I dont really have a question I guess. Just looking for someone who maybe has more than one child who could give me some reassurance. This is my first baby, and I worry about this child all the time. I'm 16 weeks along, and Ive saw my baby on ultrasound and it was moving, I heard the heartbeat & it was 150 bpm and my doctor has told me everything was alright. But I still cant sleep at night because I am so worried about my baby, and for no reason at all. I worry that because I cant feel it yet, or because it dosnt do anything right now that its not alright. Can someone just tell me it will be alright and I am worrying for no reason!!
2006-09-25 13:49:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You can usually feel the baby at 4-5 months. I wouldn't worry, chances are you're not as far along as you and your doctor think. Sounds like SHE has a good, fast heartbeat. Don't stress about it too much, that in it's self can cause problems. Just relax and enjoy the experience and the changes that each day will bring. Congrats!
2006-09-25 13:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by spitonapit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first pregnancy followed a miscarriage, so I was nervous anyway. The baby hardly ever moved. I saw it in an ultrasound, and the doctor would say things were fine. I'd hear its hearbeat. The pregnancy books would say if you didn't feel the baby move in 24 hours call the doctor. I'd go for about 23 hours, and in that time I'd sometimes try to stretch way out and see if I could feel the baby moving - nothing. At 24 or 27 hours or so I might feel something I thought was the baby, but wasn't sure of.
The only time the baby would seem to move a little was if I sat at a keyboard with my legs crossed (and the baby "smooshed" I guess) and typed. Then I'd feel the slightest movement but it was clear it was the baby.
I had terrible, terrible, fear that there was something horribly wrong. I wasn't very big and had had the miscarriage before. I was so scared I wouldn't call the doctor if 24 hours passed, and I didn't say anyting to anyone about the fact that I was kind of thinking the baby wasn't alive. The day I went to deliver I had a really "cynical" kind of attitude going in, and I thought secretly, "Sure. Let's see if I go home with a baby."
If the pregnancy had gone past 35 weeks the baby may have moved more, but he was born early - a super-screaming, super-kicking, super-feisty tiny little guy. He had been in a sort of funny position before he was born, and maybe that stopped him from being able to move too much in the final weeks of the pregnancy.
I didn't get to go home with a baby, but I got to go back and feed my cutie for a couple of weeks until he could come home. He was a beautiful, very bright, incredibly sweet baby, toddler, and child. It was only in the last couple of years that I've ever told anyone the horrible thoughts I had when I was expecting him - and he's graduated from college!!! That's how scared I was (and for no reason).
When I was expecting my daughter a few years later she moved and moved all through the day every day after I first felt the movement. I had trouble sleeping because of her seemingly unrelenting movements. It was great!
The point is don't worry. My son can't be the only one who was like he was before he was born. I didn't enjoy the pregnancy because I had hanging over my head the worry that I was carrying around a fetus I'd never get to bring home. Try to remember my little story, and try to enjoy the pregnancy. These days ultrasounds show up just about everything; so if the doctor sees nothing wrong just assume there isn't. There are no guarantees something won't go wrong, but your not feeling movement is not a sign that something is wrong.
The baby may move more later. If, by any chance, you have any extra weight through the middle you may not feel the weaker movements in the beginning. If the baby doesn't ever move much don't worry either. If one of your worries is that the baby is going to be "slow" forget that worry too. My son was a top-of-the-class kind of kid after starting kindergarten on the early side.
2006-09-25 14:14:01 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so sweet it is OK!! I remember all so well how you are feeling right now. I am 32 weeks and I was where you are not so long ago. Just try to relax and read stuff that pertains to the week your at read lots of books and get week to week emails about your pregnancy from pregnancyweekly.com it is OK that you have not felt your babies movements yet it usually flutters around 18 weeks and the movements aren't strong enough for any one else to feel until about 26 weeks. Your baby has a very good heartbeat as well for 150 bpm that is great news that where you want it to be in the middle. good luck and take care
2006-09-25 15:14:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly natural to worry about your child. I never felt any of my babies move until I was about 19 to 20 weeks along. Right now, your baby is still too small to feel it move, or since it's your first baby, you may have felt it move, and not known what it was. The first time I felt it, I thought it was just gas bubbles. Relax, and enjoy this time. If you want to try bonding with your baby before it's born, try listening to soft music, or read to him/her. I would recommend something that either rhymes, or is repetitious. Good luck, and best wishes.
2006-09-25 13:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by haysncgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything is going to be ok your already being a great mommy and worrying is ok cause if you didnt love your baby you wouldnt worry. your baby seems to be doing great. I have a 1 yr old son and i didnt start feeling him move till after 16 weeks and its perfectly normal. just know your baby is healthy and soon you will be laughing about this and your little one will be kicking you in the bladder. :) the only advice i can give is enjoy every minute of it because it goes by too fast. best of luck mommy!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-25 15:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by mommyshlee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jessika, i am sure things will be fine, with my first baby i felt the same way, i already knew the sex of him before i ever felt him move, i would tell my husband before every appointment "i sure hop they hear a heartbeat" and he would laugh it off but i was serious. Everything turned out fine with me, in fact i was making it a little too comfortable for the little guy he overstayed his welcome by two weeks. Soon you will be feeling the baby all the time and that will be the reason your not sleeping. Good luck and best wishes with you little one.
2006-09-25 14:10:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are all normal worries during pregnancy and will subside a little once you can feel the baby move, only to start up again once the baby is born!!! Just a normal part of parenthood!! Good Luck and congratulations on your pregnancy!!!!
2006-09-25 13:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by bec 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally sympathize, girl. I worry my brains out too. I'm on antianxiety medication (Zoloft, okay for pregnancy) and have been for years as I am a very anxious person regardless. I think pregnancy hormones make anxiety much worse. I've read from all kinds of women that they are suffering from excessive worrying... It's in our nature. It just means you'll be a good mommy. I'm sure you and your baby will be just fine. Just try to relax and try not to stress. :)
2006-09-25 13:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww sweetie calm down, take a deep breath. you, and your baby, are going to be fine! relax and enjoy pregnancy as this will be one of the happiest times of your life! if goes by so quickly. i have a 3 year old and i long for the day i will meet the right man and be pregnant again. best wishes and please relax and have pleasant thoughts of your growing miracle.
2006-09-25 13:52:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many times you can not feel the baby move yet, give it time.
Here's a great book I saw about healthy pregnancies;
http://www.recipes-for-a-healthy-home.com/healthyorganicbooks.html
2006-09-25 14:13:23 · answer #10 · answered by Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋