Does it mean that he wants you for a long term?
I was with a guy and he ask me do you want to do it w/o condom? (this was second time we had sex) I asked him do you trust me? he said: "now you're scaring me". I said there's nothing to worry about me, but can I trust "you"? he said yes. now I'm wondering, does he want me for a long term? we just started dating a month ago.
2006-09-25 15:09:19 · 18 answers · asked by needsuggestions 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Well the first thought you must remember in that he is a "man"... And it is a universaly known fact that men hate to wear the rubber on their member. It is an unfortunate reality.
I have known alot of stupid guys. For example, my 1/2 brother "D" doesn't have sex often at all (his latest dry spell must be close to 12 years now!) but he absolutly refuses to wear rubbers during intercourse (then). He says he isn't worried and that he also doesn't worry about his partners. OK so after a 12 year dry spell, one could understand up to a point, but to be honest, that's the stupidest reasoning if ever!
Also, alot of guys I know just don't like the rubber. They hate to wrestle with trying to put it on (usually turning them OFF in the process), they don't like the feeling of it, they don't like the "cut-off" feeling (desensitizing) of wearing one during intercourse, etc...
And I have to admit myself that I once tried to "con" an ex GF (girlfriend) to not wear a rubber one morning glory. She agree and we had unprotected sex. I vowed to myself never again.
My excuse at that time was that I was planning to get back together with the ex-GF, but it didn't work out. A very pathetic excuse indeed.
In my opinion, guys will say ANYTHING to avoid having to wear the infernal rubber. The promise of a steady relationship gives a "false" hope to their partner, increasing their chance of not having to wear the constrictive device during sexual intercourse. It may appear like a sign of commitment, when it could in fact be just another form of pillowtalk.
If the man is serious about becoming more commited in a relationship, he will schedule a doctor's check-up for both of you before having unprotected sex. After the check-up, when everything checks out, then that will be a good time to STOP the wear of the condom.
Butter's Experience: I have been with my wife since 1992, and over the years we've had protected and unprotected sex. We have discovered through play and foreplay that there are many ways to improve the putting on of the condom, some forms being incredibly fun and exciting as well!
2006-09-26 02:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants you for the long term or doesn't - Continue using a condom. Be safe rather than be sorry later.
It has nothing to do with a trust issue. It's still to short of a time to take chances.
2006-09-25 15:15:43 · answer #2 · answered by Dale 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According your question. You should at least know him longer than a month before you decide to have sex without a condom.
I would not say "yes", you can trust him, but you should know him little better before going to have bare-skin sex. Sex is great but don't mean he really want to be in long term relationship.
Virus can't be seen with bare eyes but you could suffers for life.
PS. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-09-25 16:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by robby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These days, no one should do it without a condom unless you've been in the relationship for a long time. One month is a joke. Be sure you both are committed to one another before you lose the rubber.
2006-09-25 15:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by renaissance man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a girl but i know a lot about this. guys dont really feel like they're inside you when they have a condom on. it feels better for them without one on, they like to feel the wetness we have. after 3 months of my boyfriend and i dating we decided to have sex, he wanted it without a condom, but i wanted it with. but having sex without a condom doesnt mean they want you long term...dont get me wrong it can mean that but most of the time it doesnt. try asking him why he wants to do it without a condom. are you on birth control? if not i wouldnt recommend having sex without a condom...because of the risk of getting pregnant. also i'd get him tested for any type of sexual diseases (i.e. std's, hiv/aids).
2006-09-25 15:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by ally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he is just looking for his own selfish pleasure. For men it feels better without a condom. He doesn't care if you get an STD, HIV or pregnant. And why are you having sex with someone you barely know?
2006-09-25 15:15:46 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not necessarly he could possibly just get no enjoyment/pleasure from using certain types of condoms tell him to go to the drug store and get some of the condoms that are thin for the most pleasurable experiance with a condom on
2006-09-25 15:17:56 · answer #7 · answered by DANK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not using condom doesn't necessarily mean that your man is committing to you for long term. most probably, he doesn't like using condom because it lessens or dulls the pleasure of sexual intercourse. cheers!
2006-09-25 18:40:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend do not like using them, they can be a hassle, and it is not about trust or long term, believe me
2006-09-25 15:14:05 · answer #9 · answered by Pete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have unprotected sex unless you're married. Otherwise you'll be on welfare as a single mom. Take that to the bank!
2006-09-25 15:13:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋