A) Don't tell and Leave the marriage, you've got issues or
B) Confess and destroy your partners world making him feel: like a failure with no hope of a good marriage or always wondering if you are cheating... (gradually eating away at his integrity and heart. I personally feel this is unfair to the partner.) What's your take on this situation. stupid person shouldn't have done it in the first place obviously but in the aftermath...???
2006-09-25 10:50:07 · 21 answers · asked by adia_246 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
a lil twist...what if the cheater doesn't know why they cheat?
2006-09-25 10:56:07 · update #1
I would have to pick- C. Tell the spouse, ask forgiveness, and let the spouse decide IF they want to try to save the marriage. That is, IF you are interested in staying married.
2006-09-25 10:55:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love this person any more I suggest that you tell him if you feel he is catching on to your cheating ways so that way you are not in a relationship that doesn't make you happy and or tormenting the other person. But if you feel that you still love him and want to stay with this person and you feel in your heart that you don't want to cheat on him ever again i think you should stay quiet and move on in your marriage. yes "shouldnt have done it in the first place" but i feel people cheat because of the addrinalin rush, because its something that we can't have, because the prohibited or the forbiden is always tempting and it is just human nature.
2006-09-25 11:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A. If you have an affair, there are problems in your marriage. If my husband wanted to leave and didn't and I found out about it I would be pissed. I don't want anyone to stay around who doesn't want to be. I can always find a husband who really wants to be with me. Besides if I am making you that miserable.... leave. There is no way he/she could say for sure another affair won't happen down the line. (Unless the problem was addressed and corrected)
2006-09-25 11:01:05 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A - if you had to cheat ,then the marriage was already in trouble .
Confessing only makes the other person hate you and they really never forgive you .
2006-09-25 11:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if the cheater doesnt know why they cheat, then why not tell the person youve cheated on. The truth is best....cuz then the other person knows exactly what happened. They wont be left wondering what happened.
2006-09-25 11:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats clouded in darkness will always come to light if a person does this in a relationship they need to be man/woman enough to confess with the tongue what they've done and go from there....the marriage and relationship is pretty much over once that trust is broken
2006-09-25 11:07:11 · answer #6 · answered by AuBrEy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell, they will plot to do it back. I'm living that scenario now and it is not a trusting relationship anymore. The best choice is to live your life with integrity and you won't have to deal with the aftermath.
2006-09-25 12:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alittle bit of both. tell the person its their choice whether or not they want to stay in the relationship. they may forgive you and might want to work on the relationship. if you feel you should get divorce then do so but atleast tell the person why. They have a right to know why you want to end the relationship.
2006-09-25 10:54:37 · answer #8 · answered by knd25th 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how about
C. Dont tell, dont do it again, and stay in the marriage, but work on the issues that you have.
Answer B is what will happen if you confess, you may overcome your guilt but that is insignificant compared to wrecking him.
2006-09-25 10:57:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
C. Admit you made a mistake to yourself and move on with your marriage intact, letting your spouse live blissfully in a safe a secure marraige that you will never violate again.
2006-09-25 10:54:27 · answer #10 · answered by Steve M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋