i met a woman 9 months ago. when we would have sex she would give me head, then after we moved in together and told each other this all but stopped. she told me that my semen has a strong odor and in the beginning she was trying to show me a good time but now if i love her i should understand and not want head anymore. (i have never came in her mouth).. so i researched this and found that i could be my diet so i decided to stop the caffine intake to help. when i told her what i was doing she blew up and told me that i was forcing the issue and i should let her do it in her own time. the last time was in early july. i thought she would be happy that i was listing to her and trying but i guess not. i have no problem going down on her as a matter of fact i enjoy it as much as she does. so if she loved me should she not be willing to try.
2006-09-25 13:58:19 · 30 answers · asked by keithy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I could see her not wanting to please you, if she had never done it before and she was just being as she has always been; but to do it for you and then quit? Nah, she's just lazy.
My husband is like that. He was all over me before we got married. I haven't changed physically, and now he never wants sex. If you never came in her mouth, then the odor of your semen, doesn't matter. It's outside her body.
Sorry, but she just misrepresented herself. I think you should break it off with her. Not because she doesn't want to do it, but because she lied with her actions, to hook you.
That's not right
2006-09-25 14:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading many of these other answers, I can only come up with one feasible solution that doesn't leave both sides upset or end the relationship.
Your best answer is this: Try putting on a condom and see if she will go along with that. If she still doesn't go down, then you know she's being selfish cause there will be no odor problem any more. I know you're going to complain about the condom not feeling as good but what other alternative do you have? Semen will ALWAYS have a slight odor.
2006-09-25 14:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sadly the lady probably told a little white lie. Alot of women start out giving oral sex to men and then make up an excuse such as taste to get out of the act once they have 'hooked' the guy.
If oral sex is important to you, you may want to keep looking. Alternatively try again to talk to her calmly and well not in the bedroom. Explain that you want both of you to enjoy sex and that you feel perhaps more open communication of wants and needs may help. Notice I didn't mention oral sex yet? Start by asking what you can do more/less or new for her. after the conversation is moving you can bring up oral sex for you. Be ready to offer options to for her, some women truly dislike the act and do it out of obligation and never learn to enjoy or see it as an act of giving. Tell her she is amazing and the best you've ever been with. With women it is true flattery will get you everywhere most of the time. Offer to wear a condom during the act- i.e. no semen leaks no taste. Try incorporating flavored lubes, food products etc. Take it slow but be clear this is important to you and offer the truth that her unwillingness does hurt your feelings since sex then feels one sided to some degree.
Hopefully she will be open to options and try again to make you enjoy happy, and perhaps her confidence will grown as will her enjoyment of how the pleasure she gives you makes you feel and respond.
If she is totally unwilling be prepared to make an exit from the relationship soon or you two will never be happy in the end.
2006-09-25 14:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by Answerkeeper 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're right - I think funky spunk does come down to diet in a lot of ways, and it's really good that you've tried to alter your diet to change this. It doesn't just show that you want head, but that you've listened to her complaint that your semen doesn't taste/smell so great and tried to do something about it. Fair enough.
But if you're giving her head, I would go on an all-out offensive. Pure and simple - stop giving her head. If she asks why, say you'd like to talk calmly and rationally about why she won't give you head. The chances are the whole "I was just trying to please you at the start" thing is rubbish and something's changed. Why not try and find out what that is with the best bargaining tool ever - your tongue?
2006-09-25 14:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by Wes W 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you were very sweet for trying to fix the problem.. We as American's never seem to get it right. Becoming a couple with another person means traveling down the avenue of communication. If giving you 'head' was a problem in the beginning, she should have been woman enough to speak up. The wrong thing for her to do was to let you get accustomed to it and then come up with an excuse to stop doing it. It could have been a lot of fun coming together to find an answer to her problem! Sorry things aren't working out for you, but at this point it's her loss
2006-09-25 14:04:44 · answer #5 · answered by Special K 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she is bothered by performing sex, you would be wise to give her the time to come into it on her own. However, if she really was only bothered by the odor, then she should not have gotten angry about what you were doing. Be tactful in how you bring it up to her, but you need to discuss this. There probably are other issues besides the smell. I don't want to make a mountain out of a molehill, but if this is really important to you, talk to her now.
2006-09-25 14:01:48 · answer #6 · answered by QuickQuestion 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you only live together, I would think long and hard about the future of the relationship. How important is getting oral to you? How important is she to you? How do you feel about what she has done? Seems to me that there is a trust issue involved. Are you going to resent that she doesnt give you head later on?
I am impressed that you thought to look this up and try to make it better for her, some men wouldnt bother. I would have appreciated it, not blown up. I think you need to talk to her about it, I think there may be more to this than what is on the surface. Good Luck!
2006-09-25 14:06:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All semen has an odor. She's just trying to get out of giving you head. And if you ask me, women get the better part of the deal. At least penises are self-contained. They're just skin. Going down on a woman, god knows what the hell's in there...
2006-09-25 14:00:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-01 08:59:22 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there may be more to it than her not wanting to go down on you. I would sit down with her, tell her that you love her (if you do), and just ask her why it makes her so angry. Don't make it about giving head to you it seems sort of selfish when that really isn't the issue. She may not really be able to tell you and she will just use excuses or turn it around on you and make it seem like it's your fault. This is her protecting herself. I know it's a bit complex but I can almost gurantee it's not what it seems. Be gentle and continue talking to her about it and hopefully she can open up to you and it'll be like it was. If not you will have to live with how she feels about it and be ok with it...Hope that helps a bit...Good luck. :)
2006-09-25 14:07:11 · answer #10 · answered by DreamingofU 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋