They always have some problem going on they want me to help with but 9 times out of 10 they never ask How I am or whats going on with me.
Do you think its nasty to get slightly pi**ed off about this ?
2006-09-25 10:59:06 · 13 answers · asked by Not_a_toothless_pirate 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh i really like the fact they trust me enough to confide in me and ask my opinion, but I'm not an expert and would like advice at times myself.
2006-09-25 11:04:55 · update #1
I have that same problem, and you should feel good that your friends trust you so much that they go to you with their problems. That shows that they have a lot of confidence in you. They dont ask how you are because, if you help them so much they start thinking that there cant be anything wrong with your life because you know what to do. You shouldnt be angry at them, it is because them asking you shows that they care about. You sould also ask them for some advice so they know that sometimes you also need help. Hope this answers your question. :)
2006-09-25 11:04:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sancho... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. I try to be helpful to friends but I too have fallen into the situation you have described: no reciprocity going on between friends. I can remember one friend actually attacking me verbally over something that I said was bothering me -- she turned on me even though I had been there for her many times over. It was a shock, believe me.
Watch out for these types of one-sided friendships. When such people press you for help over some problem in their lives, listen, but pull back a little. Don't let them make you feel bad when you vent a little to them -- if they complain, you know what kind of friends you really have.
Move on and get newer, healthier friends to do things with (besides telling each other your problems). Believe me, I had to learn this the hard way. You shouldn't have to if you assertively look for new friends in your life.
2006-09-25 19:10:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well people ARE natural selfish. I would get a littel irritated if they never let me talk about my problems. But they obviously trust your advice since they keep coming back. Have you made an effort to communicate anything going on in your life? Instead of waitng for them to ask how your doing tell them. If they do not want to listen to your problems, and you help them with theirs, i say some friends they are
2006-09-25 18:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by deal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They feel that you can't have a thing going on that you can't figure out. That's why they don't ask. Maybe you should come up with a fake problem and ask them for help. That way they won't think you fix everything that's what they need. Out the shoe on the other foot
2006-09-25 19:28:11 · answer #4 · answered by robert d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be flattered!!! Any advice come on here and ask all of us!!! Anytime day or night. You need to be more assertive.
Communicate more with them about how YOU are feeling.
2006-09-25 18:07:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good to know your own strengths. It sounds as if you are a mature and open person; and that people are drawn to your safe and gentle nature and they feel comfortable sharing their feelings with you. You can be a help to people by knowing who you are.
2006-09-25 18:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by danaluana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THEY PROBABLY FEEL COMFORTABLE TALKING TO YOU. YOU SOUND LIKE A VERY LOVING AND CARING PERSON. PEOPLE DO THE SAME THING TO MY DAUGHTER ALSO AND THEY NEVER ASK HER HOW SHE IS FEELING. YOUR LUCKY FOR PEOPLE WANTING TO CONFIDE IN YOU, LIKE I SAID THEY MUST REALLY TRUST IN YOU FOR GOOD ADVICE.
2006-09-25 18:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by tinkerbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen i hav helped more dan 18 ppl with there bf or gf soo no need to get pissed offf
2006-09-25 18:03:04 · answer #8 · answered by Angad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand
no need getting upset about it
help them when you can
some day someone will help you
2006-09-25 18:02:48 · answer #9 · answered by RayRay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THEY are kind of selfish dont you think?
2006-09-25 18:00:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋