My stepdad NEVER wants to do anything with me. He always finds a lame excuse, I wonder if I embarrass him in public or if there is something. Because I always wanna go do something and he just wants to do his own thing. If I wanna play a video game with him he'll say he doesn't feel like playing one, and then maybe 10 minuits later go play one of his own video games by himself. It just makes me feel unwanted. All of my friends dad's and stepdads to stuff with each other like- Go practice shooting, play video games, go on walks, etc etc. So I don't know what to do.
Thanks for ANY sort of help
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Oh yea and my mom just had a baby in July, and so I am on the only child basically (14 year old) and all he wants to do is be with her or the baby. I just feel unwanted, and there is nobody to hang out with, so I just feel really lonely.
-Taylor :)
2006-09-25 13:21:34 · 8 answers · asked by Taylor N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should sit down with both your parents and tell them exactly what you've said here. When you talk them don't say "You never want to do anything with me" or "You always..." Instead use "I" statements. For example, "I would like for us to do things together, but I feel like you don't want to be bothered." Or "I see my friends and their dad doing things together, and I wish we could too." That way, you're explaining how you feel with making him defensive. I think it's great that you want to be involved with him. Being a step parent or step child isn't easy.
Maybe you can suggest doing something you both enjoy once a week, and see where it goes from there. If things don't improve, you should talk to your Mom. It sounds like there's a lot going on in your family, and everyone needs time to adjust. Also, get involved with your new baby brother/sister. Don't let this situation with your step dad stop you from being a great brother.
2006-09-25 13:31:49 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My step mum is like that!
I used to be nice and offer to do things and if she didnt wanna then id make it clear that she was being rude and not trying to find some kind of common ground!!
After a while a gave up!! And she started to ask me if i wanted to do things!
And with a new baby around it doesnt make it easy!! Just bide ur time and see what happens!! dont give up!
2006-09-25 13:25:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your mother about it? Try getting them together, and then bringing it up, maybe sweetheart you can find a after school club to get onto some activities at. Don't worry about Step-dad, that is not the example of what a man should be.
2006-09-25 13:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by shawnthavirgo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry hunny but that is life. He is a step dad and that may mean he really does not want to spend a lot of time with you. You are not really his child and he may find it difficult to be around you. I does not have anything to do with you. It all has to do with him not being ready to open up to you. Give him sometime and maybe he will come around.
2006-09-25 13:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres what you do, the subsequent time he hits you, call 911 and characteristic the police manage him. he would be arrested and charged with attack, and could hopefully be court docket ordered into anger managment and scientific care. no person would desire to lay their palms on yet another, in no way a woman or new child, your doorstep-dad is majorly interior the incorrect right here for assaulting you. I dont condone violence, yet heavily the subsequent time he hits you, pop him lower back, he needs to income how unpleasent it feels to be hit and hopefully which will make him comprehend to not manage different that way.
2016-12-18 16:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that but that's how parents are. Dnt give up. T hey still love you.Its just that babies need more attention. U shuold hang out with your friends more often in order not to feel left out. It will help.
2006-09-25 13:27:12 · answer #6 · answered by angelfish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for you. I think you need to tell your step father that you want to spend more time with him. Offer to treat him to ice cream. That will shock him. Family is so important. I admire your desire to be closer to your family. Please talk to them. Also try to take intrest in your new baby sibling. That will help your parents . Your relationship with the baby is important too.
2006-09-25 13:28:20 · answer #7 · answered by weswe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. Have you talked to him about this yet? Maybe he doesn't realize how his actions come off. If you don't want to talk to him, you could write him a letter and tell him what you want. It sounds like you really want a relationship with him and I bet if you are straightforward with him he will listen and things will change.
Good luck!!
2006-09-25 13:24:59 · answer #8 · answered by leannainpa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋