my friend is 13 and has 2 month old twins......?

Question

ok i have a 13 year old friend she had twin boys july 3 now that she came back too skool everybody hates her and calls her ho im her best friend we r always together n i dont care wat people say...........wat do u guys think of her

Answer 1

Hmmm. I personally think you should stick to her no matter what ppl say! Also, i think she is not a ho. She made a mistake... Everyone makes mistakes. Her mistake was a big one. Not waiting until she was older to have sex. or just not having safe sex w/e.I think this should serve you as an example of what could happen if you had sex with out using a candom or w/e... So umm.. All I can say is that you need to support her. Cause she probably needs you more than ever right now. && Trust me. Im a 14 yr-old who went through almost the same situation you are going thru now. Btw I think she made a brave decision keeping the twins and not putting them up for adoption. and if you have time to go over her house and help her with the babies. Im sure she would very much apreciate that && she will know who her real friends are

=) Gretter

Answer 2

It was hard enuf for be to be 16 with one child and now that I am 23 with a 2 month old and a 7 year old it is still hard but I can't emagin what it would be like to have twins at 13. I would say just keep being there for her. There is nothing you can do to change what people say or think. She needs you as a friend now more then ever Also see if there is a support group for young mothers in your area. I do give her cudos for still going to school. That takes a lot. She seems to be a very strong person

Answer 3

Twins are wonderful and I wish the best for your friend. Stick by her because life will be hard for her being a mother of twins at 13. The last thing she should worry about (although it must be difficult for her) is the name calling. It is because the other kids doing the name calling are probably at that age too. I'm sure that their parents have said things about her as well which doesn't help at all. She will have many difficulties greater than that one but tell her to not get discouraged. Things will work out and she needs all the emotional support she can get from her family and especially friends like you.

Answer 4

I think that your friend made an extremely responsible and courageous decision to have the babies rather than have them aborted. Did she make a mistake in getting pregnant at 13? Sure! But, sooner or later we all make mistakes of one sort or another. I think you are brave to stand by your friend. I know that you have both seen the consequences of premarital sex and I hope that you are careful to protect yourselves. (I don't mean to assume whether you are sexually active or not, but sometimes if your friends are doing something it makes it more likely that you will, too.) Your friend has a long, hard road ahead of her. She will need lots of love and support - talk to your school counselor or church pastor to try to help your friend identify other means of support if this is something that she doesn't have already. Girls this age are very hard on each other - just don't listen to the bad things that they are saying. The only person you can control is yourself; don't let them get you down. Good luck!

Answer 5

I think she must have a wonderful family to help her raise two babies at the age of 13~ It's very hard to raise one as a teenager, much less two and at that age! I don't think she is a ho, but I think she is (by force) now considered a Mom which must make her responsible and such. Keep being her friend...something else will happen in a few weeks and those other kids will focus their attention on that subject of the week.

Answer 6

I personally respect her choice to keep the twins...yet I also disagree w/ her, due to all the health risks in such a young girl having a baby, let alone twins. she could have died during the birth, and it has great emotional risk on her as well. if she is your real friend, you will stick by her in this tough time in her life. take a stand when you hear ppl dissing her! speak up! if she still has the twins, (meaning she didnt give them up for adoption) help her out when over you go over. change a diaper. it doesn't sound like much, but she and her parents could really use the help.
good luck.

Answer 7

Who cares what we think of her? Stop worrying about other people's opinions and go with your gut feeling. We all must learn that our self worth is not dictated by others. It is between God and that person. Just because she made a mistake (a big one) just says she is not perfect. No one is! Let he who is with out sin throw the first stone. You are a nice friend to support her.

Answer 8

i got pregnant when i was 13. im 14 now and i have a 3 month old baby. i dont think shes a bad person. i wish i had waited to have sex but i wouldnt change what happened. those people shouldnt think any less of her. shes working her @$$ off to take care of twins. i dont no how shes doing it. im stuggling with one. honestly im sure shes a great person. the fact that she had sex shouldnt change anyone opinion of her. i say screw them all

Answer 9

I dont think she is a hoe, I mean dont get me wrong I dont find it right that a 13 year old has a kid but that doesnt matter she does, and I hope she has all the support she needs, and you need to be there for her as well..

Answer 10

This shows how kids don't practice safe sex (fo shame) but in most schools they give a robo baby to take care of so you know how hard it is.

But I think you should stay friends with her because (mostlikley) the father won't be around to help so she really needs support. I don't think she is a hoe I just think she made a bad life choice.