I have to leave my home in three weeks. I am 22 with 2 kids and pregnant. I am scared and I really don't know what to do or where to go for help?I was wondering if anybody was aware of any services. I have also been searching for a job. I just need help. I live in the philadelphia, pennsylvania area.
2006-09-25 15:11:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Find a shelter. There are programs at a shelter to help you find a job and provide day care for the kids while you're job hunting. Red Cross, Catholic Charities, ask around. Go to social services and get on the wait list for subsidized housing. Apply for state health insurance for yourself and the kids, WIC, subsidized day care, and any other assistance they offer. Immediately file for child support. Child support is retroactive to the date you file.
Since you can use the computer go to PA Department of Labor and look under employment for local jobs.
Contact your best friend. Talk to her regularly. She will encourage you and support you through this. Enlist whatever help your family is willing to give. Make sure they understand you only need the help you are specifically requesting, that you will take care of the rest.
Do not get discouraged. It is time for you to make hard decisions, right decisions.
You are young. I notice that some men like to attach themselves to women who recieve public assistance. These men are lazy and selfish. Treasure the independence you are about to create. Do not allow men into your home. If someone would like to take you out find a sitter, get out of the house and take some time for you. (Some guys will pay the sitter if you can't just so they can take you out.) Ask when you need something. Learn what it is to take care of yourself, the kids and your home.
Wait for the man who will treat you with respect and who earns your trust. At first he will seem to be your friend....and then you will find, with the right man, that he is your love.
Do not be amazed as years pass and you are working and raising the kids alone. These years form the person you will share with your love.
Take a deep breath, don't panic, know what supports are there for you and go for it.....
2006-09-25 15:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear lady, try talking to the different faiths, pastors. You need help. Too, you need some log range plans!
Do you have any family member that would care for your three children for 90 days, with your paying their cost for food & clothing?
Please think about this! This does not help you now, today, but it will fix your life so that you will not NEED anyone! When your new baby is three months old, if a family member will care for your children for about ninety days, then you sign a TEMPORARY power-of-attorney, specifying the dates. Next, join the ARMY,
after you finish basic training and get you post assignment, you can take back you kids, housing, food, medical care, dental and you learning a meaningful profession, paid twice a week, promotions and yearly pay increase, 30 days paid leave a year and the tour is three years. More if you chose.
Military schools are well controlled, child support is available, and after school control activities are available.
At five, put the child into music lessons, Tae Kwan Doe, Ballet and church. This keeps the children meaningfully engaged and supports your parenting.
You will even find away to start a savings.
Does this work, madam, I am a black, from the slums, devoiced parents and no college! The army sent me to computer schools for 20 years, I have a wife, 2 children, one just became a 2LT in the Air Force, and the other is in R.I.T.
I worked for the government as an IT Specialist. Now I have my own home in Germany and Hawaii.
It is not easy, but YOU CAN!!!!!! It is a way out with out ever having to kiss any body’s butt again the rest of your life. An it beats the hell out of the life your children now face.
2006-09-25 22:40:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pennsylvania has a pretty good network of services -- government, civic and church organizations, etc. Beyond that, jobs are plentiful right now . .. . and the cost of living is much lower . . . further west from Philadelphia in South-Central Pennsylvania. Franklin County, along the Maryland line about halfway across the state has had the lowest unemployment rate in the state for several months, for example -- about 3% -- which is esssentially full employment. Etc. Get in touch and perhaps could help with more advice.
2006-09-25 22:37:34 · answer #3 · answered by worldinspector 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm. I did a little poking around on the web ..
One thing to look into is this low-income assistance for energy bills. Winter is going to be coming, and with cold weather power bills tend to go up!
http://www.dpw.state.pa.us/LowInc/HeatAssistance/003670277.htm
And here's the Pennsylvania Department of Public Welfare:
http://www.dpw.state.pa.us/
It looks like services include food stamps and housing.
Philadelphia also has some food banks; sometimes these are run by churches.
http://www.pahunger.org/html/contact/contact.html
http://www.cityteam.org/philadelphia/
These will be good places to start, and I hope the people who staff some of these organizations can point you to other services as well. Good luck to you and your children!
2006-09-25 22:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by IrritableMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is hard but things happen for a reason you may not know today or maybe not even tomorrow but some day you will look bake on this and say that the reason for this. I am so sorry that your family is going thought this right now. I have been have been right where you are at right now. Try to keep the hope if not for self but for you children. All I can say is go to your Family independents agencies and see if they can help(FIA). Just know that I will be hoping for you and your family. Good luck!!
2006-09-25 22:26:29 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your local city or town hall should have an office of public welfare/human services that may be able to help you.
If you have a Citizens for Citizens, or any other charitable organization in your town, call them and ask as well... if they can't help you, they'll know who can.
Don't be scared. We all need a little help now and then :)
Good luck to you
2006-09-25 22:17:33 · answer #6 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about government assistance? Do you have any family that can help you? I would look in your local phone book and see what government help you can get. They can usually, help you find a job too. Good Luck!
2006-09-25 22:14:55 · answer #7 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
contact your local social services office. They should be able to help you or provide you with contacts that can help. Good luck
2006-09-25 22:15:21 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry be happy.
2006-09-25 22:14:05 · answer #9 · answered by joe v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋