We share fantasies sometimes, the other day she told me she has been having mfm fantasies. I am not very well endowed, and sometimes lack at what it takes to satisfy her. I can tell she is fustrated with my size. She told me the fantasy included me, but should I still be concern?
2006-09-25 13:28:48 · 30 answers · asked by Steve J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's healthy to fantasize, It's a very big step in fantasizing and then making it become a reality.
If your initial discussion reveals that you both are interested in swinging, you MUST develop a set of rules in order to be successful.
Rules allow each of you to understand each other's comfort levels, interests and "sore spots", and without a good set of rules, you will almost definitely suffer jealousy, and anger, and being uncomfortable.
It's something that needs to be well thought out and just because she has this fantasy does not mean she loves you any less.
2006-09-25 14:27:21 · answer #1 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a sexual fantasy it his a healthy normal thing. Its great that you and your wife share them. I wouldn't get too worried about it as I am sure you have told her some of yours....right? As for your concerns that you are not "well endowed, and sometimes lack at what it takes to satisfy her" Has she voiced this or is this just your feelings? You know us guys put WAY to much pressure on our selves over the size of our...well you know LOL. Talk to her about this or if she has mentioned it to you then maybe try introducing sex toys into your relationship. They can be great when you share them and don't worry or be intimidated by them as they will never be able to take your place. You can use them to be like having a threesome without the "Third wheel" If you know what I mean. maybe you need to talk to her about what she wants you to do different....after all if she does not tell you what she wants you to do to get over the top...how will you know? All women are different and what works for one not always works for the other. Again that's where a sex toy can really help....you can see what she likes and where.
Best of luck and have fun trying different things...you will figure it out *S*
2006-09-25 20:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may want to venture out on her own to fulfill her fantasy. Are you prepared for that? As for the mfm, don't do it unless you can get into it. She just may want you to watch and be humiliated and turned on at the same time. Who knows? In any case, I probably would be concerned. If she LOVES sex and is very aggressive, then she might seek out her fantasy, whether you're a part of it or not. Keep her as satisfied as you can and incorporate new ways to make love. Good Luck!
2006-09-25 20:38:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First... size doesnt matter unless it is really small. You can still satisfy a woman with a less endowed penis so dont let that make you insecure. It all has to do with the way you do it!!! you may need to be more creative in other ways than mfm. Good Luck
2006-09-25 20:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by foxyraley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key. Having enough trust in your partner to be able to share your fantasys is a good sign. Share how you feel. You probably have nothing to worry about. A good idea may be a little role playing in the bed room. Remember it is the motion of the ocean, not necessarily your size. Try giving her really good head and wearing costumes. Good luck.
2006-09-25 20:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by Mega_Areee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
Fantasies are called Fantasy for a reason, it's not reality it's a dream. My fiancee had a dream that he was gay (lol) and it freaked him out.
But anyway, if you're not interested in a male on male type of relationship be sure to let her know that you wouldn't ever take part in something like that.
If she wants to see you with another man then she doesn't love you anyway because a real marriage lets no other lovers inside, meaning no affairs, and even though it would be with another guy, it would still be an affair.
2006-09-25 20:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1: it's a fantasy. 2: women actually prefer more girth than length 3: don't be so hung up. 4: I'm sure she's not crazy about at least one of YOUR fantasies. 5: incorportate a long, think dildo into your play to make up for your size. You might learn something interesting... Like that it WAS ONLY A FANTASY!
2006-09-25 20:42:01 · answer #7 · answered by Valeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably nothing to be concerned about. Maybe she just wants variety. I fantasize a lot about fmf possibilities. I realize it probably won't happen in this lifetime. I have trouble hooking up with even one woman. Fantasies are like a playground, you can imagine anything you want to, allow her to also. I wish I had somebody to share mine with. Until you really try to or do them, fantasies are harmless I think, prety much anything goes with fantasies, 12 women and all that.
2006-09-25 20:33:41 · answer #8 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should worry, im in the same boat my wife has given me many fmf adventures and resently told me she wanted a mfm adventure i posponed it and dident take it seriously and sure enough she strayed and screwed some other dude. the worst part was that i could have been there to make sure there was no emoitions involved and almost lost her if you give it to her you can regulate it and make sure its only sex. and no emotions envolved. trust me it would be min your best intrest to do this for her
2006-09-25 20:34:43 · answer #9 · answered by missinranette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
size shouldn't matter.....or a tongue wouldn't do such a good job.
she may be wanting a three way. be careful. that may, and probably will, irreparably modify your relationship with her. tell her that it is no longer a fantasy if you act it out. then it's real and sometimes a lot of unwanted baggage comes with reality.....just like the situation you in which you now find yourself.
2006-09-25 20:35:27 · answer #10 · answered by deeperthinker1006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋