2006-09-25 13:17:21 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm 19 years and still waiting....
2006-09-25 13:19:07 · answer #1 · answered by Valeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accepting your mistake is the first step towards making up for it. Nonetheless, to your case saying sorry is not adequate, you ought to quite trade. After you cheated on her twice it is very natural on her phase to not believe you again. Are you particularly inclined alternate? Everybody deserves a threat and so do you. However this possibly the last hazard you might get. You are not able to regain her trust in a moment. It'll take time. Trade your behavior towards her. Make her consider loved and give her an assurance that you are going to stay devoted. Bring about the exchange slowly on account that you do not want her to get suspicious of why you are actually being so just right to her. Let it come naturally and spot how well she responds. Additionally, discontinue making an attempt too hard, let the regulation of least effort work. This doesn't mean you thoroughly withdraw from the obstacle. Don't are attempting too difficult and don't do not are trying at all. Watch what you might be speakme and appearing when she is around because although she suggests as if she is not noticing you, she is maintaining a detailed watch at you. In the end, time heals just about everything. So provide time. Your belief for your marriage is very predominant. Hold believing. Existence will hold unfolding and you'll be amazed to look what comes subsequent. Peace.
2016-08-09 15:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by burgas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, trust will never be gained back.
I know because I tried. Trust is an essential part of a relationship and after someone abuses that trust you can't help but be hurt.
A couple years back, I was with a serious boyfriend for a yea, we had plans to get engaged.. come to find out he was cheating. Although we weren't married, the pain was just as bad as an affair because he was my steady partner. So, I though because I loved him so much I could see past what he did and regain my trust slowly but surely. Sad to say, It didn't work... it only broke our relationship. I couldn't trust a cheater and I am glad I didn't. I now have a fabulous fiancee and my ex; well he has two baby mothers! So, If you get what I am trying to say, sometimes people don't deserve a second chance.
I believe most marriages can be fixed with communication and compromise... however, I believe a cheater will always be a cheater and someone who loves you won't cheat.
If you allow her to get away with it this time, she will only continue to do so. She didn't appreciate you then, what makes you think she will now?
2006-09-25 13:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will never fully return. However if you learn to forgive her at least you can go on and it will not continue to bother you daily.
One thing to look out for. When you discovered this, how did she react to you finding this out. Was she devastated and ask for your forgiveness? Or was it more well...I'm sorry....but I can't take it back now.
How she reacted to it will tell you if it will happen again.
Don't look at her reaction and read into it what you want to.
You can't help but show your pain to her. When you do does it seem to hurt her to or is she kind of....well it happened.....sorry but you'll have to get over it.
If you get the second response you have your future with this woman right in front of your eyes.
I speak from experience and I chose to see what I wanted to. I payed for that later on. Don't do that.
2006-09-25 13:31:42 · answer #4 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forever
2006-09-25 13:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy get over it already ,it's probably still going on
but with someone else.Trust is gone it's in her blood now
it might work for awhile but that door might open again.
Tell her to politly pound the pavement,bet you the other guyzzzz probably don't want her either.There's lots out
there don't cheat yourself.Remember only one life to live.
2006-09-25 13:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by bumble b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't measure trust by how many days or how many hears. Its all about sincerity from yourself to her and how much love and care you have for her. 13 years of marriage is not short. Love is unconditional, especially when is after married is regardless of faithful or how much she love you. Is about how much you trust and love her, how much you make her feel love and comfortable.
2006-09-25 13:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by Trouble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's completely up to you. It's all in your head. Some people are crippled by it, but if you're wise, you will forgive and forget. You are just torturing yourself over something that ultimately has no consequence. Rise above!
2006-09-27 15:14:11 · answer #8 · answered by ann_tracks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never trust a woman who has cheated on you.
The trust is broken if she did it once she will do it again .
If they know you forgiving they will always be tempted to do it again. She knows you are soft .
2006-09-25 13:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by Road Warrior 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A LONG LONG TIME.
It will never be where it was though. Maybe thats not all bad.
The biggest excuse is always our not paying attention.
Put one in the she owes you column and never let her forget it.
2006-09-25 13:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the person, but time does heal all wounds.
You can learn to trust her again, if you really want to - but you have to want to.
2006-09-25 14:19:05 · answer #11 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋