He's leaving for 9 weeks in the morning, and I'm already missing him like crazy. ALL of our time is spent together right now, we work (well, his last day was friday) for the same company, same schedule, same shifts, same days off, now he's just going to be gone and I am all bummed out... The nearest academy (swift trucking) is 6 hours away, and I'd have to rent my own room to go and see him, we don't have the $ for that) so I will not see him for 9 weeks! advice on passing time and dealing with him leaving/being gone?
2006-09-25 10:58:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well first off... I recommend that you pay no attention to some of the morans that you get answers from... They will suggest almost any imaginable thing under the stars.
9 weeks isn't that long really. I'm in the Army and I know thousands of wives don't see theirs spouses for nearly a year at a time when they go to Iraq etc....
You will find in the next 9 weeks that you will become more self reliant because you have to do te things he use to do...
The whole key to success here is to stay busy doing constructive things... stay off the internet chats....for one.
Work at the job and do things around the house. Look to family...yours and his to keep you occupied... read and maybe even learn a new craft or hobby.... even go to church if thats your thing.
One day at a time..... and it will be over so fast you'll be surprised...
Oh yes...talk to him everyday and thank him for doing what it takes for the 2 of you. he has to know he is appreciated for going to the school. Tell him you love him....
Relationships do survive under these situations, but you have to want it to.... absence is not a permissin slip for cheating... so don't be pressured by friends to go out and party. Set your priorities and go with it...
I know you'll be fine.... but feel free to write if you need any extra encouragement!
2006-09-25 11:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by john s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we see you have access to a computer so use this as a way to past time. Try to think about the good reasons he is leaving and how much it is to make up when he comes back. Go out with friends or talk on the phone. I really can not help to much and I am sorry because no matter what I say you will miss him because that is a long time.
2006-09-25 11:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by Miss T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't how to pass the time, but how to savor the time. I understand how you feel, I'm in a relationship...and hunting season is just around the corner. This means (although he's not gone as long as yours)-several week long hunting trips with the guys, and multiple weekend trips. Yes they are gone, and of course you will miss him (how sad if you didn't). But this time isn't for you to be sitting around sad and knitting to keep yourself occupied-this is time for you to take care of yourself. Spoil yourself (go to that spa you've been dying to try and get the facial he would only tease you about if he knew you spent $100 on it...).
Meet up with your girlfriends, have a movie night. How often can you have friends over, up all night and eating like little piggies with the boys around?
During this time, miss him like crazy, and look forward to when you will be back together. But don't spend your days sad, take time for yourself and enjoy! You'll have a super fun time and still be just as happy when he gets home :)
2006-09-25 11:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by beetrippin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Catch up with old freinds, find hobbies and stay away from places you two would go to. At work focus on your work, and when yu get home do something creative with your time. Do something or a project you have wanted to do or finish and haven't been able to since you share your time and hobbies with your husband. I was with a marine a few years ago and on one of his deployments I didn't see him for 9 months! Of course keep in touch, by calling and emailing (if he has access to a computer)
2006-09-25 11:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by joanna1_84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your time would be best spent just reconnecting with yourself. I know that being seperated from the one you love can be hard, I know cause my hubby is overseas right now and has been for about 6 months now. He won't be home till December. But there is always things you can do you just have to find what you like. I read, constantly... just find your 'it' thing and enjoy some time to yourself.
2006-09-25 11:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by Isis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay busy with friends, the time will pass faster, and call him every day if you can, probably the best time would be right before you go to bed, that way you will be happy when you go to sleep, keep yourself healthy, dont get all depressed and stop eating or working, just stay busy and keep in mind that he loves you and is probably feeling bad about it too, but at least call each other once a day if you can
2006-09-25 11:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by crazylarry88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch tv and sleep most of the time. Go shopping once a week, go for manicures/pedicures or take up some computer course.
2006-09-25 16:13:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The love and relationship you both have should keep you thinking about that. it is only 9 weeks and he is doing good for himself and you, Keep the faith and the love between you both will see you through.
2006-09-25 11:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're soooooooo in love ! Good, that love will keep you going. Try and keep yourself busy with your friends and work. Don't worry time flies by and before you know it he'll be back. As far as the physical aspect, wellllllllllll, try and keep YOURself busy also. lol
2006-09-25 11:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by eyedontgetit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just like what you are doing now.....
Yahoo Answers sure is for killing time, and you can do lots of things in the internet, surf and chat online.
Also keep yourself busy while offline.... do anythng just to keep yourself busy and your mind preoccupied.
2006-09-25 11:07:58 · answer #10 · answered by (◕‿◕✿) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋