how do i get a divorce without hurting the kids too badly my wife doesnt work and i dont want the kids to lose the house but if i pay her enough to stay ill have to live in my car i also think she's cheating on me but dont have the proof
2006-09-25 11:49:55 · 32 answers · asked by ddoyle1369 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In my own opinion, kids got even more hurt if the keep on living under that kind of environment, if you situation is like what you describe, you better go into that and get an agreement with her on the kids custody, otherwise you and the kids will suffer unfairly under this stressful situation.
2006-09-25 11:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce will hurt the children eventually no matter how you go about it. Are you sure its divorce you are wanting or just a little respect? If you both let down your guard and go to some counseling everybody wins. You will not be poor, your kids will have a family, and maybey you can remember the reason you fell in love. Sometimes when thigs get so bad you forget what you loved about each other and you both put up a guard and treat each other badly. It becomes a dance that you can not escape. Please try for your children, then you can say you tried everything.
2006-09-25 16:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by iduwhare 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the divorce laws in your state. However I truly believe this from the bottokm of my heart, life is to short to be taken for granted and treated badly. If I was you I would take your kids out to eat or something without her. Then I would explain as best you can without badmouthing her to much that you are very unhappy and you are going to get a divorce. They might be upset at first but they will understand as soon as the shock wears off. Kids are smart. Now the important thing is talk to an attorney and have her served just before or just after talking to the kids. Have it set up before you tell them. Dont waste time man cuz you only live once. Hurry up and start a new chapter in your life. You will be happier and there are millions of women out there who are kind and appreciative. Just think how good itll feel someday when she sees how happy you are now that shes gone. Good luck
2006-09-25 12:00:44 · answer #3 · answered by tranquilized_inaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. Tell her it pisses you off! If she offers no resolution then it's time for serious action. Don't seek help here, though. I'd talk to an attorney immediately. If you're right, and she is being unfaithful, you'll want proof.
Start by checking her email and cell phone calls (call the cell phone company for this one, don't try stealing the phone). If you see a suspicious number, look it up on switchboard.com or just call from a pay phone to see who answers and hang up. If you find reason to be suspicious from those two items I'd talk to a private investigator as well (not Cheaters).
Don't sit on this though. The longer you wait, the more your dignity will erode and the more likely you are to do something stupid. Divorces are messy. No one ever walks away happy that their marriage failed and they now have to deal with visitation rights and alimony. And what's worse, the kids always get hurt in one way or another (speaking from experience on this one). Avoid divorce altogether if possible.
2006-09-25 12:15:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same both,here is my solution.We keep out of each others way,I got a job where I travel a lot,I told the kids the truth so they are sympatetic to me and it's ok not to be around every day.But when I'm home I spoil the kids rotten.Because what I know of the future I
will purchase a HUD house very cheep next year($5000-10000)and
move out.
P.S.the price of real estate will drop at least 50% by the end of next year.
2006-09-25 12:08:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a divorce counselor. No one on this website can deal with a problem that big. But to comment on how you don't want to hurt your kids, you can still get a divorce and have a healthy relationship with your kids. I speak from experience that although people say growing up with divorced parents is bad, its just as bad growing up never seeing your parents love each other.
2006-09-25 11:53:07 · answer #6 · answered by yoyoyoyoyoyoyoyoyoyo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn! your ship is really sinking. A divorce is a lengthy process, never simple when there are children involved. You should do as much research online for the county and state you live in, and take it from there. You should be able to fill out all the paper work on your own, but you might need to hire an attorney eventually, since she will fight for spousal support, since she is not working. There is so much detail involved, I wish I could elaborate, but it's not simple. Good luck to you!!
2006-09-25 12:39:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get proof that she is cheating then go to a lawyer and file for a divorce. Once you have a lawyer show your proof of her commiting adultry and seek custody of the children. Do not give her the home. You try to keep the home and the children. Good luck!!
2006-09-25 11:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by M & M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude i am so sorry to hear of such a travisty. divorce hurts, no matter what. and it will hurt the kids, but if you talk to them and help them realizi that mommy and daddy, dont love eachother anymore it will help to ease the process. and as time goes by the kids will realize that you 2 are better off apart. thats what happened to me at least. my parents divorced 7 days before my 12th birthday, and i am now 25 i will never forget, but we all are happier people for it. GOOD LUCK
2006-09-25 11:54:15 · answer #9 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you're feeling.. I'm not to the point of wanting a divorce or anything, but I'm about to throw up my hands and say "F**K this marriage! just leave me alone! I'm playing video games from now on!" at least I don't think she's cheating on me.. she's too busy with the baby to do that..
2006-09-25 11:52:54 · answer #10 · answered by Byakuya 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋