For all the ridicule by Americans about "arranged marriages", most Indian marriages are happy and harmonious, whether in the US or in India, in spite of the nasty dowry system. The so called "love marriages" and "live-in" marriages in America are a disaster waiting to happen---and it usually ends in a wreck. How sad, how ignorant!
2006-09-25 10:35:59 · 26 answers · asked by paanbahar 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The success of arranged marriages comes from the experience, knowledge and wisdom of those who arrange them; your parents. The saying "Parents know best" didn't come out for no reason.
2006-09-25 12:57:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
arranged marriages usually go away the girls human beings helpless. considering she can't *stay to tell the story* devoid of her husband holding the marriage isn't a unfastened-will decision for her. those speaking approximately romantic love are off-base. Emotion follows action not any incorrect way around (like in fairy-memories). Any 2 loving, healthful, first rate human beings can build a chuffed existence consisting of adequate compromise (while you're slothful fat-asses then it shouldn't artwork.) Love is an action verb - a call. So i don't think of that arranged marriage can't artwork. however the question hit on divorce value, and each arranged marriage isn't between 2 worrying, loving, first rate human beings. They stay married because of the fact she is SoL.
2016-10-01 08:49:08 · answer #2 · answered by spies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, yes. The perfect life of an Indian.
Lets see, they practically live over one another breeding like there is no tomorrow and what a kind caste system, forcing people to live below others based on, well, absolutely NOTHING. Nothing says "fairness" like keeping good people down. No, thanks, I'd rather be an American, equal to everyone else, thank you. And this "dowry" system forces families to humiliate themselves to disgusting measures to find husbands for their daughters. Husbands hardly ever see wives, trying to work multiple jobs to keep dowry payments going.
No, India is a nasty little country with nothing to brag about. Rather than drive people to suicide and despair and force the unwanted out on the street to beg, you should consider you system of social mores as lacking and stop preaching to America. When you stop walking in your own human waste in the streets perhaps other nations will "listen" to you.
As for these "happy and harmonious" arranged marriages, well, all we have for that is your own word, and I'm sorry, but someone as bitter as you has to be looked at 2x, because she obviously can't be trusted, nor can she be married, being as unhappy as she is now.
2006-09-25 11:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Arranged marriages wouldn't fare any better than what's happening now. I believe the reason divorce is common is that women will not put up with infidelity, drunkenness, being ignored, or whatever. Past generations of men used women as chattels and women had no options. It's different today and if a woman is not satisfied in a relationship, she has the ability to leave. Probably an arranged marriage would be worse because there would be no emotional foundation.
2006-09-25 11:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Both can work...the problem with 'love marriages' is that many people get married way to young without giving much thought to what's going to happen down the road when they grow up. My personal opinion is people under the age of 30 should not be allowed to marry. I do know that arranged marriages can work, but at times that is not always the answer either. But correct me if I'm wrong, do not the prospective bride and groom have the opportunity to meet prior to actually marrying? In a way, they get final say so? And one final comment, I work with many Indian doctors, many - even those born in the U.S. - are in marriages which were arranged. Many of them say that now that they live in the U.S., their children will be allowed to choose for themselves.
2006-09-25 10:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are the marriages really happy or is it more that divorce is just not acceptable in the arranged marriage culture. I am not familiar with the ins and outs of it so I don't presume to judge. I am married to a man that I picked and love very much. I have been with him since I was 17 years old and he is the only person I have ever been intimate with. Basically my point is love marriages can and do work.
2006-09-25 10:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by OrianasMom 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Why be forced into a marriage that possibly neither of them want? So your saying that if I had an arranged marriage, and would have to do what the "man" says, I would be happier? I doubt that very much! I don't want to be forced to live with someone that I don't love, let alone even like. So you could just take this idea and shove it up where the sun don't shine! Because this American girl would fight it with every thing she has and WILL not let my daughter or son be subjected to a barbaric ritual like arranged marriages!!
2006-09-25 10:46:09 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why would a woman want a divorce in India it could lead to her death.
Young woman murdered due to dowry demands
While dowry was once a gift from a bride's family to a daughter often consisting of cash, jewelry and fine clothing, it has increasingly come to be seen as a payment to her husband and his family that reinforces or improves their financial and social standing.
Hundreds, if not thousands, of women are murdered by their families each year in the name of family "honor." It's difficult to get precise numbers on the phenomenon of honor killing; the murders frequently go unreported, the perpetrators unpunished, and the concept of family honor justifies the act in the eyes of some societies.
2006-09-25 11:22:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Arranged marriages are a custom for some people and don't fail because the dishonor of their families matter greatly. They do as they are taught. Marriages are commitments in a religious act. You marry before God. Noone fears the punishment of violating the 10 Comandments because they don't believe in them. If they did they would be blessed in a union under your Savior and the 2 people would know their is no way out of a marriage anyway. Read the bible and you'll understand what I'm talking about. If you choose not to then spend forever guessing. Hope that helps a little...
2006-09-25 10:42:33 · answer #9 · answered by Baby girl 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I am an American, and I believe that you can have just as much success/failure in an arranged marriage as one out of love! Things are always difficult when two people are trying to share their lives. Some of us are just stronger than others. Arranged or not.
2006-09-25 10:40:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋