2006-09-25 11:24:38 · 32 answers · asked by kole 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
oh, it takes a long, long time and you have to find as many friends as you can and try new things and get out and go places and see people. Not look for a new guy, but just get out. As much as you can. And take good care of yourself. Eat right, excercise, take vitamins. Don't let your feelings for him get in the way of how you treat yourself. And you may need some counseling.
2006-09-25 11:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, do I understand the pain involved here. You need to do several things to help you heal from this loss. Keeping busy helps. It also helps to spend some time mourning the relationship: actually crying over it and getting it out; and maybe even talking with a counselor (an unbiased 3rd party) and share your feelings. Talking wi/friends may help, too, or a supportive relative. Writing your feelings in a journal helps in healing, too. Do things that make you feel good about yourself, e.g., exercising, going for walks, doing artwork or writing, joining a club, taking up a new hobby or refocusing on an old one, things like that. I truly wish you all the best. Take care.
2006-09-25 11:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by J.Z. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First , put everything related to him (CD,s cards, letters) in a box and seal it, then either throw it away, or have someone hide it so you stop looking at it. Delete his phone numbers and email address. Delete all messages, text and emails from him. Get rid of anything that reminds you of him, and do not play music or go to places you used enjoy together. Don't talk about him to your friends. Don't talk about him to any mutual friends.
Next, divert you attention and thoughts to other things. Get busy with life, rather than sitting around thinking about him. Make a list of things you like to do and start doing them. Join a club. Take a class. Travel. Go places. Learn something. ANYTHING to keep your mind busy with other things. It will be hard at first, but pretty soon you'll be having fun and hardly thinking about him.. and you'll realize you don't love him at all.
2006-09-25 11:29:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am recently going through what your going through and yes its hard getting over someone you really care about but--think about it do you really think hes crying over you rightnow umm no,, so think about how much you can do better without him,do not try to get another guy rightnow because its just a rebound and you will feel worser afterwords for trying to get back in a relationship or even just a little something with a guy rightnow---what you need to do is take time to heal and you will actually get to know yourself better,and just learn from this relationship so you can choose better next time--after a while you will forget about him and be glad hes gone---when you do start to talk to someone else make sure you get to know the person more but nothing serious for a while trust me----make sure all of reminders of him or in a box or throw it out let the past be the past,any reminders of him should be away and dont talk about him or dwell about him it will make things worse-just surround yourself with people who love you or just keep busy--sometimes just be alone to clear your thoughts--you know that song that reminds you of him---when you get over him it will just be another song to you,so let him out your life for good,and maybe if you ever see him again in the long run he will see how good your doing but you will be over him--you can do better--- believe me i am finally realizing that i can do better too,it just takes time!blessings
2006-09-25 11:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first if you really love this guy or think you do you ask if you can be friends. If not then spend some time alone. Next watch some comedy movies with friends and then just try to move on. If that does not work and your still on him. Then ask yourself this is he worth your tears.
2006-09-25 11:28:43 · answer #5 · answered by mousey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people mistake being in love with someone with being in love with being in love. This can become an addiction. The only way you can get over any addiction is to learn to totally hate everything involved with that addiction.
2006-09-25 11:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell you the truth you may never stop loveing hiim. 20 yrs from now you'll still love him, but you have to learn to live with it, because if you just start lying to yourself it will surface later in life and could cause depression or worse. what ever you do dont jump in to a new relationship until you feel at peace with your feelings. good luck.
2006-09-25 11:31:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tissues- Chick Movies, Chocolate and Friends...time heals all wounds. Good Luck
2006-09-25 11:26:57 · answer #8 · answered by therealprinsess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't. what you feel is very much like mourning a departed love one. let yourself grieve. remember it is a process so tomorrow you will not be all happy. take your time and don't let friends try to push you into a new relationship. when you are ready to start looking for a love relationship, you will know. it hurts i know but it won't last forever. good luck.
2006-09-25 11:37:45 · answer #9 · answered by david l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were truly in love with him, you never will. But it will get better with time. Try eating alot of ice cream, and hanging with your best friends. That should ease the pain. I'm sorry for you and I know how you feel! :(
2006-09-25 11:26:46 · answer #10 · answered by Liz♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋