iam an indian woman married 12 yrs ego with 2 children my hubby never gave enough time and love to me though it was a love marraige we had lot of financial and society problems bec of our marriage my parents my people supported me and finally after 5 yrs of maraige my hubby settled well in life but he changed drastically degrading me then out of frustation and loloneliness i got into an affair 3 yrs back and my hubby knew it but kept quiet and later 2 yrs back when suddenly he came to know openly he started abusing threstening degrading like a dog he has become sadist and even insoceiety he behave very arroagantly and very proudy i begged for his forgiveness and i promised never to commit mistake again he allowed me to stay in his house for childrens sake but from that day 2 yrs back he never looks at me neither talks to me but he always finds fault with my doings he insults me and my family and he beats me when angry he used to beat from beginn but i want his back pl help to live love
2006-09-25 10:27:59 · 12 answers · asked by micky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
pl friends to regain the love in my marriage we live in same roof but no relation i bore evry insult i cant leave my children and hubby it was only which i wanted from myhubby but he never understood me he had just a relation with me through which i had children tell me friends when i gave love to my hubby he never cared but when i had an affair and made mistake now he takes evry revenge he has made me mad made me commit suicide manytimes and now when i have become little bold he insults me hits me does not give a penny treates me like a slave but still with hope of love i stay and bear but nowadays i am feeling depressed i cant go for counselling so pl help i want the society to help or else pl tell me how to save myself cleverly from my hubbys torture and try to tame this saddist orelse i will kill myself oneday leaving my parents and my children to crey ofcourse my hubby will be happy is silence a weapon to kill a sadist or to gain peace and happiness pl help
2006-09-25 10:39:20 · update #1
i am not in us iam in uae i want a psyco doctor to help me and why cant a man fogive when he expects his wife to do the same i was a devoted wife who gave evrything to him till 9 yrs of marraige when i was behind him for love he said its a taboo for a woman to ask i helped him to gain job money now he is quite well off and even now i do evrything for hi sake only still he tortures me even for a small thing till last year he talked of divorce but now he aks to live for children but he alwys says i should suffer till death he dosent allow me even to talk he just does what he wants and he always ptrays himself to be a good person infront of children he dosent alow any friends or parties nether we go but he enjoys himself in his office he talks of chastity when he dosent know the meaning of love and companionship i want some men to answer this cant a man fogive dosent he have aheart
2006-09-25 10:52:03 · update #2
from last 2 yrs we live apart in same house my hubbys is not getting anything out of this i am a hindu who beleives in god i am simply mad about remedies and karma
i have accepted my fault boldy i never hid anything from my hubby dont anybody get a chance or forgiveness after accpeting our wrong i lost LL REPUTATION FOR THE SAKE OF LOVE i have to live for children bec i know no stepmother will lookafter my children i asked my hubby to remarry and give me the children but he has no answer my hubby just goes to work enjoys in office he just gets food pays for childrens education he dosent see my face nor talk to me but i cook clean and do all his works at home he still takes help from my parents but he harrass me by words and deeds i just want him to talk so that the days pass how can we carry this without minimumm communication i have seen him telling about me to his friends but he just gets a nod and no help from his friends i keep telling him but no answer pl tell whts his mind is
2006-09-25 18:49:30 · update #3
He beats you and you want him back? There may be a difference in culture here, but I can't for the life of me understand why you would stick with a man who beats you. Are you living in the United States? (If not, you really shouldn't be asking this question here...there are little icons below which allow you to post questions in your country). If so, then get a lawyer to protect your interests and leave him!
2006-09-25 10:32:14 · answer #1 · answered by Cyndie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st,i can forgive and forget but i can't be with a woman thats been unfaithful for any reason what so ever and i expect the same from who ever i,m with,2nd you get what you desireve but your hubby has gone way to far with the abuse,if your getting abused in any way you should think about you mental and fisical well being,don't wait for tragity to strike,remember that love is the most unrational and extreme emotion we have and some times because of love you do things that are only going to hurt you and the ones around you,as far as you hubby you cant help someone that dosent want help,if there was a chance you would have seen it by now,i understand your also doing it for famliy sake but kids arent stupid,they see whats going on and it effects them more than the adults so start thinking about the kids and your own happiness and i dont mean turning in to some psyco or a legle war because your going to hurt your kids the best thing to do is sit down as adults and talk about the divorce or seperation and how it should be handled for the benifit of the children and if he's to bull headed to talk as an adult about the well being of his children then he's got issues he needs to take care of as for you,you should move on the world is a big place with pleanty of fish to fry so dont mope about the one that got away and go catch a bigger and better fish but remember that you need to heal and trust me you do need time(6-18months) to heal the biggest mistake is to get in annother relationship to soon,your mind is goinng to play with you so be very careful and no sex because your emotional state you'll instintly fall in infachuation witch you will mistake for love and end up hurting someone else and besides who nows mabe after time appart, liveing seprate he'll come around,a man needs breathing room and it isnt down the street and it is,nt in a few weeks it takes a while but prepare your self for the worst case senario and never say die.i senserly feel for you and best of luck to you and your family,god bless...
2006-09-25 13:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by Berhane Selassie I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you live in America? Or in India? If India, I'm afraid I don't know what to say, but if you live in America, you can get help. You should leave him, seek help from a woman's shelter. If he's beating you and treating you like this, there's no way this marriage will ever work out. You should get out of it before he degrades you even further.
I'm so sorry. I wish you all the best.
2006-09-25 10:30:43 · answer #3 · answered by dualspace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get another companion--get out of this disastrous marriage. It looks like your marriage is over a long time ago.
You can get help from abused and battered women's centers, but you have to be willing to make a complaint. As long as you are confused about loving this abuser, you will suffer. There is an organization in US called Apna Ghar for Indian women. Look it up.
2006-09-25 10:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by paanbahar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's your side, what does he have to say, as for me, I let my lying cheating, manipulating wife back 3 times, yeah I'm a smuck, as far as adultery, goes, once you taste the honey, you can never come back, its called trust, if he was a pig, you should have seperated, if you were just bored, well, live with it, you sowed the crop, enjoy the reward
2006-09-25 10:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by John H B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When a woman leaves a Man to have an affair and he doesn't want you anymore..your cooked.
2006-09-25 10:33:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i really want to answer you honestly but with so many people reading this it is not possible
since you are not in the US, I know you can get an old lady to brew you some nice tea to get your husband to stop degrading you
you should ask your mother or grand mother what you should do
and explain to them how he has been treating you
they will help you
Good luck
2006-09-25 11:23:01 · answer #7 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-03-18 01:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You made the mistake of cheating on your husband.
2. Even though you are the one that cheated, that does not give him the right to BEAT you.
3. Get help, see a counselor.
2006-09-25 10:33:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You said you belive in Karma .
I pray for you and want to let you know that things will change.
If thats what destiny has written for you.
I know its really painful and......
Take care.
2006-10-03 08:14:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋