hi all my b/friend has had sex with someone else and admitted it to me although over amonth later only because he had to have tests for std's then asked my friend if he could feel her breasts in front of me and has been on sex chat lines and esorts sites which i have to admit i did have a nose about although he says he was drunk when he he did it all and found out he says he loves me but look i am at a loss with this i have stuck by him but am i banging my head against a vbrick wall or what the question is should i leave? i am sooooo stuck
2006-09-25 09:53:32 · 26 answers · asked by Janey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I read your other question as well, about you not feeling like yourself. I'm a firm believer that it's important not to compromise yourself. I don't know if you've heard this quote before but 'If you really do put a lesser value on yourself, don't expect the world to raise it's price on you". You're better then what he's willing to give you and words should be supported by actions and backed by care, and he's not showing that. Ask yourself, 'what do I want?'. He'll continue to take advantage of you if you continue to let him.
2006-09-25 09:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by R.T.D. 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get out of this relationship fast before he passes something nasty on to you. If he is having unprotected sex with others (he must be if he had to have a test) then he could easily pick up aids and pass it on to you. This is life threatening. If he loved you as he says he does then he would not put you at that risk - no way. If he is on sex chat lines and escort sites then, sorry, he is really messing you around and he doesn't deserve you. Get rid of this loser NOW before you are hurt in more ways than one. Good luck and find someone who will respect and love you (he doesn't)
2006-09-25 17:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're never stuck. The moment you think you are stuck you'll be very unhappy. You always have the choice to stay or go.
So, here we go. Are you okay with what he did? Probably not. Now you choose what you want to do with that. Can you two always live with this, or will it come back to haunt you? If you live with it, you must get over it to have a healthy relationship. If it is always hovering around your relationship-you will probably be happier if you leave.
2006-09-25 18:52:45 · answer #3 · answered by beetrippin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it might be YOU have to leave this guy.You sound like a nice , decent young woman.You can do so much better than this guy.You deserve someone who will love and respect you.There are men out there that will not treat like this guy.Don't WASTE YEARS ON A GUY THAT WILL NOT CHANGE. CHEATERS NEVER CHANGE....NEVER. THEY JUST FIND BETTER WAYS TO HIDE IT FROM YOU... you will never be able to trust this guy again.Do you really want to allways have to worry about "what he is doing"
***past behavior is the best predictor of future performance***
2006-09-25 17:15:11 · answer #4 · answered by yeah , yeah whatever 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi hun,id say leave,simple because the trust has gone now,for a man to approach your friend & ask if he can feel her breasts,to an std,etc is it worth all the hurt,well id say no,hand on your heart,can you honestly say he wont do it again,what happens if & when he goes on a night out with the lads,can you really trust him,you can find someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve,instead of thinking "what std im gonna catch",this man really isn't worth your time.
2006-09-25 17:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up.... If he can do this now and get away with it, do you honestly think he wont do it again. If you let him treat you like that you are being a doormat. Get rid of him, get a decent bloke who will treat you with the respect you deserve, leave him to his sex sites and screwing around
2006-09-25 17:40:12 · answer #6 · answered by Lulu T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Leave him!! From what you said, this is obviously a pattern behavior that will not stop unless he changes. You cannot change him--he has to decide to change on his own. It sounds like it would be best for you if you left the relationship.
2006-09-25 16:56:56 · answer #7 · answered by twelvegrains4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will not change. If you want your life to be different, leaving him is the only way. You might be sad and lonely for a while, but that will not last forever.
2006-09-25 16:56:00 · answer #8 · answered by robertspraguejr 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself are you happy!!
Ask yourself is this what you want!!
you just have to tell yourself that not as stuck as you think!!
Do what you know will make you happyer in the long run!!
Only you can answer this Question to yourself!
2006-09-25 17:02:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no your not stuck...you have no kids, no ring on your finger?? no compromise! I know its easier said than done...take your time...slowly start going out with your friends...etc. ....Hell he might give u an STD!!! eewww.... he is disgusting and yeah he might not be lying to you about his love for you! but the way he loves you is not the way you would liked to be loved, right?
2006-09-25 17:00:35 · answer #10 · answered by Prncss 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋