I have been in a relationship for over 4 years i have been with this guy and his child that he has custody because the mother walks out i have been over backwards for this child but i noticed that as she got older i felt like i had to fight for my partners attention. I feel like she has came in between us because we have lived together for the whole four years, do you think i am over reacting?
2006-09-25 14:23:59 · 7 answers · asked by Melissa S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As a parent his priority must always be his child. From her viewpoint you are the interloper and the friction she senses or witnesses only serves to justify her feelings.
2006-09-25 14:33:31 · answer #1 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok....well, yes it is true that a child will play you against your partner. I've seen it happen.......
And, yes, you're over-reacting.....this is a CHILD....you are an ADULT......let the child have her time in the spotlight during the day.....Are you ALWAYS there? Give the child and her father some time alone......just some daddy/daughter time......How old is the child? Is she going through a hard time at school or anything? What else is going on in her life? Maybe she just needs some extra-special attention right now. Take some time and spend with her, just the two of you.....maybe she needs a mommy......her real mom walked out.....she needs some time with you, letting her know you care and you love her like a mommy does........
2006-09-25 21:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if that child has only one parent then they are going to want all of their parents attention but like you said you have bent over backwards for the child so she she should relax a bit. How old is the child and is she spoiled? Since she is a girl and her mommy does not live with you she basically will need you to take that responsibility (if you are ready). If she feels confident that you love her as much as her dad does then she wont be so in need for her dad's attention all of the time. Also since she is a girl it is natural for her to want all of the attention so that's going to be hard. If you are going to stay with this guy you are just going to have to get used to daddy giving her alot af attention cause she is daddy's baby, she is a girl, and she don't have mommy. I have two young boys and my husband has to fight with them to lay next to me at night so it's just a natural thing, sorry.
2006-09-25 21:35:07 · answer #3 · answered by dabster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how old the child is varies. As a parent no matter what age they may be that child will always come first with a parent. Understandable that you sometimes feel neglected however instead of fighting for affection try giving and including yourself as part of the family. Showing the child that you care for her/his father and for him/her. Laugh, talk and show affection to the child as if the child was your own and you will soon see that tables has turned and everyone is happy
2006-09-25 21:28:54 · answer #4 · answered by PureLife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that the child is probably afraid of losing her daddy like she lost her mother. Have patience. P.S. All kids play their parents regardless of custody or not and regardless of being with or without siblings..
2006-09-25 21:31:00 · answer #5 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All chiildren, be they only children or if they have siblings, will try this approach, not only against possible ste parents but their own parents, as well.
2006-09-25 21:26:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the kid is smart they will do it solo or with siblings.
2006-09-25 21:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lux 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋