how can a father walk away from there kids and never look back?Are men that cold???

Question

how do you tell them he is not coming back?

Answer 1

some men r dumb like that...my dad tends to be like that...my rents divorced and we bearly talk and if i am with him my step mom knows me more than he knows about me...and ive only known her for 3 years
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tell them daddy will be gone for a while

Answer 2

How old are you? Unbeleivable. I have been married 23 yrs, M.Sc., one daughter that I taught baseball, swimming, took to lessons, help with homework, worked full-time, home almost every night for supper, talk to wife about her day, help wife finish for her B.Sc., helped her take extra college enrichment courses, spent 1/2 vacation time with her extended family each year, etc.
Then 4 months ago, she leaves while my daughter (now 18) is at school and I'm at work. No note, no warning, no email, no voice mail, no anything!!

In the last 6 yrs, there are also about 3 other men, similar to me, in my church that their wife did this!! Only two men in the last "20 years" from "6 churches and 3 jobs" that I have been involved with that I've known has the man walked out and not looked back.

You talk about COLD!!! Sorry, but I've seen just the opposite. Of the hundreds of couples/families that have broken up over the last 23 years, it's the women that are the most cold. When they leave, they TOTALLY walk away without looking back. I've seen broken families where the father leaves but still has some contact. Women tend to hold the grudge or whatever and for nothing EXCEPT that they don't have the right FEELINGS!!!

Probably has something to do with socialization (boys tend to keep best friends and stay with a team) and even back to men staying with the tribe (loyalty) but women go with the best avail. man so they tend to leave relationships and so on.

My wife still sees my daughter sometimes but only when my wife wants to see her. COLD!!!

Answer 3

I am a Father....divorced and got FULL custody of my two children a girl 18 mo. old and my son who was 6 years old at the time. So...to answer your question....no not ALL men are cold....and I don't know how ANY parent Man or Women can walk away from there kids. All you can do is be there for your kids and depending on there ages, just tell them that "mommy and Daddy were not getting along so daddy left and maybe one day he will see you again"
Its not just a man thing my X had VERY little to do with the kids and I never went for child support. The way I looked at it if she wanted to help she would....since she chose not to help...then it was no different than if she had died. I would have had to raise the kids myself then as well.
That was 16 years ago and the kids and I moved on My son got married this year to a great gal and my girl Graduates this year. So whats my point to all this....it does not matter if your are a man...or a women...if you walk away from your kids life will go on for your X and your kids and it is YOU who will be hurt in the end when your kids want NOTHING to do with you.
I wish you all the best....and trust me it does get better....and the kids will be fine as long as they have you as there rock in there lives.

Answer 4

Ironically, I just had a conversation with my very best friend the other day about this. I was telling her that when my H and I have had arguments, he has had no problem leaving, however, the TWO times that I have tried to leave (knowing that I would come back, just needed to be away for a minute), all I can think about is the kids, and so I pack them up and they go with me. Men have this emotional mechanism that just allows them to shut off whatever they are feeling. It blows my mind. The only way to tell them is just to be honest. You can take one of two routes. You can demean him and tell them rotten things, which will make you feel better for about a minute, and make them feel worse for the rest of their lives, because believe me, they will. Or you can tell them that he loves them, he just is in a place right now that he can't love them the way that they need to be. And then I HIGHLY recommend therapy. Family therapy would be the best. They would speak to each child on their own, and then would have group sessions. Not only that, but you also need to let them know that it is ok to show their emotions, and what I mean by that is cry in front of them. Let them know that you, too, are hurt by their father walking away. If you let them know that you are hurt too, it will be easier to heal for all of you. My prayers are with you, and I hope that this helps. Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 5

Yes, some men are that cold. My Dad left us when I was about 18 months old and never looked back. My StepDad adopted my sister and I and he is the only father I've ever known. When I was about 16 yrs old he found my Mom and called up to talk to us. He was arrogant and I don't even know the man. It took him almost 16 yrs to check up on us? I consider him to be just another human being, but I don't know him nor do I care to.Good Luck and I'm sorry you are going through this. I can't remember how my Mom told us because we were so young.

Answer 6

cuz he's self centered. duh. not all men are that cold- you let them ask you questions- and see how much they know- and how much they have heard from others in their life.
Don't try to explain it too much in other words. But YOU HAVE to be HONEST. Tell them the truth that they can understand, and be comforting- and seek counseling for them, so they can evaluated on how they are reacting, you need to quell any fears that dady left because of something that they did. children always assume that stuff like that is their fault- (this becomes more apparent when they are teenagers-selfcenteredness)
children are built to comform to their surroundings- if they see you unhappy and sad and unable to cope, they will follow in your footsteps when they face simular situaions! If they see confidence and courage they will take that with themfor the rest of their lives- I'm not saying do everything by yourself- but don't let this become the DownFall Of My Miserable Life. Let this be The New Beggininng-
Now is not the time to pick fun new hobbies like smoking or drinking... Now is the time to make positive changes! I love my fellow sojouners! God Bless!

Answer 7

Yes men are that cold! But so are some women.

Some people get so full of anger and pain that they try to run away from everything.

Then - they find out what they lost!

Answer 8

they actually do not father teenagers. the two unite for a actual relationship. baby is an unpredicted biprodect while the will for actual relationship is fulfilled. through fact it has not something to do with thoughts and making plans, the day they wnat to seem for a extra exciting relationship, they stroll away. In different case, if fathers are fed-up of their combating different halves, they are going to stroll away to convey peace to their lives.

Answer 9

Men are that cold. They are sick I see it all the time and it is sad. Your kids won't miss out on that jerk they are better off. Don't say anything cause you don't know what the future holds.

Answer 10

I think they do every day. My kids father did. They are grown except one is 14 and acts like he does not care. His new___ does not even let him call them from there house. He has to leave and call from his cell phone when she is not around. Two years now and it has not changed much. I think she tells him when he can poop.