my hubby recently got into my e mail I have been talkin to this guy we r just online friends nothing more! Now my hubby is angry with me called me a few names not nice ones, he's acting like I cheated on him or something! I am really ready to leave him, he has reasons not to trust me, but the stuff I have done I haven't ever cheated on him! Would any other guys out there be mad at their girls for having an online friendship with a guy nothin more! How would u guys react?
2006-09-25 12:43:28 · 28 answers · asked by boobear 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
If you are married, then there should be no secret, personal relationships with members of the opposite sex. Remember: you are team, a unit, one. Even the suggestion of some kind of trust or confidence that counters that commitment would promote a sense of detachment and betrayal in your partner.
If your hubby is important to you, then toss your computer. Junk it. Do something that leaves absolutely no doubt in his mind that whatever this thing was with your online buddy was a meaningless, trivial, throw-away daliance. And _do_ not maintain it covertly.
If it's more important to make a point and preserve this online thing, then prepare to part ways w/ your hubby, because he will not trust you.
2006-09-25 12:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by Green G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I remember when I first got on myspace, I would get messages from guys and I would participate in idle chitchat. Eventually they tried to take it further. I realized that they planned our conversations to lead to something more; eventually an exchange of phone number or face-to-face down the line. So I stopped returning messages and so forth. I wouldn't have idle chit chat with guys I meet in person, so why would I do it online, it's the same thing.
I don't think you should leave him, he should be the one that's angry. You two should try to work it out, and stop chatting with this guy online.
How would you feel if he had a female friend online...
2006-09-25 19:57:26 · answer #2 · answered by Marleaux 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The internet friend thing isn't really the issue.
Trust is the foundation of a successful relationship.
Your relationship doesn't have trust.
That is a problem.
Plus your husband is acting like a feminized wimp - looking through your emails - that is UNACCEPTABLE. Why doesn't he look through your diaries, and your panty drawer?
On the other hand, I'd say that there's a generally accepted consensus that if you're married you don't hang out with singles of the opposite sex. If I were to take my single, female friend from work to a bar after work - that wouldn't be acceptable.
If my wife and I went to the bar with the single friend - that would be okay.
Marriage is NOT EASY!
Marriage is going to test EVERYTHING in you.
Send your husband to a men's weekend if you want to keep him around. He doesn't understand his role in the marriage.
FP
2006-09-25 19:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that it makes someone mad only it also makes them feel really insufficient that you had to talk to a guy behind their back and not tell them. You really cant make your husband feel any worse. Theres nothing at all wrong with a friendship but why didnt you say something up front and feel that you needed to hide it thats the whole mistake right there, and now you want to leave him for being mad, honestly and iam not trying to be mean but marriages go two ways grow up, and think of both sides.
2006-09-25 19:48:47 · answer #4 · answered by bibby6914 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do think u should of been open with him about it , i chat with girls on here that are married and there relationships are secure enough to handle it and we dont talk about bad things or anything of that sort either, but for him to call u names over it is not right either . I wouldn't have a problem with it (if i had a gf lol) but i would like to know about it , couples should be open with each other , i also wouldn't go snooping either , but i also have to wonder what exactly he found in the email as well ......
2006-09-25 19:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by aaron 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess you just shot yourself in the foot there, you wanna leave him cause of some names he said to you? Do you actually love the guy? Because it seems like your looking for excuses to leave the person. And friend or no friend why are hiding and speaking to a guy whether it be in person or off the net? Dont he have the right to know? Dont take my comments personally but i think you need to understand if you was in his position...
2006-09-25 19:48:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dirt bag! how could you do such a thing and then make it out as if your husbands bad? you were having a one on one conversation with a guy, which could have led on to something else. Your a b*itch do you know that? your husband deserves better, i dont even want to look at your id! Once i post this answer im outa this question!
2006-09-25 20:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet&Sour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you are chatting with this guy about. If you're swapping recipes, no problem. If you're sharing your deepest feelings, hubby has a good reason to be upset. You said it yourself, he has reasons not to trust you.
2006-09-25 19:47:00 · answer #8 · answered by _me_ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion if you were just friends you should have told your husband
he obviously taught something was going on
if not he would not have took it upon himself to go and snoop around to find out what is going on
you should have been up front with him in the beginning
especially if you did other things pertaining to that
next time just tell him you have an on line friend
he will be much more understanding if you tell him rather than he finding out some other way
2006-09-25 19:52:38 · answer #9 · answered by annie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well put it this way, long story short. I tried everything in my power to get my ex-wife off the computer, I even did all the house work and took care of my little girls. In the end she left me for someone that she meet on-line. So does he have reason to be cautious, ABSOLUTELY!!!
2006-09-25 19:51:03 · answer #10 · answered by salembog 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋