PARENTS, when you were growing up, did you ever say that you would be a "cool" parent...?

Question

but you ended up being the complete opposite?

my mom told me that she used to say that she would be a cool parent, but she's not as cool as she said she wanted to be. i'm 17 and i know that i'm not going to be a cool parent. i'm going to be a good parent, but wont let my kids get spoiled or do whatever they want to do. they'll be diciplined (is that how u spell it?).

Answer 1

Yes! And I always said I wouldn't be "mean" either. LoL I think our definition of cool back then was different than it is now, you know? I think I am a "cool enough" parent -- not very cool but my son's friends all like and respect me. I think that if we parents were actually considered "cool," we probably would be liked but not truly respected or have the kind of authority that we should have. I think you will be a great parent because you already have a more mature attitude about parenting than most people your age. You will care more about being your children's parent and not their friend. And you know what? I think that's pretty darn cool.

Answer 2

I'm a cool parent and my parents were cool too. Being a cool parent doesn't mean spoiling your kids and letting them do what they want. Cool parents take time to listen to there kids and put real effort into understanding what they need. I respect my parents a lot and i have always felt as if i had cool parent even when they where strict on me. I know that when i was in need of support no matter what the issue i could count on them to be there for me. That's still true today and I'm 26 with a 4 year old. Cool parents are the ones who allow there kids some freedom while guiding them in the right direction and supporting them.

Answer 3

Disciplined. You were close. You don't want to be a cool parent. I was, or tried to be and my 2 sons love me but they did not get the discipline and guidance they should have because I was still a party animal and not really prepared to be a parent. My dad beat the **** out of us 4 kids when I grew up and I didn't want to be that. Thankfully, I wasn't other than some spanking when they were young but when I felt that getting out of control I stopped forever. They were about 6 and 10 then. I always tried to be their friend and that was O.K. but I didn't push them hard enough in the right direction. I set a bad example, too. But all in all, they turned out O.K. No drugs or alcohol (anymore) and they stay out of trouble with the law. I just wish I could have prepared them to be more prosperous. They're getting by but it's a struggle. They are relatively happy, too. I wish I would have been more like Ward Cleaver. Or even Andy Griffith. Good Luck. By the way. Mine weren't planned. Just sort of showed up. Surprise!!!

Answer 4

My mom and I were just talking about that not that long ago, my son is 5 now, I swore when I was a teenager I wasnt going to be that strict etc. etc... Yeah well guess what I am a single mom and I am the disciplinarian in the parent dept, his dad is the typical disney dad, I am on the phone, email with his teacher, punish him when he doesnt behave, have strict rules and structure just like my mom did. I dont spank, but I believe in actions having consequences, and it works well, I get nothing but compliments on my sons behavior and how polite he is, mind you he has ADHD, but we have worked hard to help control him without meds, and he is happy, healthy and well adjusted...

I am glad I am not the cool parent, because as an adult I have alot of respect for my mother and how her rules made me the person I am today

Answer 5

I was never concerned about being a cool parent but I was determined to be a good parent who gave a lot of love, trained my children in the nurture and love of God, and worked hard to provide for them. I did all those things. I guess one out of three successes will have to do. I have a wonderful daughter who at 30 has a great husband and a houseful of great children. The two boys? well, after their father molested them....I got what I guess I should have expected (but didn't). One's a drunk and a woman beater; the other is a strung out wiccan. I never see either of them; haven't for years. But I've got the peace of mind in knowing that I might not have been real cool but I was a good parent to all my children.

Answer 6

Before you become a parent it is easy to THINK you know the correct way to do everything. Once you become a parent you learn you didnt know much at all and then as your kids get older they let you know that you knew nothing at all and they have all the answers. A good parent will be solid, loving, not always your friend but have your best interest at heart and teach you to seek God for all the answers in life cause honey you are gonna need him.

Kathy

Answer 7

i said i would be a cool parent but being a cool parent and being a good parent can be two diffrent things. if being a cool parent means my daughter can come to me and talk to me about anything with out me cussing her and calling her a slut, then yes i am but if it means that i let her dress like a prostitute and drink and do drugs in my presence then no, i'm not a cool mom. all the other teens say they wish i was thier mom cause they can come talk to me without being judged but to answer your question, yes. when i got mad at my mom i would tell her i wasn't gonna be like her and i was gonna be a cool mom. she just laughed at me and would walk off. now i know why she was laughing

Answer 8

I said the same thing,I also said I was going to be a cool grandma.If I'm still around I will be.

Answer 9

Everyone says that when they are young and immature. Then they realize that it is not good for the child.

Complicated. You'll understand some day.

Answer 10

yea ur right that da way me and my man are going 2 be when we do have baies.