i have been with my boyfriend for almost two years (he's 19 and i'm 17) and everything seemed to be going great and you could never tear us apart. i mean, we had problems here and there but it was nothing that couldn't be fixed.
then, i started a waitressing job at a local restaurant. there is this guy working there whom, at first, i was really intimidated by. he seemed like the guy who is the life of the party. i was scared to talk to him so i got a little happy when he was assigned to train me to become a waitress. at first, he barely even knew my name and then, we always started flirting hardcore. he was just really blunt all the time. then, i found out that not only does he have a girlfriend of 4 years, but he also does drugs. oh, and did i mention he's also 23? (i thought he was 19) it didn't matter, i still continued flirting and helping him out with things at work. then, out of nowhere, he started ignoring me. why? and why do i seem to be throwing my relationship away?
2006-09-25 13:49:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i tried ignoring him back. needless to say, it didn't work.
2006-09-25 13:54:12 · update #1
i decided to be a complete dumbass and tell my boyfriend about this guy and now, he's in complete emotional distress and says he loved me with all of his heart, but he can't anymore. gahhhhhhh.
2006-09-25 13:58:38 · update #2
i knew i was gonna get the 'you're a hoe' comment. it's so easy to call me a hoe without even knowing me, isn't it? because that definitely helps, yeah?
2006-09-25 14:08:01 · update #3
Most people now-a-days consider love and sex as two things, they are in love with the partner they are with but they feel the need to jump over the fence when their relationship becomes commonplace or boring and you may feel ( special) by the attention that this guy at work is paying you. And I'm sure by now that you realize that " stolen waters " isn't all that it's cracked up to be.
Don't get all twisted up over it, try to understand what's gone sour ( so to speak) with your relationship with your boyfriend and perhaps try something positive to build it up.
No doubt, your b/f is in a state of panic and quite positive that he's no longer appealing to you. It's strictly up to you to show your b/f that he has not lost his appeal and that you love him with all your heart. And that's what you have to do, think about your b/f and prove it, your a woman and you should know what needs to be done. Hurry, don't wait a minute longer, get going!!
2006-09-25 18:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by trieghtonhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to weigh your pros and cons I think. But only in a matter of settling down. Assuming settling down is what you're looking for, then flip the pros and cons around of your current relationship and see if you'd be happy. Consider the two of you didn't have the bond you share and he didn't have a great personality but your sex life was great and you were attracted to him physically. Is that situation better than your current one? Those kinds of relationships, to me, are the ones that don't last very long or end drastically. That being said, it's easy to see why you've stuck it out so long with this one guy. I don't find sexual attraction incredibly important in a relationship but I believe that the mentality of what you do or do not find stimulating about a relationship is a psychological development of what you've subconciously trained yourself to believe. My father cheated on my mother when I was six and they divorced. My life from there changed, for better or worse, obviously but what I'm getting at is my father's lusting around was viewed by me as a negative thing and therefore could have been the cause that I wound up placing sexual stimulation on a smaller scale in the grand scheme of what keeps love going. Hope you get what I'm saying. I'm in a similar situation and can talk for hours about this so if you'd like some more help if this answer was helpful to you, you can send an email over and I'd be glad to help more if I could. Ray
2016-03-27 09:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets just make the answer to a long story, short....
Why do you feel a sexual attraction to a complete asshole when you already have a loving boyfriend? It's because YOU are a complete asshole! You're going to lose your good guy to be with a jerk and in the end you'll have nothing, and that's what ya get girl.
2006-09-25 14:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok your problem is that you got everything you want so you want what you shouldnt have its the dont touch thing like when you where a child they said dont touch that then when they turned their head you touch it anyway . you must ask yourself is this type of guy what i want to go forward with and am i willing to become like this guy cause thats what youll have to do to stay with him here and later youll be a very sorry feeling person and youll wish you could take it all back but too late so think now cause later wont do .the odds are this guy will only give you a small peace of his attention and he will want to only cheat with you not be with you and when people ask him he will denie you . hes trying to tell you without telling you that hes attracted but not interested its only a sex thing and youll get nothing afterwards here . you need to sit down and ask yourself do i want to downgrade my morals here and maybe its time you broke it off with the guy your with because your mind and heart isnt his . sorry but this is reality and if you love or like this guy he dosent deserve to be done this way . my advice is dump your bf and get another job somewhere else . forget about bad boy and find yourself a happy medium with new guy thats closer to bothtypes but not taken . this is the best choice if your going to len towards the bad types cause pursueing taken guy will cause you terrible pain if you continue and staying in this job will get you nothing but a cheating session with him on down the line then your hurt i promise
2006-09-25 14:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by sigmond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him back. Trust me girl, it's all about our wonderful female hormones. They make us feel and do the DUMBEST things sometimes!
No honey, you're not a ho. Sh*t happens and we can't always control our emotions. Give it time, you'll figure out what you need to do.
2006-09-25 13:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by yumyum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his personality is so different from your boyfriends that you wanted to flirt with him for a change
2006-09-25 13:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by Push it. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are enjoying the danger, the "badboy" attraction that some girls like. You and all the other girls will grow up one day and realize how silly you were.
2006-09-25 13:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel u girl... the same thing has happened to me too. men do things like that to sometimes make you come running to them.... dont do it!!! ignore his *** back. you do not need a drug addict in your life it's not good company!
2006-09-25 13:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by apple martini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm...could it be you are a ho with an over active libido? A perfect example of why women suck.
2006-09-25 14:03:28 · answer #9 · answered by Perry L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an idea . . . why don't you try something different and be one of those rare women who isn't attracted to a jerk?
2006-09-25 14:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by mike_answ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋