My wife left with my son, she left me because she does not want to be with someone who is disabled.
2006-09-25 13:13:28 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would forget about the *****... but seek advice about the best interest and visitation of your son... you deserve someone that loves you for you ...
2006-09-25 13:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by oracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing all the circumstances of your situation it would be difficult to give you a helpful answer. One thing you need to keep in mind is she is not a prize to win, or win back. There is almost always an underlined reason for anyone leaving a marriage. Look for those reasons and try to open up communications to resolve them. Love is one of those few emotions, like fear, that can take on many personas. I love my dog but not the same as I love pizza or movies or my family. She may still love you and just not be able the fact that you are disabled. Some people can love without any conditions, while others love with conditions. She may love you but her love has reached the limit of her own conditions of being able to stay with you. I feel your heartache and I sympathize with your pain. It's difficult to give your love completely and then lose the love the other person had for you. You are left still in love and broken hearted with someone who may not ever come back. To include the fact that you and her have a son just adds to your pain. I am not disabled but if I were I would want to be with a woman who can handle that and love me inspite of it. I know my answer is not helping much but things will get better for you. Time does not heal all wounds but it does make them easier to live with. My advice to you is ... don't try to win her back. Just let her know how much you truly love her and you are willing to at least try to understand things from her point of view. Open a dialog with her that may lead you down roads you've never traveled and take you to a place in your relationship you never dream you could go. If after that she still will not come back to you then at least your conscience will be at rest knowing you did your very best to make it work. It will be her lose and hopefully anothers gain someday. Good luck.
2006-09-25 13:35:42 · answer #2 · answered by johnsmith2965 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is selfish! You don't need to win her back, she doesn't deserve you.
The marriage vows were "For Better Or For Worse" and although you're disabled, which may be "at your worst", doesn't give her the right to leave you!!
A good wife would've stuck by your side. If she isn't sticking by you then she doesn't love you and doesn't deserve you or a family.
I know right now it may seem hard to cope but god will get you through this. And, if you don't believe in god, just realize what goes down has to get better at some point. You may be at rock bottom right now but I believe you'll recover from this pain if you get counseling rather then trying to win this negative woman back into your life.
God Bless.
2006-09-25 13:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is also disabled and although you don't specify what your disability is.........well I guess it doesn't matter. Fact is, some people are not cut out to be the caregiver and some people just need time to adjust. I have had to take over everything, home repairs, etc. Everything that he once did I am now doing. It is a stressful, exhausting and the most rewarding experience I have ever had. I wish you the best, God Bless You and try to keep things in perspective.
2006-09-25 13:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by Olivia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be leaning too hard on the crutch. Disabled people who don't consider themselves disabled lead very productive meaningful lives. Did she say she left because you are disabled, or are you using that as a crutch. It is unfortunate if you are disabled, but you have to rise above it and make yourself a whole man. Then she might want you back. My husband lost an arm, a leg, and half of his face in Nam, but he got back in charge of his life, and made himself easy to love not pity.
2006-09-27 15:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by ann_tracks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife doesn't deserve you. I'm sorry cause I'm sure you love her, but you should focus on your relationship with your son. If she leaves cause you need extra assistance, she lied when she said "till death do we part". Unless your disability is only so you can collect a paycheck without working. If you really have lost some function to be able to support yourself in some way, take her *** for allimony.
2006-09-25 13:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by mixmaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want her back? She can't legally take your son from you so my advice is to hire a lawyer, get visitation rights with your son, and leave the wife in the dust. She should be ashamed of herself!
2006-09-25 13:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by Taffi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
were you disabled when she met you? if not did you not take the vows for better or worse? I think if you love her you should tell her and win her back. I would never leave my husband because he was disabled are you sure there isn't another reason? good luck
2006-09-25 13:16:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anna Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. People choose what they want to do. Anything you do to get her back will be a temporary fix.
Go to court and shared custody of your child. Be respectful of her in terms of you interact and speak of her. But forget about any relationship with her other than what is necessary.
2006-09-25 13:28:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get over the hurt feelings you will realize that she done you a favor.You don't really want someone who doesn't love you enough to accept you as you are.
2006-09-25 13:21:45 · answer #10 · answered by mercury9501 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋