My best female friend is engaged and she asked me to post this Q for her. neither of their religious beliefs nor their morals allow them to have ____ before marriage.
a couple of monthes ago she kept trying till she found his account password (she doesn't feel guilty for what she did !!!) because she got shocked. (his account is full of Viagra ads.)
she's now really worried about their relationship after marriage. she wants to know if the Viagra ads and the other similar emails can be good indications for any sort of impotency?
she is really worried because she adores him...
by the way he is 30 years old and he is heartless he enjoys to watch her suffering because of rude comments.
2006-09-25 14:04:06 · 13 answers · asked by adorable 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
bearhill13: i agree with you that she did something wrong but she is my friend and i feel how much she suffered with this jerk.
she hacked his account because she feels all the time that he's hiding something.
2006-09-25 14:21:35 · update #1
they are still engaged (foxyraley) only because of my advice to her to be patient not the opposite. while most of our friends are blaming her for being patient and not moving on till now.
she kept in getting pale and slim because of him till he rudely commented on her slim figure and pale face.
she's stylish and pretty enough to have a good one and to lead a wonderful life not a bitter life.
2006-09-25 21:56:55 · update #2
He sounds like a jerk. The ads however could mean a number of things. They may be spam. Maybe he's worried. Maybe your friend should reconsider if he likes to see her suffer. He should want to make her happy.
2006-09-25 14:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, obviously, your friend doesn't trust him or she wouldn't be checking his account. Her religious and moral beliefs may not allow them to have --- before marriage, but if he is using Viagra, he must not have any problem with that. Viagra is only needed if a man is having ---. If he is heartless and enjoys watching her suffer- that is abuse!! Sounds like there are some serious issues in their relationship that need to be addressed BEFORE they get married! It is time she take a long hard look at this man, he sounds like a real jerk, who will make her life a living hell.
2006-09-25 21:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by georgiapeach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a few things you need to find out...Is he taking meds or on antidepressents. Those can be a real killer on the sex life and libido. If he is, look them up and if they have sexual side affects, you may have your answer.
Also, if he is 30 and never had sex...he may be thinking that he is going to *** so fast that he will be imberrassed, and she will be unimpressed. There is so much pressure on the both of them.
Also, you don't have to have ED for Viagra to help you. My understanding is that Viagra can help a healthy man stay hard longer, providing his partner more pleasure.
Your friend needs to talk with her partner, act like she has a friend that has a partner with this problem.....tell him that she wouldn't have an issue with it ....yadda yadda She better deal with it now, because one wrong word can really hurt the guy she is marrying.
If he does have a problem, it really needs to be handled carefully. I deal with this because my partner has medical issues that cause his libido to be zero. At first I handled it wrong, and it caused hard feelings. It took us a while to sort it out and for me to make it right. So I hope this helps your friend from making the same mistake.
Um, why did she feel it necessary to go through his email account? But I guess that is for another day.
Good Luck!
2006-09-25 21:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL i also have Viagra ads in my mail BUT i can assure you i am not impotent. most people have these sort of ads.
BUT what kind of a religious person likes to make rude comments. or like to see someone suffer. if he is that heartless i would think long & hard that he was really the one for me. she maybe the only one saving herself for after the wedding.
2006-09-25 21:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Viagra ads are probably just Spam that he never deleted from his Email. Your friend shouldn't have anything to worry about in that regard.
However, if her fiance enjoys watching her suffer, that's a whole other ball game and she ought to get out of the relationship ASAP.
2006-09-25 21:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
His morals don't allow premarital sex, but his morals allow him to enjoy making his fiancee suffer? Her morals don't allow premarital sex, but they allow her to hack his password protected files? Sounds like these two are made for each other.
I'd guess that if he really intends to stay a virgin until marriage, that the interest in Viagra is just a way of making absolutely sure that things go well when it's finally time. But I'd say sex is the least of their problems. This is going to be a disaster.
2006-09-25 21:11:36 · answer #6 · answered by bearhill13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a way to begin a relationship 'dishonestly snooping'. What first peaked your friends curiosity in the first place. Sounds like there were already some reserves or she wouldn't have been snooping around. In his defense, maybe he wanted to be sure that for their first time he was mightier than the sword. Haven't they even petted enough for her to find out if the thing is even working properly. With a little teasing, things will stand at attention, and that is usually a sure indicator that it at least works.
Tell your friend to check herself and her motives.
2006-09-25 21:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Viagra ads are usually spam, spam, spam. They indicate nothing.
Does she feel that he is heartless and enjoys watching her suffer because of his rude comments? If so, help her to get away from him.
If not, tell her what you observed, tell her you love her, tell her you will support her whatever she decides to do about the relationship, and then make no other comment.
2006-09-25 21:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by booktender 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay out of her business, That is terrible that she is spying on her boyfriend and telling you about it and you are probably giving her wrong advise. If she is going to get married she needs to be talking with her boyfriend not you. and almost everyone gets those e-mails it is called SPAM!! do your girlfriend a favor and just listen, dont make any decisions for her.
2006-09-25 21:57:37 · answer #9 · answered by foxyraley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMPOTENCY SHOULDN'T BE A REASON FOR NOT GETTING MARRIED, BECAUSE MARRIAGE IS NOT ONLY BASED ON SEX, IT IS PART OF IT THOUGH; THE VIAGRA ADS COULD MEAN SOMETHING OR THEY COULD MEAN NOTHING AND IF SHE IS GETTING VERBALLY ABUSED NOW BEFORE THEY GET MARRIED, SHE SHOULDN'T GET MARRIED
2006-09-25 21:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by Mike H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋