I have been going back & forth with this man for 2 1/2 years. We know have a daughter & got married in may 06. We split every couple weeks. The last issue was that our 10 month old daughter got a cold. I was up all night with her . I did not have the right medicine or a nose sucker. So basically she could not drink her bottle cause she was very conjested. Before we went to sleep my husband knew she had a runny nose he just said you should keep my son away from her cause he was sick. I understand that and agree. She had just started day care that week & beleive that she got it from day care. Anyway that was his only response before falling asleep. About 4AM I asked him if he could go get some medicine or if he could help me. He screemed and said I cannot go anywhere at this time. I would have left myself but we are in a bad area I felt he should go. So then I said I cannot believe how you are acting this is your daughter. He told me to **** off and the dont **** with him.
2006-09-25 11:39:41 · 16 answers · asked by SM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think your kids deserve better than 2 parents who are always fighting, splitting every 2 weeks, screaming at each other and telling each other to eff off. That's a pretty lousy home environment for the kids to have to grow up in.
Maybe you don't believe you deserve better, but please believe that your kids do. Would you want your daughter to marry a man like him? He's her role model.
Does this need to end? Yes it does.
2006-09-25 11:44:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're raising children in a household with two parents that don't demonstrate a healthy, respectful, and loving relationship. They're gonna end up being one of those people that don't believe in true love, and they will go out and find partners who just as disrespectful and verbally abusive because they will think it's normal. It sounds like you're in a relationship of dependence and convenience; not in a relationship of admiration, support, and love. Every relationship has it's problems, but this has to stop for the kids sake. This drama and back and forth business is ruining the kids and breaking their spirit. You are long overdue for marital counseling and/or psychological help to figure out why the two of you act this way, how it affects the kids later on life, what steps to take to stop this verbal abuse and disrespect, and whether it's worthwhile to put the kids through all the hell and drama for the sake of saving the this tumultuous relationship. The last thing you want is for one of the kids to look down on you as a parent when they get older and put the pieces of the puzzle together. You're demonstrating low self-worth that will be passed on to them if you keep inviting the drama into your and their lives. It seems that you know the answer to your question but you are too afraid to do something about it!
2006-09-25 11:56:46 · answer #2 · answered by Suz E. Home BAKER 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it needs to end. As a father, he needs to put his child's and wife's welfare first. Since he didn't stay up all night taking care of the sick child, the least he could have done is run out and get the medicine. This is only a common cold. Imagine if she were very sick, hospitalized or had some sort of life-long medical condition. What kind of father would he be?
Ask yourself the question, are you better off without him and make the decision based on that answer.
2006-09-25 11:44:42 · answer #3 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if I ever saw a realtionship that is going down the tubes, it is this one, sweetie!!! You were very unprepared for this kind of thing. When you have a baby, you are ALWAYS supposed to have anything that you will need in the way of over the counter stuff in the medicine cabinet. Have you heard of a cool mist vaporizer? And, Day Care is notorious for sickess........she will be sick a few times a month so get used to it. Prepare what you are going to do with the baby and as far as the marriage.......you got what you bargained for, sweetie!!!
2006-09-25 11:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look if this behavior is a regular thing you need to get out of there. You don't want your kids to think this is an acceptable way to treat another person do you? The fights only get worse as time goes by, I just left a situation like that. It is hard, but I am making it on my own and that feels so good.
2006-09-25 11:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by hawkespatricia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it is time to end it. He is very selfish if he is putting himself and his tiredness above his own daughters. That is radiculous. And it sounds like if it's been going on for 2 1/2 years nothing is going to change. and let me add that any man who will talk to a women like that much less the mother of his child doesn't deserve a woman.
2006-09-25 11:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by azile_wehttam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be told to leave or stay and in the end you are just going to follow your heart, so I am not going to give you such directions. What I will tell you is that you and your daughter deserve and will have better in life if you are not dealing with such situations. You and you daughter deserve better than that. Your daughter deserves a stable loving family and it does not appear she is going to ever have it in this environment. Whatever you do in the end, know that you and your daughter deserve better than that.
2006-09-25 11:45:44 · answer #7 · answered by okitty_kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is an idiot. Please leave him because if he would be that way towards your child he does not love her and if he talks that way to you he does not love you. A real man would have made sure the child was taken care of before he went to bed and probably would of woke up in the middle of the night to check and see if the baby was ok or if you needed rest. That is a selfish jerk and you really need to leave him alone otherwise you will find yourself hurt because of his selfishness.
2006-09-25 11:46:56 · answer #8 · answered by Miss T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rangers ends quiet?! have you ever even been to the two ends? And it of course relies upon on what team you help! And someway i do no longer think of the Celtic end would be singing and dancing! no longer for long besides!
2016-10-17 23:22:44 · answer #9 · answered by daw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump his *** he does not care about you or your baby what if she was really sick you don't need the stress of it i know it is hard to do but i would sit down and wright out the pros and cons of staying with him and make a choice on what to do
I hope you work it out : )
2006-09-25 11:46:14 · answer #10 · answered by moccaebby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋