Do you think it is fair to force a woman to keep a child that she does not want? I mean, is it fair to the child to grow up in that situation? I understand that she should have used protection to prevent the pregnancy, but once it happens...
I am not interested in hearing about how she should want the child or the steps she could have taken to prevent it - just opinions on the quality of that childs life.
2006-09-25 12:29:13 · 31 answers · asked by Gypsy Girl 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am pro-CHOICE because I have seen the emotional devastation inflicted upon an unwanted child, an adopted child. Not everyone that adopts a child has realistic expectations or the selfless love an adopted child needs.
Adoption is an option but has drawbacks. Just because you give up a child does not mean they will be better off, that is what they tell you but is not always true. Not to mention the emotional and psychological terror the mother has to deal with if/when the child she gave up finds her after 18 or 20 years. Many adopted children find their birth parents only to be rejected again.
2006-09-25 12:52:32 · answer #1 · answered by rwl_is_taken 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I am totally pro choice I think the people out there think a women should keep a child they dont want should take care and raise the baby for them. Then they might think twice about their opinion. Heres a good one what if they were raped and got preg. would they want the baby Not hardly. I think those people that are pro life should wake up to the reality of it all if a women doesnt want the baby then that is thier choice they are having to live with the decision not the pro life people. However I dont think aboition should be used as birth control like those women that have abortions every time they get preg. 5 or 6 times these women should be taking the necessary precautions. I dont think there would be a quality of life if a woman gave birth to a baby that she didnt want I think all there would be is resentment to the child not love.
2006-09-27 12:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by Aries Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pro-choice. I'll admit it. It's not the choice that I will ever make for myself, but it's your body, your life, your choice. I was raped when I was 18 years old and became pregnant. I looked into abortion, adoption, and keeping the child. In the end I chose to keep my daughter.
Adoption isn't as easy as everyone seems to make it out, either. After your child begins to move and grow inside you, you become attached and cannot go through with giving the child up. I just couldn't give my child, my flesh and blood, to someone else to raise. Look at all the birth parents that end up searching for their children later in life.
It is the same for abortion though. You may not want the child now, but later in life you may look back and feel like you were wrong. I'm not saying don't do it, but those people that I know that have had an abortion have always had some sort of mental anguish about it.
It's better to try to prevent it from occurring then have to worry about this choice, but accidents happen, believe me I know. Just look into all of your options, get counseling(most abortion clinics require this, and adoption agencies provide it, also), and make an educated decision.
2006-09-25 19:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by a1dermommy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some females don't want a child when they first find out... it can be because they think they can't afford it they don't know who the daddy is ect.. And they way I feel about it is if they didn't want a child they why have sex? I know sex is to feel good then go get you tubes tied! If pregnant it is not the babys fault so y kill him/her? She didn't ask to be here... If not wanted even after the mother has held her then give her up for adoption. There are tons of females who can't have children and would love too! If the only reason is because they don't think they can afford it there are places to help if she doesn't know the father there are tons of children without fathers, If she just doesn't want it then adoption. There is always a solution to look out for the childs best interst
2006-09-25 19:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by jharris8506 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single mother of three, so yes, I am pro life. I was always told that if you are willing to play around then you should take on the responsibilities that it comes with. If you do not want the child, then give it up for adoption, or seek out people you know who would like to have a child that you know would care for it in every way. Anything is better than abortion.
2006-09-25 19:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by lilmomma0482 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't want the child maybe the father does or someone in the family like the grandparent's.
She could also put it up for adoption but I do not think aborting the baby should be an option for her or anyone else for that matter!
The baby should be able to have a life how could you say automatically the baby would have a bad life you couldn't that baby deserves a chance its already living why kill it?
Only God has the right to take someone.
And if that mother or father could make a life they need to have enough responsibility to raise that life or at least give it to someone that wants a child
I don't understand how anyone could take a life a precious life of a baby! : (
2006-09-25 20:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If its not fair for that child to grow up in a "messed up" situation, give him/her up for adoption. I think its fair that they still have a chance at life. Would a mother feel worse knowing they ended a life because of a situation that could of been, or feel worse knowing that child is given a chance at life and being loved and taken care of by someone who is able to do it at the time?
2006-09-25 19:35:53 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not fair to force a woman to keep a child that she does not want. ADOPTION IS AN OPTION. There are many couples who would love and care for any child but are unable to have their own.
No, she shouldn't be able to kill an unborn baby because she doesn't want it. Yes, the child would be better off being adopted.
2006-09-25 19:35:03 · answer #8 · answered by tapping toes 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Abortion isn't the only answer, if she really feels in her heart that she does not want her child she should look into adoption. There are plenty of loving families out their to provide a home for her child. Also, abortion is so final, if she does have an abortion, she can't decide later that she might at least want to meet her child, because (s)he will be dead... And I have never met a woman who has had an abortion that didn't regret it.
2006-09-25 19:36:49 · answer #9 · answered by Sarifynna 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
An unwanted pregnancy is a difficult situation. The problem is: most people think more so much of themselves and nothing of the child. It's great that you're considering the child, but think about this: Do you honestly think the child would rather die than be exposed to whatever chances may lie ahead?
Billions of people suffer immensely. How come they haven't all chosen to die?
I think life fights to sustain itself. That includes unborn babies!
2006-09-25 20:46:55 · answer #10 · answered by ChildofGrace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋