2006-09-25 14:29:21 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
In all honesty, it sounds like your son needs to have some of his things taken away from him. Things like...his stereo, his TV priveledges, His computer priveledges, and most importantly...his bedroom door. (Believe me, this last one works wonders)
2006-09-25 14:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by Marshal 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Depends on the rules as to how harsh the punishment is, but there definitely needs to be some discipline. It's tough when you're the mom. Your son at 14 is probably as big or bigger than you are! And that might be intimidating, but you shouldn't let him know it if it is. You are still the authority figure and he needs to respect that. Probably taking away certain privileges would be a good place to start until he starts coming back in line with your rules. Think about what he enjoys best and start limiting that. Sooner or later he'll realize that in order to do what he wants, he has to conform to your rules. If the problem gets really out of hand, you may need to look into pastoral counseling or professional help.
2006-09-25 14:33:22 · answer #2 · answered by Curious George 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to put your foot down. Start grounding him/taking away things he likes until he starts to listen. If he keeps on doing what he wants then really buckle down - don't give him money, buy him new clothes, etc. He is a teen so he's probably testing you and seeing how far he can get away with everything - however, if his behavior continues or worsens you should get him into counseling in case it's something much more than just teenage rebellion.
You should also look into boot camps for the summer.
2006-09-25 14:32:39 · answer #3 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depending on the severity, take away privileges and let him earn them back, counseling, and as a last resort boot camp. Don't let it get any further out of control. No spanking, it just teaches violence and deceit. Paying special attention to what he does right is always a great way to start. Any good relationship is about 80% positive.
Hang in there, and try to be positive for him and yourself!
2006-09-25 14:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by Rox 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
clean-decrease strategies of reinforcement and punishment artwork wonders. for instance, a level-device. He earns factors for behaving properly (even in small recommendations at the start, for instance giving factors for something that would look "envisioned" yet is proper habit, which includes doing his assigned chores), and loses factors for no longer behaving properly. Consistency is prevalent. He ought to lose factors for each offense (for instance, being 2 minutes late continues to be late), and also needs to receive factors for any proper movements. factors will be exchanged for priviledges, and issues should be earned. Giving factors for doing the "authentic" project make stronger him for doing so, and reinforcing proper behaviors is better powerful than punishing irrelevant behaviors. also, eliminating factors lets you punish him in systematic way. do not argue, yell, change into indignant, etc...merely eliminate factors even as he behaves inappropriately.
2016-12-02 01:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by helmers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a fourteen year old girl... and sometimes my parents think that i don't follow the rules... what really gets to me is him grounding me so that might work...
2006-09-25 14:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
dose he have a father figure. if so then the father needs to take him out back with a belt. if not then get off your but and get a father figure in this 14 year old boys life.
2006-09-25 14:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by grumm_dmons 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
be firm, set your boundaries, and just tell him like you want the rules to be....if he does not follow your rules then take away a privilege
2006-09-25 14:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him go his own way for a while and make his own mistakes. That's the only way he'll learn. There's just no reasoning with 14- year-olds.
2006-09-25 14:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am 14 years old......
2006-09-25 14:39:01 · answer #10 · answered by let the speakers blow your mind 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋