I had a strange thought recently. When guys want to get with a girl, rarely does the honest approach work. If it did, there would be no need for the hundreds of books that have been written to help guys out with this game, to offer tricks, pointers, etc. Heck, there are even paid professionals out there to help set up guys with a girl.
However, when people seek to get out of a relationship, the only advice there they get is: "be honest." There needs to be more books written on this topic. There need to be paid professionals who can trick a girl into breaking up with a guy when it was really his intention (and vice versa). For all the emphasis that exist with "getting" the girl, people equally need to know how to "get out" if they need to. I need to hear people's thoughts on this. What tactics have you used? Thank you!!
2006-09-25 11:42:59 · 8 answers · asked by YahooAnswers57 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thats like tips for quitting a job. Sure there is a smarter way to do it, but given that the end result is the same, why would anyone focus any real effort into it? Now what the tips should be for is how to get out of relationship without her breaking all your s**t.
For that, you gotta smuggle all of your stuff thats important out of her house little by little. In the process hold onto something of hers that's important to her. Use it as insurance so that she doesn't attack your automobile, because you know how women love to harm your automobile. The added bonus to this, is that if you ever decide to go back, you can visit her under the pretenses of returning whatever you have. Otherwise, you can give it back when she's gotten over you.
2006-09-25 11:51:05 · answer #1 · answered by Chris D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I agree with you.I t is difficult to know what to say when in that situation. Still, I don't think a self-help book that includes scripted lines or an escape hatch is the answer.
I'm out of the dating circuit and have been for many years, but when I think back in time to other relationships and how they ended.... let's see. I can laugh about it now, but I was dumped via letter twice. One because it was a long distance relationship, and the other..well, the guy didn't have that excuse, but said he just couldn't face me. He just left it in my mailbox when I was at work. Another time a vague phone message and no calls back when I called them. Honesty would have worked wonders for me in those situations because I never had a straight answer out of any of them.
Don't get me wrong, I did my fair share of breaking it off, but I remember being upfront and honest about it. They could never fault me for not telling them exactly why I ended it.
You need to pick the lesser of two evils...being direct or vague with some line out of a book that may or may not fit the situation at hand. It has to come from the heart...as corny as that sounds.
2006-09-25 12:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to play games with somone's emotions like that? Why go through all that trouble just to hurt someone? Just be man enough to say how you really feel and get the heck out. You can't help how you feel so why stay where you don't want to be. It's cut and dry. Don't complicate your life with immature actions...they'll only come back to bite you later.
2006-09-25 11:52:07 · answer #3 · answered by sfss50 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, if I was about to do open heart surgery on you and I had the choice of using a laser to make an immediate and accurate cut into your chest or a grapefruit spoon and a long time sawing around, which would you prefer I use?
When you break up it IS open heart surgery. Use the laser. It will allow her to heal with a minimum of scarring and what do you care if she thinks you're a jerk?
2006-09-25 11:47:42 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi Di 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're missing an important point. The VALID help books aren't about playing games. They're about learning to pay attention to yourself and others around you.... they're about being honest, open, caring, empathetic... the same things you need to be when you think a relationship is not right.
2006-09-25 11:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting out can be tough. If you live with a woman - gues you need to tell her first. If not, just kind of drift away???
2006-09-25 11:46:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"It's not you, it's me." "I'm just not ready for a relationship right now" "I need to concentrate on my career, degree, family right now" etc. Let em down gently!
2006-09-25 11:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by SexxyPrincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude ....your SO RIGHT!!!
it would be WAY easier if there was something like that !!!lemme know if you find anything on it!!!
2006-09-25 11:46:28 · answer #8 · answered by darknightmare01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋