That's how I feel. I'm only 21 and people say that my thinking will change with age, but I seriously doubt it. I don't really understand or care for children and the thought of being a father scares me a little. Maybe its selfish, but I'd prefer to live my life with the focus on me. When I talked to my mother about this, she was kind of dissapointed or saddened. Is something wrong with me?
2006-09-25 10:56:02 · 8 answers · asked by Subconsciousless 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know how you feel. I'm almost 20 and feel the same way. I think it's actually very UNSELFISH. You know you don't want to have kids, so you won't bring any into this world. The problem comes in when you really don't want them, but have them anyways. I think you're being extremely responsible and considerate. And hey, you can always change your mind down the road if you want to. Good luck.
By the way, don't listen to people who ask you if you want to be all alone...I know plenty of people who are much better on their own and just surrounded by friends rather than an immediate family.
2006-09-25 11:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat as you-I'm 22 and don't want to have kids.
I agree, I want me time, not kid time. I also don't think this is a good world to bring children into (seems just plain mean).
If your mom is upset with you because of it, it appears that she is a bit selfish in wanting you to have them. it is your choice, not her's. Any mom should respect your decision, because it is what you want.
When I'm asked about it-people also tell me that I will change my mind. I've given up on arguing my point (I know I will NEVER want kids), they will never believe you. They say "Oh, give it a few years, you'll be dying to have some!". I just smile and nod. They stop bugging me and I move on with my day.
Nothing, nothing, nothing is wrong with you! Some of us simply don't have that materinal istinct. For those of us that don't, the best we can do for ourselves and the children that we will never have is to not have kids. Why fall into the pressure of having them if it will make us so unhappy and our children too? Leave it to the women that are born mothers to have children.
I respect very much women that have families and raise wonderful people, I don't have it in me to do it. And I would appreciate respect from others that I don't have children as much as I give respect to those who do.
2006-09-25 11:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by beetrippin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing's wrong with you. You mother likes most people would want their bloodline to continue. If you feel you don't want or need children it is perfectly fine. Think about those who want but can't. Same thing......no children. It's better to know what you want or not want than to have them and later neglect them or regret having them. The world is over populated as it is now, so don't feel guilty for not wanting children.
2006-09-25 16:19:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
little ones are a extensive accountability and based for the main area till the age of eighteen, on occasion longer. I actually have a surprising grown son, yet as a unmarried determine; for many of his life, i replaced into no longer able to spend the time with him that he deserved! i like my son very plenty, yet I even have enable him down in many approaches! i'm happy I even have my son, yet whilst i replaced into commencing over with the international the way it is now; i does no longer have little ones the two. I rerspect your decision! there is not any longer something incorrect with you!
2016-12-12 15:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by donenfeld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. It is good that you realise you aren't parent material, however, a life spent focused only on you sounds very shallow and fulfilling. You are going to have a rather hard time finding a woman who doesn't want kids in the future. Think about it. When you are old, do you want to be all alone?
2006-09-25 11:01:01 · answer #5 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Ni it's more selfish to have a kid just because other people expect it of You!
2006-09-25 11:09:46 · answer #6 · answered by Bo V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i have no children and its great can do what i want when i want maybe in time it may change but no nothing wrong good luck
2006-09-25 11:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by johnny boy rebel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO... some people just aren't kid people... I'm one of them... I think they are grose and disgusting... it is fine not to have a kid... let other idiots populate the earth.
2006-09-25 11:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by kssunflower 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋