I am really asking myself this question. When I was younger I was much more no nonsense. I am only 25 dont get me wrong but things seem to hurt more and it is not so easy to just pick up and go now. To run out and have a fling to feel better or anything like that. Even if I tried to get back in that mindset I dont think that i could.
2006-09-25 11:09:45 · 14 answers · asked by BeautyMark 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When it comes to relationships, especially our own well fare, we are more "careful" the older we get. You have to admit, you are not so quick to do something, regardless of how you are feeling at the moment, until you think about it. I think that is wise. But some of the reasons we stay, might not be valid except to our heart. As far as things hurting worse, that is due to you have more at stake now, then you did when you were a "no nonsense" kinda of person. I think you are mentally a mature grown up person now. No one said life would ever be easy at any stage that we might be at. We just try to find happiness and if love comes with that, then we got a really good bonus. The more you date, the more you realize its like someone just cloned a bunch of people, changed their names and sent them out in the world and not many of them are life time keepers. So we tend to over look faults of the one we are with, knowing the choosing is not that great. The older I get, the one thing I realize now "is how little I know, but the more I understand." Life can be confusing right up to the end.
2006-09-25 11:28:18 · answer #1 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is both, because I am going thru the same thing right now. I more so believe that it is the maturity that us women have when in a relationship and we end up attaching to someone who is not as sincere as we are, after all the heartache and pain they act as if there was nothing even there. It hurts like hell, and yes it is hard to fall back into the old pattern once you've gave it up, but where there is a will there is a way, there is someone out there that understands what a real women is all about we just have to be patient and keep ourselves busy. I wish you the best.
2006-09-25 11:22:36 · answer #2 · answered by fedup&gettingoverit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went threw the whirlwind and the ups and downs in my 20s! Now I'M IN my 30s I believe I have become more wiser! I tend to not put up with the junk. Already been there done that kind of thing. You do learn from your mistakes also. Flings always seem to come back and haunt me in the past!!! Plus these days its to scary!
2006-09-25 11:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by TBONE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some of us get wiser because we have had enough experience from past relationships that help us determine what kind of relationship we want as we get older. Some are soft because they never learn and continue to fall back into their own personal demons.
2006-09-25 11:16:20 · answer #4 · answered by Branded with the Dark Mark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we mature and want more in our life's than what we've had. I also think we now look at things in a bigger picture, than when we were young, and when we meet someone its usually more serious than when we were young, so yes we do get hurt much more. Because now we give more to our relationships because we feel at the time this is him/her. until we here I'm not ready for this commitment. And you never want to go back always forward . That's how you will learn, from your experiences.
2006-09-25 11:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by lennie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think as we get older we learn from our mistakes. So for example, some break ups hurt really bad. So bad that we remember the pain and don't want to make the same mistake twice. It is for this reason alone we are far more cautious in our actions as we get older and older.
2006-09-25 11:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by coolbeanfive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
running out and having a fling is not a wise move. you are getting more mature..and realize that running from a problem... or having a fling is not a way to feel better. and these days it can be downright dangerous... mentally and physically. as we get older we take relationships more seriously and putting more into them... that is why it seems to hurt more. we realize that time.. and relationships are precious. welcome to adulthood.
2006-09-25 11:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from the potential for being raised with the help of a single mom i'm going to assert that there is not any harm in attempting to artwork your relationship out. notwithstanding, as you reported your toddler is selection one precedence and you may do what's healthful for him. whether it skill not being along with his mom. he will comprehend, have confidence me. nicely I wish you the main suitable of luck with each thing. You look fairly smart so i be attentive to you will make the suitable determination. Lead consisting of your thoughts and persist with consisting of your coronary heart.
2016-10-01 08:51:13 · answer #8 · answered by schugmann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOME people learn from past relationships, and as they get older, they do get wiser from it.
Some people end up with psychological damage from past relationships that they can't seem to resolve. these people have damaged self esteems, or fight tooth and limb to prevent themselves from getting hurt again. in this case, I don't think they get wiser as they get older...
2006-09-25 11:15:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youth allows us to be wreckless. The older we get, the more we see the broader picture. We tend to wear our hearts on our sleeves and when someone hurts us, it hurts more because we are looking for more.
2006-09-25 11:14:27 · answer #10 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋