Do you believe that there are some women who shouldn't date men that have a child? All of the men I've ever dated have had at least one child. Needless to say the relationships failed. There seems not to be many men who can handle being a father, husband, and baby's daddy successfully. Are there any women out there who would absolutely NOT date a guy with children? Talk to me.
2006-09-25 10:01:52 · 11 answers · asked by cupcake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are dating the wrong guys.
2006-09-25 10:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a boyfriend that right now has a child, the child is not really the problem but the ex gf is. She manipulates this guy that is not even funny to the point where I just had it. I love kids and I wished that I had developed a relationship with his kid, cuz as of today I think of ending my relationship because of his kid. Needless to say next time I date I wont date a man with kids.
2006-09-25 10:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am married to a man who has one son. Its working out great! We met when his son was 14, he is now 18. I have no problems with his son. Its not always easy - you have to establish a relationship with the kid(s) if you are going to be part of his/her/their life. I never let a kid frighten me away from having a relationship. My husband puts me #1 as it should be. When my stepson was under 18, I always stepped back and allowed my husband and my stepsons mom work things out concerning the kid - while we were dating. When we married, I spoke my opinion if a situation came up concerning his son. But we are both rational people and my husband takes my opinions seriously. Everyone is different so this isn't an easy answer. Matter of fact, in my 1st marriage, I had a better relationship with my stepdaughter than I did with her father! LOL! My advise is, if you find someone you really like, don't let kids get in the way of you two being happy. You never know, you might just LOVE his kids, and they might love you! And that is well worth it.
2006-09-25 13:33:53 · answer #3 · answered by artyspiff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isnt that men cant handle it, it is blended families do not work, one or the other spouse or partner have their own idea on how a child is to be raised, and with a man and kids,, you have the childs mother who will always step in and say something esp if you do something to the kids,,
you dont say why the relationship failed, because you want to have children or what???
2006-09-25 10:07:21 · answer #4 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea i never thought about this before, all my past b/fs were the dads that arent close to their kids and things were never an issue.
Now i have an older b/f and he has two kids and been goin through a divorce for like almost 3 yrs now. The kids are 10 and 7 but he has never let me meet them (been 2gether 4 a yr now) and he says they hate the moms b/f and he is scared that they will hate me too. That of course made me scared to meet them even though I am still cool being into hair and makeup and girly things like they like. So he has his kids for the weekends and he refuses to call me or see me when he has them. We used 2 bicker over it, but I just have to understand for now.
2006-09-25 10:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no problem dating a man with children. It depends on the man himself. Some cant handle it but it doesnt mean that they all are totally unable to be in a wonderful relationship.
2006-09-25 10:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know women that date men that have children try and take over his children, and the mother gets pissed off. The relationship fails.
2006-09-25 10:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im a very dedicated father and i have dated women without kids and i must say they get very jealous and sometimes try to make you choose. Atleast thats what i have experienced. By the way they always loose.
2006-09-25 10:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by patrick b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I didn't have children, (I do but IF I didn't) i would not date men with kids. No baby mama drama for me. That's a HUGE red flag I think.
2006-09-25 10:38:07 · answer #9 · answered by jenlovely01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a man but maybe i can help. i try to tell my girls in advance that i am thinking of dating someone new. you would be surprised at how open children can be if they see that their dad in my case just wants to be happy. because this is what they want too.
2006-09-25 10:10:20 · answer #10 · answered by fasteddie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋