My best friend's mom just died, yet she believes that I'm using that event to try and get her in bed? All I have told her is that I'm sorry for what she's going through, and that I wish I could help.
Things started to deteriorate with this girl several months ago, when one of my ex-buddies got jealous of my friendship with this girl, so he started making up sh*t about me and how I was just trying to b*ng her. I guess I just don't have that believability in my words, but I know that what he's saying isn't true.
Now she has told me that this ex-buddy was saying that I never cared for her and her family and that I just wanted some p*ssy. She's not open to my explanations or counterpoints anymore and has blocked all my numbers and emails.
I know where this guy lives, and where he works. And every day, I feel like going over there, asking him to have a chat with me, and then beating the sh*t out of him. Are my thoughts justified? And if they are, should I really do it?
2006-09-25 09:39:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No, you shouldn't do anything. It's understandable that you want to go and beat the crap out of this guy, but be the bigger man here. If it's that easy to lose the friendship with that girl, you don't need it. She's really gonna see who's out for what. Maybe she'll be back.
2006-09-25 10:11:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a sympathy card. Tell her that if she just needs to talk, you're there. Add to that if after all the time you've been friends you can't believe she honestly believes those things. Then give her space, and back off. Calling and emailing her will just make things worse. Give her a few months to grieve (because she's pretty angry right now, it's a part of the process), and then see what's going on. Just leave that guy alone too. Don't waste your time on him, because confrontations like that are pointless. Getting into a huge fight with him over this girl will just make you look like you're being defensive, and make you look stupid.
2006-09-25 09:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man stands by his actions. Don't over explain things just tell her outright that you care about her and the family. Show her that you care for the family and offer to do things without expecting anything in return.
As far as the other guy goes, while it is tempting to punch the guy out, a chat should be enough. If you threaten him or touch him, you will look more guilty in her eyes.
2006-09-25 09:47:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep telling her that you are sorry for her loss if you really are. Reassures her that you aren't trying to get her in the sak, Let her know you are friends with her and nothing more. Let her know it is okay to open up to you about the way she is feeling. Tell her you didn't know your ex-friend was spreading rumors about you. Ask her how she would feel if you believed something nasty someone said about her? Than tell her that's how you feel when she believes the stuip things people say about you. Good luck
2006-09-25 09:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by mommy2faithat19#3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 23:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no do not do it. try to get through to best friend after she has time to grieve for her mother. it is odd that being your friend she would believe this ex-buudy over you and without question. i also question the ex buddies intentions. may be he wants her. but going over his house could just land you in trouble with the law... and that would not make a good impression on your female friend. this is not serious enough... to fight. once this girl has had time to think ..she should be able to sort out the truth,
2006-09-25 09:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your thoughts are justified if you really liked this girl but I would buck up an move on seeing as kicking his butt is going to get you nowhere... might make you feel better fo a few minutes but is it going to get the girl? Or will he be sitting back laughing at you because he knows how to hurt you even if you did kick his butt
2006-09-25 09:49:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can think whatever you want to think-- doesn't mean you're right or wrong, or should act on your feelings. Get a life. Move on. Let it go.
Assault and battery is NOT a very good life choice. I think you should leave them both alone and make some new, better friends.
2006-09-25 09:45:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it bothers you so much you want to turn to physical violence, could it be because he is right? Do you want more than a friendship with her? It soulds like it, and you are enraged that he is threatening that. If it bothers you that much, it's probably because you have a lot of energy or emotion invested with her.
Think about it.
2006-09-25 09:46:55 · answer #9 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would want to crack his skull too. But, if you and this girl was so close, why would she believe him over you and not want to hear your side. Sounds to me like you need to just let it go. When she gets over it, she'll call you.
2006-09-25 09:44:24 · answer #10 · answered by Golden 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋