become convienced that no one understood him. That everyone was too envolved in thier own lives to care about his needs. That basicly we were all selfish..I know that I never gave him that idea, Heck..I remember every conversation we had, But he doesn't want to talk to anyone anymore. He even believes that his family no longer cares for him, That they merely "tolarate" him. He won't return my calls, my emails, etc..So, I felt forced to end the friendship, thinking thats what he really wanted, But I do care 4him, like a brother. But if he doesnt want contact, what do I do? I have sent him an email already telling him that I am hurt by his actions, but if he wants left alone,.so be it.
Do I just give up and go on? Do I hope that he changes his mind?
I just want to know if he's ok...
2006-09-25 12:51:24 · 7 answers · asked by Mommy Dearest 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
We are both adults...over 30 actually.
2006-09-25 12:58:00 · update #1
It sounds like he may be suffering from depression. I don't think he wants the friendship to end, but he is at a point in his life where he really believes that other people don't care, he can't think rationally. Get some facts on depression, and then if you can, discuss it with him, maybe he'll agree, maybe he won't, but at least you tried. Good luck.
2006-09-25 12:58:47 · answer #1 · answered by Kerry 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know those kind of friendships are so hard because we want to be needed and accepted.
The best advice I can give you is to talk to your friend and to be open-to your friend and also to meeting other people. Hope that your friend realizes what he is doing and you need to try to move along with life slowly. Don't dwell on your friend so much that you don't feel like the same person everybody knows you as. You're gonna be OK.
Some friendships don't last forever...and thats OK because one day somebody will come along and will need a friend like you. That may sound corny but it's true.
2006-09-25 13:01:53 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your friend might be depressed. If you cannot get through to him, maybe you could contact someone within his family and say that you are concerned about your friend and his well-being and ask them if they've noticed any similar changes. Your friend may need the benefit of therapy. Just tell your friend that you are there for him if he needs you, and continue being a presence. But in the end, you do need to be a little "selfish," b/c you can't live your friend's life for him --- you need to make sure you are taken care of first.
2006-09-25 12:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by J.Z. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is depressed and could be thinking of suicide. This is sometimes what happens when they feel unloved and not cared for enough. For you, it will be hard to just give and move on. Try getting him some help
2006-09-25 12:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by Branded with the Dark Mark 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is very depressed. I would call his parents and talk with them. He could also be on drugs! Sorry - could be! Someone doesn't change like this for no reason - especially with that attitude!
2006-09-25 12:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by Blond Logic 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the answers here, you should try to get help for him before he does something he might regret. You might also feel guilty, so try to find him some help before he does anything to harm himself. You care a lot for your friend , so please do all you can for him. he needs you now.
2006-09-25 12:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cant make him want to talk to you. You can only hope that he comes around. go to hallmark.com and send him an e card they will tell you when he reads it
2006-09-25 12:57:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋