They want a superman out of u? everything perfect.
they put so much pressure that even honest person start
lying to handle the situation at home(i saw many of my frd doing this). even then she preaches u to speak truth.
if u strictly follow her then ur life/mental state becomes hell.
why?
what should one do?
2006-09-25 14:03:10 · 15 answers · asked by dilemma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's a lot of thing men don't do that women need, so you've got to know how to do that... if she has expectations that are to high, then you need to let her know and perhaps discuss it with a marriage councelor. Getting marriage counceling isn't for weirdo's... it's for normal people that just for some reason or another get their wires crossed. Give it a shot or at least read a book about it, like "saving your marriage before it starts" by Dr. Les Parrot or "Love & Respect" by Emerson, or whatever you can find at a good bookstore.
2006-09-25 14:11:45 · answer #1 · answered by Homey Da_Clown 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where do these women come from? I know the type but none of em would have ever considered marrying me.
Pardon me for saying this but grow some balls and stand your ground. It is your life as well. Marriage is a 50/50 proposition. If the woman wants to rule you, she's some kind of succubus and needs to learn how to give rather than demand. It's the unconditional giving that makes marriage and life serene. Expectations are stumbling blocks that lead to the instability that you describe. Good luck fella.
2006-09-25 21:16:42 · answer #2 · answered by GJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue to be a man and don't allow her to dictate to you. 1000% of the time treat her kindly and with total respect. Listen to her when she talks about her job, friends, etc (give her your undivided attention).
Take her out and have fun: don't talk about heavy subjects like the kids, work, etc. Do the little things that she enjoyed when you were courting her. When she starts her crap, politely and gently walk away from her. She will eventually get the message. Women sometimes don't know what they want so you as Tarzan are going to tell her through the confidence, romantic nature and the respect you give to her on a daily basis.
2006-09-25 21:30:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take offense to that as I'm not like that at all.
Letting that slide however I think you should take your wife very seriously. If she begins to get a little overbearing or you think she's making unfair demands of you then tell her so. Letting anybody walk all over you is going to cause a lot of marriage problems in the future.
2006-09-25 21:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one should take his wife very seriously.thats the one person who can make your life a living hell.take a close look around you .has she been angry at you about somthing?maybe substance abuse?broken promises?things arent always what they seem.an unforgiving wife has the potential to be your worst nightmare come true.especialy with the help of a conniving lawyer,religion,and local law enforcment.some thing are very hard to prove.be careful,my brother.you could find yourself in a very stickey situation
2006-09-25 21:26:50 · answer #5 · answered by stonedhilbily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start out with brutal honesty. When this starts to wear her down become a little elusive, when she becomes disgusted with the truth and then with being elusive learn what to answer and when to shut up! Train Her man! Get smart or get out!
2006-09-25 21:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by r g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes men act really childish and expect their wife to be like their mother. Maybe it's your fault you're turning her into your mother. Try to see what I'm talking about. She may have had a rotten father and doesn't trust you very easily so maybe you're giving her reasons not to trust you. You've got to talk this out together. Maybe you'll both see what's happening and laugh about it and try not to do it to each other.
2006-09-26 00:08:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the human race expects their spouses to be all and all to them...meet up to their expectations and then some! If they would only put God first and follow His instructions, then perhaps their marriages would be worth the paper they were written on.
2006-09-25 21:31:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you REALLY feel that way, then you're not mature enough to be a husband. Women DO NOT want "superman"......we just want an honest, loving, caring man who will treat us like his queen....who will tell us the truth always, even if it will hurt us at first.....who will "fix" it when he screws up......a man who will be a man and not a little boy.......a woman doesn't get married so she can raise her husband.....she gets married to be a partner with her husband......
2006-09-25 21:11:13 · answer #9 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't take a superman to do the right thing....You both are in it together...Compromising is the key....It is not that difficult...you are using too much energy for nothing....live the simple life...help me and i will help you
2006-09-25 21:27:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anastacia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋