If you were having problems with your relationship and you were constantly arguing, would you give up on it or try to save it??? I"ve had loads of arguments recently with mine over issues we have that need sorting out and now he is choosing to ignore me. Would you just throw the towel in or keep on hoping that things will eventually settle down and you will go back to being the loving couple you once were only 6 weeks ago!!!
2006-09-25 11:26:31 · 35 answers · asked by carolina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
take time out yourself from arguing and look at the big picture, is their something worth saving. if there are issues you need to sort out, then maybe let things cool for a while. we argue all the time but we love each other and at the end of the day Thur our worst arguments we still love each other the there is something worth saving
2006-09-25 11:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by poppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart....I tell you. I have had the same problem for the past three years. And now I am engaged. I mean that is part of a relationship I guess. You take the good with the bad. Everyone has their ups and downs. At least this is what I have been telling myself here lately. Todd and I have this little saying that arguments are just stepping stones in our relationship. But I promise you if you do decide to go make sure you have a good damn reason. The grass is not always greener on the other side. You don't want to leave and then realize how good you had it. I wish you the best of luck.....
2006-09-25 12:42:58 · answer #2 · answered by Sammy G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Constant arguing has to be stopped. Issues do need to be resolved but ignoring them won't make them disappear. You need to find a better way to discuss the issues instead of arguing about them. Maybe, the two of you should take a break, if you are dating. If you are living together then I would declare war free zones within the home. I would also limit all arguments to a set amount of time...get a timer. You argue your side for 3 minutes and then they argue their side for 3 minutes...you each get a 1 minute rebuttal.
In answer to your question...if you love each other and you have a significant amount of time invested in each other...try to salvage the relationship. If you have dating for less than a year, and do not live together or have any children together, I would suggest you go your separate ways!
2006-09-25 11:35:05 · answer #3 · answered by Sister Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say it depends on how long you have been together and also what the arguments are about. If you are fighting about what your going to watch on t.v. Saturday night, then yeah, work it out. If your fighting about some jealous issues or exes or him not giving up his drugs (just an example), I would say let the relationship go. I suggest getting a piece of paper and writing good on one side and bad on the other and see which one has more and if it is worth staying. Good Luck.
2006-09-25 11:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God what in hells name is going on its only been six weeks, what is six weeks compared to the rest of your lives together.
My wife & I have been married 23years this year lived apart for 10 months over a stupied row nearly destroyed us, some 12yrs ago now we are so happy now we are at it every night three/fours at a time its great.
You have got to work at it, you are both fighting for that independance, forget the problems these will sort themselves out when the both of you have cooled down, suggest a night out, relax at home with a bottle, wear something sexy and seductive get him in the mood DONT give it UP you would be mad.
2006-09-25 19:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by willowthedog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up unless the relationship is abusive in some way. 6 weeks is not a long time...get some counseling if necessary. People grow and change. We need to accept each other human frailties sometimes. If there are children involved, you have to make an extra effort to get thru tough times.
2006-09-25 11:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by proletatiatprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couples usually argue alot over small things when they are trying to avoid a bigger issue.
There is obviously a bigger problem at the very root of all of this. Sit down talk it over (take a time out if one of you starts getting mad or upset). Find out what the REAL problem is and work it out.
It's better than not trying at all and losing a special relationship.
2006-09-25 11:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by paulbilsborough 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how much time you've invested in the relationship and how long the problem has been going on. If you've been w/him for a lot of years then I would say try to resolve your issues. Good luck!
2006-09-25 11:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how long you have known him surely if it is any legnth of time you would have a feeling about the nature of his character.
From this you wold know far better than us onYA how he is likely to react i the near future,
Having said that by posting the question it looks like you have already come to a decision but you are looking for confirmation as most of do when we are faced with making a big decision.
2006-09-25 11:33:31 · answer #9 · answered by philipscottbrooks 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him give him a chance. If you're not sure of your feelings and you feel unhappy or frustrated leave him. Remember one thing: you don't get anything good in life for free, sometimes it takes hard work to make everything right. Don't give up just because you're not well at the moment. Make an efford!
2006-09-25 12:35:21 · answer #10 · answered by prahmedio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋