however, as in the long run I have gotten better reviews and raises - and also my supervisor will allow me to leave early for a dr appt or usually say yes if I ask for special days - and I don't often ask for that. (Some just call in sick when they want off for a day). It makes me uptight at times when I am on a special project and can not get the info needed from someone as they are gabbing in someone else's office yet again or have not bothered to come in yet... but that has nothing to do with having or not having children.
And - if it is a legitimate reason or if they are supposed to get vacation at the time, I have no problem with picking up slack. (I tend to handle 2 - 4 people's duties the way it is so that my boss gets what she needs - but she does notice). Part of the decision on who gets priority for vacation is with seniority, but part of it deals with work ethics in various ways - and that is why some end up with their first pick of days. We tend to share days - meaning if some are off before Thanksgiving others are off either before or after Christmas - that way it rotates for special days.

Answer 2

No, how about any parents tired of pickiing up single childless people's slack in the workplace, showing up late and hung over, leaving early for some hot date.

This has nothing to do with parents, or singles, it has to do with people who are good employees, respectful, and who make sure they have their job done. Some people need flexibility at times in their lives, others are fortunate and never need that flexibility - I hope that your boss is more compassionate than you if you ever get the phone call that you need to leave in the middle of the day because a relative needed you.

Judge so that you will not be judged.

Oh, and some of us have divorce decrees which state, years in advance, the times we can take vacations with our children - and to ask someone who has some flexibility to switch is a kindly thing to do, not taking advantage of a situation.

Answer 3

particular. i comprehend a group of different couples the position the only had a baby (or 2) and the different did not. In all the circumstances, the fellow without one has truly followed the youngster as their very own emotionally (some legally besides). some have desirous to have childrens at the same time after, some have not. I truly have a three month previous, and easily, in case you had requested me even 2 years in the past if i'd have considered courting someone with a baby (if by some ability my marriage of 9 years ended), i'd have reported no. I merely wasn't at a level in my existence the position i needed childrens round and to be responsible for them - mine or no longer. some human beings DO like childrens and do not ideas them being area of their lives. those human beings does no longer ideas in any respect being attracted and pursuing a courting with a unmarried figure. some human beings do no longer choose babies to affix their lives for although reason, and does no longer choose up to now a unmarried figure. i imagine that still, unmarried father and mom may hunt down unmarried father and mom, so that they have got someone that still knows their situation and existence slightly better effective than a unmarried non-figure may. besides, i imagine the possibilities of unmarried father and mom assembly are slightly larger once the youngsters are children perchance - as they are the figure on the activities for his or her baby and could finally end up chatting with different father and mom. So, like maximum issues, it relies upon on the fellow!

Answer 4

I can see it from both sides but I understand where you're coming from. I have a 10 yr. old daughter, however,my husband and I were childless the 1st 12 yrs. we were married. At my former job I was always stuck with working the holidays, particularly the one's geared around children (Mothers' Day, Christmas, Easter, etc.) because I didn't have kids. Luckily my job now allows me to have a flexible schedule to accomodate my daughter's activities without affecting my co-workers. When you become a parent, you do it knowing your life is going to change, that you'll have this other little person to think of. And when you work outside the home you have to expect that at times things will come up with your kids that interfere with your work schedule. You just have to deal with it without expecting everyone around you to rearrange their schedules.

Answer 5

To a certain point you can see it as helping someone who is sick or has a sick relative. You are just helping them out.

IF they are taking advantage then it doesn't matter that they have kids or not they are selfish people and that is their excuse to take advantage.

I think those with no kids should be more mad that they still have to pay school tax for public schools. Even more so for the rejects they are turning out.

Answer 6

I work with a childless woman and for 2 month running she did not make it to work one time. She sits at her desk and talks to her girlfriends on Yahoo Messenger all day long and expects the other girls to stay late and help her to get HER work done.

Last Friday she played all day and the boss said nothing. I knew he was going out of town at 2 pm. The other girls and me left early (3 pm) and we left her there to get HER work done. She got out at 7 pm.

Of course she was late this morning. We start at 9 am, she showed up at 10.30 am.

I REALLY don't care for selfish childless people.

Answer 7

No, because some of them helped cover for me when I needed time off to spend with my dad when he was in a nursing home.

What goes around comes around, sooner or later. Someday you might be the one who needs someone to take up your slack, whether it be for kids, illness or whatever.

Answer 8

I don't have kids & I see what you're saying. All types of people make execuses from time to time. Sometimes I think kids might just be a good execuse & people feel sorry for people who have kids & will give in more.

Answer 9

yes...finally someone else understands. i had to pick up slack from this dumbass guy working untl 3am just because he called in sick all the time cuz he couldnt get a babysitter.

Answer 10

you should go in for counseling.