I am a single mother. My daughter is a little over a 1 1/2. I work full time from 3-12 in the evening. I also go to school two days a week. As of right now my two younger brothers, who live with me watch her when i leave to go to work and school. I'm not comfortable with her being around them, i'm affraid she'll pick up bad habits. I want to put her in day care but i feel like I wouldn't get to see her until the the week. Her father mother told me, I'm doing too much. She say i shouldn't go to school and i shouldn't work at that time off night. should i take her advice and quit school and find another job or is there another way!!! HELP PLEASE!!!!
2006-09-25 15:22:14 · 3 answers · asked by Amber1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Trust your gut. If your gut says your daughter would be better off in daycare than with your brothers, that's what you should do.
Take what your daughter's grandma says with a grain of salt. She probably means well, but I'll bet you have good reasons for going to school. You're probably doing it so you can get some education and provide for yourself and your daughter easier. If you don't go to school, you're never going to get ahead and you're going to be totally screwed.
If you can get a job that's in the daytime, you'll probably get to see your daughter more. However, that would mean you'd have to go to school at night, which would mean your education would take longer.
Where is your daughter's dad in all of this, anyhow? At a minimum, he should be providing child support!
There just may not be any easy answers in this, but I think that if you listen to your gut, you'll come up with the best compromise for the next year or two. After that, your daughter will be in preschool, then school! Some of the daycare problems will go away at that point.
Most of all, have faith in yourself and your ability to do what's best for you and your daughter. It's easy for grandmas and strangers on the internet to give advice when they're not the ones having to pay the rent!
You're a single mother, working full time and going to school. On top of that, you're evidently taking care of your two brothers. If all that doesn't qualify you for superhero status, I don't know what does!
2006-09-25 15:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by IrritableMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is hard right now going to school and trying to bring home the money as well as be a good mother all at the same time. But look at it this way you are not only going to work for your self and going to school to better your life but you are doing it for your young daughter. She may not understand it right now but maybe if you keep telling her as she gets older why you had to do this and how hard it was. Just maybe she will thank and respect you for what you did for her and you. And try just a little hard her self. So that she will have it better than you did at first. It is showing her that you have to work for what you want in life. No matter what comes your way. As for who keeps her when you are out I would say try finding some that you can trust like someone else in your family. Or ask around about getting a babysitter that will come to your home that way your daughter will feel better in her own home. The only other thing I would say is try a daycare. Some kids do very well. Sorry I was that much help. I hope the best for you and your daughter just go with what your heart tells you to do. Good luck!!
2006-09-25 15:46:35 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hire a babysitter.
2006-09-25 15:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by true-mysteryfrom chinese wish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋