partners back but hate the other person for doing it. It takes 2 to tango, why do you stay?? Some women are desperate I guess
2006-09-25 09:57:59 · 21 answers · asked by Raineybaby 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To the women who stay with cheaters but hate the person they cheated with........
2006-09-25 10:00:08 · update #1
maybe they really love the person that they are with and think it will stop but dont like the person they cheated with because they are threatened by them and feel that the temptation is still there.
2006-09-25 09:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by sea_sher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why?? well some people who don't have a low selfesteem like some people think they have a very rear and forgiving heart and know that they themselves have done wrong and have no right to judge. they know the anger toward the other is wrong but its a normal human act, it has nothing to do with desperation or loss. it is not being a loser or wrong. it is a different kind of love that well is deeper than most now a days has no concept of. Also there are men who are this way too not to many though.
2006-09-25 11:23:02 · answer #2 · answered by susan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took my husband back not because I am desprate, but because I love him. When a person betray you, you don't just fall out of love. If that was so, no one would even be on this site. They forgive the woman in due time. and in my situation, the woman was my cousin, and she pursued him and blackmaled him once it happened because she "thought" they were in love. When she was confronted, she was a real b*tch about the situation, and still tried to keep it going. She said she didnt' do anything wrong and that he will leave me for her. We have 3 kids. I forgave her so that I can move on, but far as dealing with her....NEVER. It's not what you say, it's how you say it. And my husband is not off the hook. He is still going thru h*ll and back with me. He is really REALLY proving his love, and it aint no easy road for him.
2006-09-25 10:13:56 · answer #3 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think for most its a sense of insecurity. they feel they cant make it without the other. or some feel its their fault weather it is or not. that their spouse cheated and your right it does take two to tango as you put it. but i think if they take their anger out on the other person then that is how they can live with themselves. doesn't make it right nor do i agree with it just how it happens, MAINLY JUST SCARED OF BEING ALONE OR THINKING THAT CANT LIVE WITHOUT THAT PERSON
2006-09-25 10:03:30 · answer #4 · answered by andrea c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love... Sometimes things aren't what they appear to be. I am working on a situation where this woman pretended to be my friend to be near my husband, and set up the stage for me to believe he was having an affair with her. I fell for it, And now I have to regain my trust for him etc.... All because of this #itch. So, actually it didn't take two. The only reason I can come up with, is she wanted my life. Maybe because she was so unhappy with hers.
2006-09-25 14:04:26 · answer #5 · answered by sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say some of them is not desperation but for the love of their child. I also do not understand why they hate the other woman because the other woman did not break the vow.
2006-09-25 10:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by Errolyn27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally speaking (there are always exceptions) I think women tend to become more emotionally involved in a relationship than do men.We are more committed and want it to work. When we find our partners are "broken" we try to "fix" them. We expect that they will learn from their mistake, mature, and become responsible mates. That seldom happens and women are slow to accept the truth.
The short answer and only my theory. Physically and verbally abusive relationships do not fit into this theory.
2006-09-25 10:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by lollipop 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a guy that used to leave me every week-end for another girl and never the same one twice!! He did that for 5 years I ended it with him and we broke up for 4 years we have been back together for 2 years and hes never left since
2006-09-25 10:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know. It is stupid to take a cheater back. He cheated too regardless of how she tried to seduce him.
2006-09-25 10:03:12 · answer #9 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they wantto believe that it is the other person's fault so they can keep the picture they have of their spouse.
2006-09-25 10:02:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋