I'm 15 and 3 of my closest friends, who are also 15, have already had boyfriends. They've all french kissed a guy at least once, and I've never kissed a guy nor had a boyfriend. Sometimes that fact kicks my self-confidence and makes me wonder if something's wrong with me. Do you think my friends are moving too fast or am I not moving fast enough?
2006-09-25 12:58:47 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wait until you feel like it, don't follow your Friends
2006-09-25 13:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are moving way to fast, you don't need a boyfriend to get validation or acceptance from others. When the time is right for you, the boyfriend and first kiss will happen.
I have a daughter your age, and she fell into the same trap, all her friends had boyfriends, first kisses, and unfortunately a lot of other firsts. She had sex once, told him no more, and he dumped her. By the way, she told us the reason, we didn't have to pry it out of her. We have good communication, we can talk with her about anything.
Be yourself, when the time is right for you, you will know. Until then enjoy friendships and don't get too serious. Your attitude and asking this question prove you are more mature than a lot of 15 year olds. Continue to develop that maturity, continue to grow, and don't allow peer pressure to "make" you do something your feel your not ready for.
2006-09-25 13:05:50 · answer #2 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, there is nothing wrong with you! You have to do things at your own pace, and try not to judge yourself by the things other people do. I don't know if your friends are moving too fast, but I guarantee you that if they start having sex that young, they will regret it. Don't ever feel like you have to move faster, to be better. The longer you wait, the better for you. When the time is right, you will know, and you'll be happy. 15 is still really young. I went too fast at a young age, as did many of my friends, and there isn't one that didn't feel some sense of regret for doing so. Be yourself, and go with what feels right to you, that's the best you can do.
2006-09-25 13:09:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say move at your own pace you feel comfortable, I think they are moving too fast though. You seem like a girl who has her head on her shoulders, and if you are getting pressured into having a boyfriend or getting kissed by a guy, just tell them hey I heard virginity is the trend these days, so I think I will keep mine thank you. And let them know that you feel just fine not having a boyfriend right now, that you are wanting to do things in your life that having a boyfriend at such a young age would distract you in conquering your goals. Also let them know that you will get a boyfriend when you darn good and ready too lol. and that you don't want to be pushed and if they were true friends they wouldn't push you to having a boyfriend right now. which I am guessing they aren't doing but you are feeling like you are being pushed. just let them know how you feel. and I am sure they won't "rub it in your face" that they have a boyfriend and you don't kind of thing. They might not even know they are doing such a thing. I would say just be true to your self and don't let others get in your way or distract you in to getting what you want in life.
2006-09-25 13:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by Betty C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that your moving at your own pace. Don't try to rush the whole relationship thing it's really not that serious , Right now your main focus should be on school. Boys will always be around and I think your first kiss should be with a special boyfriend. Take your time your not moving to fast or too slow your just being you!
2006-09-25 13:04:20 · answer #5 · answered by justcurious 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has there own pace. My daughter is 16 and is still a virgin and so far plans to stay that way until marriage. (cross my finger) :) But she has had a few boyfriends and yes she kisses and all that stuff. She too was the last of her Friends to do so. I told her that in time she will know when she is ready for such a relationship. No need to rush anything, you have the rest of your life to have as many boyfriends as you wish. Be very picky, and take it slow. It will happen to you!
2006-09-25 13:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it at all. It will happen soon enough with you too. There is a chance that your friends may be making things up to seem as if they are 'keeping up' with others, so take it with a grain of salt. Your three friends aren't a huge comparison, there are likely to be hundreds of thousands of girls in the same position as you. Everyone goes at their own pace and you're better waiting to meet a guy who really treats you well and who you like than throwing away the memory of your first proper kiss and boyfriend on some loser who treats you like dirt. It will happen for you in time. Trust me.
2006-09-25 13:03:55 · answer #7 · answered by sticky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're a child yet. No need to get serious and start experimenting this early. I'm sorry to say your friends will get the reputation of being easy.
There's nothing wrong with you not having a boyfriend at your age. When I was younger you weren't even allowed to date until you were 16. It's not a bad thing to be independent and able to take care of yourself and be happy as yourself and not rely on having a boyfriend to make you happy.
2006-09-25 13:04:07 · answer #8 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friends are moving way too fast. You've got a whole life time to date and kiss. Enjoy your youth and when the time comes you'll know if you are ready or not and if not no problem. Follow your heart. Tell your friends they are cheating themselves out of a lot of life experiences by starting too soon. They'll have nothing to look forward to if they do it all now.
2006-09-25 13:02:50 · answer #9 · answered by Janet lw 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. You don't have to be like them.
This happened to me when I was a teenager. My girlfriends where sexually active in their early teens but that stuff never really interested me. even though I had boyfriends I didn't want to have sex or get to heavy.
You have plenty of time for kissing and stuff. Just enjoy being a teenager. You will end up having a much stronger relationship when you do meet a guy you like and you wont be worn out by the time your 20.
2006-09-25 13:14:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem except I am a guy and I let it worry me WAY too much. It caused me to blow a relationship with a wonderful girl because she was moving slow. Truth is, she was the only one smart enough to act sensibly. Work on who you are and what you want to be. Don't be a follower of the crowd, whatever you do. Be different. Be respectable. Be sensible.
2006-09-25 13:06:02 · answer #11 · answered by Gregg J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋